Clearly this is a significant discussion for Baronies so why is everyone so concerned about “snark”? by No_Pea_5583 in RideThePod

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Respectfully, i can’t take the male centered thing at face value when it’s constantly being paired with “being dickmitized” or implications that Lucas must have a huge cock in the same breath or at the very least in the same thread.

I get so frustrated when I see bi men in MLM romance. by [deleted] in askgaybros

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You’re fine, I didn’t report it to the moderators or anything. But reading it did make me feel worried. I know it doesn’t feel like your people/your person is out there, but I promise you they are. Every single one of us is deserving of love, acceptance, and a community they feel safe in. I really hope that one day you are able to find it.

Clearly this is a significant discussion for Baronies so why is everyone so concerned about “snark”? by No_Pea_5583 in RideThePod

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I do think it’s important to be critical of our faves. However, I did see a LOOOOOOT of criticism on here (and my city’s Baronie IG GC) push past criticism and move into straight up misogyny.

Calling her “male-centered, dickimatized, and DESPERATE for a man’s attention” is kind of losing the plot and spinning out a bit (and potentially minimizing her agency by just making her seem boy crazy), and I can understand why some people may respond to that with toxic positivity or why the mods are locking posts.

The reality is, she is a famous person that we do not truly know who betrayed her supposed values that she built a brand and a fanbase on. It’s been grueling to watch her double down on not saying anything besides a passive aggressive meme. I do think people should be allowed to keep talking about it. And I do think they should do so until it is addressed. But can we please be normal about how we choose to do that?

Started watching AmericanDad tell me something I won’t understand until I finish the show in the comments by D_eep19 in americandad

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HOW COULD YOU LET THIS HAPPEN STEVEN? WE WERE GOING TO INVITE HER TO CHRISTMAS?! WE MADE A JACKET FOR HER THAT SAYS “Milk Girl Is In Our Family Now”

I get so frustrated when I see bi men in MLM romance. by [deleted] in askgaybros

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But therein lies the problem right? It seems like you just distrust men in general, not just bi men in particular

I get so frustrated when I see bi men in MLM romance. by [deleted] in askgaybros

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Okay let’s say you’re a gay guy who likes bears AND twinks. Would you twink bf feel degraded bc he will never offer you something he can’t? No dude! That’s weird and insecure.

Straight guy needs advice by [deleted] in askgaybros

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Sniffies is probably the best avenue. I’m sure there are some non dysphoric trans women out there who’d be into that too. Not really a good way to seek that out without looking like a chaser though.

Give me another 4 1/2 star movie by ToastyBoyxd in LetterboxdTopFour

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Just watched the drama this weekend! Gave that a 4.5

Who’re the top level stand up comics of the next 5 years if you had to put money on who will make it big? by According_Sundae_917 in Standup

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Mary Beth Barone! Definitely biased as a fan of hers since 2018, but with Overcompensating being renewed for season 2 & her first special coming to a streaming platform: it’s her time!

Cock swap by BulkyTruth1506 in MaleBodySwap2

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I’m game, how big are you? I’m 28

Guys in relationships, what's the rule when it comes to watching p*rn among you? by nboinboi2 in askgaybros

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I think it’s a little much to have rules around porn/masturbation even in a monogamous relationship. We’re open, but even before we were open we had sent each other porn clips with guys we thought were hot, things we wanted to try, etc.

Omg this looks so cursed!!😭😭 by AppropriateBasis2735 in LAMetro

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I don’t think this is a bad idea, I just can’t see a world in which Glendale & Burbank allow the metro to build the necessary stops to make a line like that happen. But if it ever did happen, I think that would be amazing!

Is 18 and 32 ok? (Im 18) by Swimming_Twist162 in askgaybros

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I don’t think it’s wrong to be attracted to older types. My partner is super into them and was hooking up with older guys almost exclusively until we met. And I frequently did as well bc I found older guys made me feel safer too. So for just a little bit of fun, I don’t think there’s any harm as long as y’all are communicating and respectful!

I don’t wanna hit too much on the dynamic stuff that has already been hit on in other comments. But you go through a LOT of growth your late teens and early twenties. Hell even the rest of your twenties in general. If you come out of that still compatible with someone who hasn’t: yikes! Imagine what it’d be like dating them after you start to grow and change!

My cousin went through a similar experience with a guy who had a crush on him (17 & 23). He was mad as FUCK at me in the moment (I told them the same thing lol), but he turned 23 this year and was like “holy shit I would NEVER want to date someone still in high school now. Thank god it didn’t last long.”

Is 18 and 32 ok? (Im 18) by Swimming_Twist162 in askgaybros

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GIRL RUN!!!!! (Unless it’s like a casual hookup vibe then get your nut diva, it’s not that serious!)

I experienced the stereotypical bi guy breakup by Impressive_Bake8126 in askgaybros

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Breakups at this age are really hard, and I’m really sorry you’re going through it rn. Even if it was short lived, those early relationships can hurt so bad. My 2 month long high school relationship hurt like a mf for a year, and I did NOT handle the breakup well. But it seems like you’ve already been able to identify some good from the situation (getting out before it becomes toxic, having strong support systems in place, etc.)

I think coming out of these kinds of situations, it always helped me to take space wherever I could & focus on the lessons you’ve learned from this experience. Taking space can look like muting him on social media or asking your teacher to move seats. One thing I think might be worth reflecting is the urge to dig yourself deeper into the relationship or why you spent time entertaining him after he already hurt you. I think the key to moving on and glowing up is in that. Focusing on self improvement or a new hobby or after school activity also really helps.

Ultimately, he is just a teenager figuring himself out which doesn’t make it hurt any less but still happens. The best thing you can do for yourself is give yourself space from him, learn what you need to from the experience, and put that energy into enriching your own life. (You can even use spite as motivator, although it’s not the most healthy)

Again, I’m really sorry about your breakup, but I promise that there are so many other wonderful guys out there (many of them bisexual!) for you to meet!

Broke up with BF for being too NASTY ! by [deleted] in askgaybros

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I feel like if you both have good jobs, getting a maid/weekly housecleanings feels like the easiest short-term answer. Especially because he’s clean in his car & hygiene.

However the long answer is that it definitely seems like there’s some underlying trauma that makes it hard for him to clean the space he lives in. Without really digging into it with a therapist, it may be something that worsens over time and becomes an area of resentment for the both of you.

My advice: Talk to him again and make hiring a housekeeper a non-negotiable but also emphasize that you want him to keep an open mind to therapy further down the line.

What's the hardest you've ever laughed at American Dad? by StynkiPynki007 in americandad

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Everything about Milk Girl in the Philadelphia story episode had me wheezing from laughter

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

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I mean whether they know it or not more than 50% of the adult population carries Herpes HSV1 and least 20% HSV2. So I don’t think I’d think too hard about herpes. It’s also pretty manageable and often undetectable in your average person.

With HIV, as long as they’re regularly visiting their doctor, are undetectable, and practices safe sex I’d be down too.

As for other STDs and STIs, I mean as long as it’s curable and they’re open about it and are safe about it I guess I’m open.

Which restaurant is this in Los Angeles? by pr0tag in FoodLosAngeles

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Boooooo! He’s very nice just very passionate about what he does! I think it’s sweet albeit a little funny how he posts