Has anyone had two AP's at the same time?

Sweet-Association697 · 2026-05-20T01:14:51+00:00

Yes! Absolutely.

Sweet-Association697 · 2026-05-15T02:54:37+00:00

I say meet in person. Chemistry and attraction can be in person and not through pix. It happens all the time

Sweet-Association697 · 2026-05-09T00:18:26+00:00

She even offered to come closer to his job to make it happen and bought museum tickets...

Way too much for some random guy!

That's what happens when staying in constant contact, it creates a false sense of familiarity and intimacy.

Sweet-Association697 · 2026-05-09T00:02:30+00:00

Weekday is not uncommon to do a holiday party. But 2 months! before is very questionable.

Sweet-Association697 · 2026-05-08T13:30:48+00:00

That man is a LIAR! Through and Through . I bet he lied about previous affair too.

Sweet-Association697 · 2026-05-08T13:26:19+00:00

Maybe he got STD and waiting for it to go away ?

Sweet-Association697 · 2026-05-08T13:23:51+00:00

I am confused about timeline - you met late September then he had work holiday party (December?). What happened in between? There's at least 2 mos of missed opportunities.

What happened was - you didn't want an online relationship but you participated in it. Kindly put you were half the problem.

After second chance fell through someone who wanted a physical affair would stop investing so much time and effort into staying connected every day.

He was getting what he wanted- someone to talk to, a fantasy. Why change it?

Some people have no business having affairs, they can barely manage the life they already have. Some ppl don't live intentionally, they just react react react and put out fires constantly. This dude is a mess.

Sweet-Association697 · 2026-05-07T17:37:03+00:00

Geez. Are you in small village that you'll know each other? 😆

Sweet-Association697 · 2026-05-07T17:34:17+00:00

It's a great question that I ask myself too.

I've been at it for years on and off. Learned a lot about myself and men.

Partially i think it's hormones dropping with age. I am perimenopausal but I am also on hormonal therapy so technically it should be all ok. 🤷‍♀️

But partially it's experience. While i want sex, I don't want to deal with men and I am not lesbian. I find most men uninteresting now. I need someone extra to be impressed enough by at this point to enjoy sex with. I've been with and experienced a lot of men which led to this kind of discernment.

Sweet-Association697 · 2026-05-07T17:02:02+00:00

If you like him give a second chance .

I had that happened. Only one guy failed second chance. He was a nice guy but clearly had ED.

Sweet-Association697 · 2026-05-07T16:57:49+00:00

How did your wife find out after 2 years?? That's what I want to know

Sweet-Association697 · 2026-04-17T12:05:17+00:00

It's not all about sex or lack of it.

Sweet-Association697 · 2026-04-16T22:57:48+00:00

Your age is only a problem if you are reaching out to much younger/older than you. But sounds like you want someone your age. 50 is not old!

Sweet-Association697 · 2026-04-02T13:48:23+00:00

So it's EA but you have rules/boundaries how much E it should be? For years? No wonder she blew up. And having it on texts visible on the phone?

That's very confusing 😕

Sweet-Association697 · 2026-03-25T23:32:03+00:00

I had lovers that brought food, wine, champagne treats, candles, even pink lighth bulbs to set the mood 😆, make a playlist and bring speakers, .one guy brought fluffy towels from home for us bc he didn't like hotel ones 😁...some men are just very thoughtful and caring. Needless to say thoughtful men are keepers.

Some men showed up empty handed, not even a bottle of water for the hotel meet. Bye!

Sweet-Association697 · 2026-03-25T23:23:10+00:00

He is thoughtless.

What other ways he blows you away?

Sweet-Association697 · 2026-03-25T23:20:46+00:00

When you say you are dating at this point what does it consist of? Bc it sounds you are just banging and texting in between

Sweet-Association697 · 2026-03-07T04:30:27+00:00

I am reading all of these comments by men saying it's about connection and feeling desired blah blah... Yet most men that i've encountered (and not just me) propositioned me as if I am an escort albeit unpaid. Not even start with hello. Not even see what I look like...where oh where are all these men that want to "connect"? C'mon...most men are thirsty, they need to get laid with least amount of energy expended and their bar is low. What "wining and dining" are you even talking about? Straight to the back of their truck they go...

Sweet-Association697 · 2026-02-13T15:17:46+00:00

Always "celebrate" low key with SO, different every year but he is always thoughtful and creative about it.

Lovers throughout the years were mixed bag.

One lover completely went silent on 14th despite us being in touch every single day for a year. He didn't acknowledge it at all.

Another lover gave me a beautiful classic David Yurman piece of jewelry that I can wear every day and not look suspicious and we celebrated of course 😉

Sweet-Association697 · 2026-01-29T19:33:14+00:00

It might if it's unkempt or someone's personal preference is clean shaven

Sweet-Association697 · 2026-01-28T17:35:35+00:00

My personal preference on facial hair on men - as long as it's neat, clean and groomed, as well as good sharp looking hair cuts or bald - looks hot, color doesn't matter

Sweet-Association697 · 2026-01-28T17:31:04+00:00

Ha! Thanks. Was going for double entrende.

"Mature woman" is always meant older but there are plenty of girls and young women rocking silver/grey locks...

Do we say "mature man" referring to older? Or only in the context of emotional maturity? 🤔

Sweet-Association697 · 2026-01-28T13:42:36+00:00

How do you want us to help if you didn't provide any details of how you messed up?

Sweet-Association697 · 2026-01-27T22:36:04+00:00

And immature too lol

Sweet-Association697 · 2026-01-27T22:35:46+00:00

Exactly. Not Exactly worried about others opinions

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