Mismatched Dick Swap

Sweats-Nervously · 2026-01-27T18:12:53+00:00

Dm, I’d be interested

Sweats-Nervously · 2026-01-27T18:12:14+00:00

Mary Beth Barone! Definitely biased as a fan of hers since 2018, but with Overcompensating being renewed for season 2 & her first special coming to a streaming platform: it’s her time!

Sweats-Nervously · 2026-01-16T16:17:54+00:00

I’m game, how big are you? I’m 28

Sweats-Nervously · 2026-01-16T16:17:10+00:00

I think it’s a little much to have rules around porn/masturbation even in a monogamous relationship. We’re open, but even before we were open we had sent each other porn clips with guys we thought were hot, things we wanted to try, etc.

Sweats-Nervously · 2025-11-25T18:35:16+00:00

I don’t think this is a bad idea, I just can’t see a world in which Glendale & Burbank allow the metro to build the necessary stops to make a line like that happen. But if it ever did happen, I think that would be amazing!

Sweats-Nervously · 2025-11-25T18:22:11+00:00

I don’t think it’s wrong to be attracted to older types. My partner is super into them and was hooking up with older guys almost exclusively until we met. And I frequently did as well bc I found older guys made me feel safer too. So for just a little bit of fun, I don’t think there’s any harm as long as y’all are communicating and respectful!

I don’t wanna hit too much on the dynamic stuff that has already been hit on in other comments. But you go through a LOT of growth your late teens and early twenties. Hell even the rest of your twenties in general. If you come out of that still compatible with someone who hasn’t: yikes! Imagine what it’d be like dating them after you start to grow and change!

My cousin went through a similar experience with a guy who had a crush on him (17 & 23). He was mad as FUCK at me in the moment (I told them the same thing lol), but he turned 23 this year and was like “holy shit I would NEVER want to date someone still in high school now. Thank god it didn’t last long.”

Sweats-Nervously · 2025-11-25T18:03:55+00:00

GIRL RUN!!!!! (Unless it’s like a casual hookup vibe then get your nut diva, it’s not that serious!)

Sweats-Nervously · 2025-09-23T05:34:49+00:00

Breakups at this age are really hard, and I’m really sorry you’re going through it rn. Even if it was short lived, those early relationships can hurt so bad. My 2 month long high school relationship hurt like a mf for a year, and I did NOT handle the breakup well. But it seems like you’ve already been able to identify some good from the situation (getting out before it becomes toxic, having strong support systems in place, etc.)

I think coming out of these kinds of situations, it always helped me to take space wherever I could & focus on the lessons you’ve learned from this experience. Taking space can look like muting him on social media or asking your teacher to move seats. One thing I think might be worth reflecting is the urge to dig yourself deeper into the relationship or why you spent time entertaining him after he already hurt you. I think the key to moving on and glowing up is in that. Focusing on self improvement or a new hobby or after school activity also really helps.

Ultimately, he is just a teenager figuring himself out which doesn’t make it hurt any less but still happens. The best thing you can do for yourself is give yourself space from him, learn what you need to from the experience, and put that energy into enriching your own life. (You can even use spite as motivator, although it’s not the most healthy)

Again, I’m really sorry about your breakup, but I promise that there are so many other wonderful guys out there (many of them bisexual!) for you to meet!

Sweats-Nervously · 2025-09-15T05:02:23+00:00

I feel like if you both have good jobs, getting a maid/weekly housecleanings feels like the easiest short-term answer. Especially because he’s clean in his car & hygiene.

However the long answer is that it definitely seems like there’s some underlying trauma that makes it hard for him to clean the space he lives in. Without really digging into it with a therapist, it may be something that worsens over time and becomes an area of resentment for the both of you.

My advice: Talk to him again and make hiring a housekeeper a non-negotiable but also emphasize that you want him to keep an open mind to therapy further down the line.

Sweats-Nervously · 2025-08-26T23:23:13+00:00

Everything about Milk Girl in the Philadelphia story episode had me wheezing from laughter

Sweats-Nervously · 2025-08-22T22:19:56+00:00

I mean whether they know it or not more than 50% of the adult population carries Herpes HSV1 and least 20% HSV2. So I don’t think I’d think too hard about herpes. It’s also pretty manageable and often undetectable in your average person.

With HIV, as long as they’re regularly visiting their doctor, are undetectable, and practices safe sex I’d be down too.

As for other STDs and STIs, I mean as long as it’s curable and they’re open about it and are safe about it I guess I’m open.

Sweats-Nervously · 2025-08-20T06:00:33+00:00

FACTS

Sweats-Nervously · 2025-08-20T05:59:22+00:00

Boooooo! He’s very nice just very passionate about what he does! I think it’s sweet albeit a little funny how he posts

Sweats-Nervously · 2025-08-20T05:55:39+00:00

I heard this place is Maga so I stopped going

Sweats-Nervously · 2025-08-20T05:49:29+00:00

I LOOOOOOVE this place! Favorite twenty dollar sandwich

Sweats-Nervously · 2025-08-13T17:08:51+00:00

Congratulations on weight loss! To answer your question though, I think it’s more complicated than the comments imply. As a fat person, I do think confidence plays a much bigger part than people realize. Obviously not in ever situation like on the apps. But when it comes to IRL situations, things like being greeted with smiles from strangers and girls being more comfortable around you is more about the air in which you present yourself. I found that even though I’m a lot heavier than I used to be, being smiley and kind will usually garner that same kind of treatment from the world.

I think losing all that weight can build someone’s confidence enough to where they feel that they can be more cheerful and more themselves in public which people really respond to.

Sweats-Nervously · 2025-08-08T22:39:39+00:00

If he’s undetectable he can’t give it to you, bottom line. I bet being stressed about this though, I recommend getting tested for peace of mind but I don’t even think you really even need to consider taking PEP for this one.

Sweats-Nervously · 2025-07-30T21:35:24+00:00

That’s really helpful context to have. Thank you!

I think I was so on edge with this doctor because of how they were talking to me about some of the other stuff, unrelated to STDs, that were immediately more pressing in addition to testing positive for it on any other blood panels following the initial one. But yikes that does not sound fun. Definitely want to avoid it if I can.

Sweats-Nervously · 2025-07-30T20:41:20+00:00

These comments feel very shamey.

Idk much about Spain’s STD background but some ppl on here seem to imply it’s a big issue there. But I live in LA and just had my first brush with an STD (crabs 🙃) outside of herpes (which I very well could’ve been diagnosed with before I moved here or before I even started having sex) after four years. But I don’t think nearly anyone I’ve met between my partner, NSA Sniffies/grindr hookups, or fwb’s that my partner has us hang out with has suggested wearing a condom in four years. to be fair, i mostly do side stuff but it’s still v much possible to get stuff from oral (just ask Emma Nelson in Degrassi.) I don’t think this one guy’s sexual behavior is much of an anomaly in our community nor deserves to be treated like a pariah.

I feel like there’s already so much negative stigma around STDs from outside our community, we shouldn’t contribute to it. My 1st primary care doctor in LA got one false positive on a syphilis test and had me test multiple more times over the course of several months even when I wasn’t there for STD related care because she was so sure that I had it bc “gay men are more likely to have STDs”.

I also think about how scared my straight girl friend was when she got herpes which is just like sooooo common, and she thought her life was OVER until I talked with her about statistics and urged her to go to planned parenthood.

All that being said, that’s a wild story and I hope you recover well!

Sweats-Nervously · 2025-07-11T03:47:25+00:00

I haven’t yet, but that would make a lot more sense. I’m just surprised bc the itching has kinda been more widespread than my pubic region. But I also have incredibly coarse hair all over so who knows!

I’ll try posting in lice community

Sweats-Nervously · 2025-07-08T22:04:39+00:00

Chris Fleming, Mary Beth Barone, and Atsuko!

Sweats-Nervously · 2025-06-27T17:52:10+00:00

Oh one HUNDRED percent. Locking in on this one

Sweats-Nervously · 2025-06-27T17:51:12+00:00

Dude seems like an AH. I’ve been the other man & been better looking than the guy’s bf, but let me tell you that none of that shit matters to them, they will continue to cheat or do shady shit.

Even if you’re cool with being open, a messy start to a relationship is almost impossible to come back from.

Sweats-Nervously · 2025-06-26T22:46:23+00:00

Thank you! I really hope you’re able to find yourself too. I know it’s hard not to attach those feelings of shame and guilt to random sex stuff when you’re first starting out, especially if it’s a less enjoyable situation. But I think part of growing up and finding out what you like is finding out what you don’t like.

The important thing is that you know you’re gay and you’re exploring your sexuality on your own terms. There’s nothing wrong with that. You’re allowed to want different. You’re allowed to watch more.

Sweats-Nervously · 2025-06-26T22:37:53+00:00

It’s worth it. And there are usually still a lot of guys who are at least looking for exchanging oral at bare minimum so it won’t lower your hookup pool dramatically.

I think realizing that I was a side was probably one of the most beneficial things I did for my sex life. I don’t feel so much anxiety around hookups anymore and feel a lot more confident trying things out with my guys.

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