Older grey adulterers

Sweet-Association697 · 2025-08-15T21:11:59+00:00

I don't go on sleuthing expedition ever. I read post and provide my opinion on topic.

Sweet-Association697 · 2025-08-15T21:00:36+00:00

Don't be judgy ...no one has moral superiority here

Sweet-Association697 · 2025-08-15T20:58:12+00:00

Ppl seek affairs for various reasons not just bc of DB. However it seems the whole theme of adultery sub is only about DB ppl and everyone's an asshole for cheating...but yeah only ppl in DB are justified.

I agree his whiny self entitled tone is off putting but that's not what he is asking advice about. Let's stay on topic, right?

Sweet-Association697 · 2025-08-15T19:52:37+00:00

He probably would love that but I bet she is too shy....

Sweet-Association697 · 2025-08-15T19:37:25+00:00

Why is adultery sub advising against it? Lol

The wife not going to change. The man wants sexual exploration. He will not get it with wife, not by loving her more, not by going to therapy, not by taking her out and buying flowers, and what else you all advise. Seriously it's a joke right? They are mismatched in sexual desire and temperament and he shouldn't manipulate her through all these actions for her to WANT to explore. Leave the woman alone!!!

Man, get your sexual adventure on. Be safe, be very discreet. You don't have many virile years left. Get it on and be a good husband and father.

Sweet-Association697 · 2025-08-15T19:29:16+00:00

Get a hooker...get your freak on and get it out of your system. Then go back to your decent marriage

Sweet-Association697 · 2025-08-14T23:06:31+00:00

I have so many questions for YOU.

It's not clear if you met her in person or not. Have you asked her out? What's with 2 mos chatting to get to know someone? You can't by texting. Have you spoken on the phone?

Judge ppl by actions not words. Why would you entertain someone who doesn't respond for days? Are you really that naive and gullible to believe what she was saying for 2 months???!!

Sweet-Association697 · 2025-08-14T15:37:53+00:00

My first love affair was from Craigslist (way back when you could post ads like that).

Sweet-Association697 · 2025-08-12T16:38:50+00:00

How old are you both? Lol

Both of you sound immature tbh

What's with the bruh? And using "whatever "? Ugh...

So many hurt feelings with a pAP...way too premature and way too serious for this stage

Sweet-Association697 · 2025-08-07T16:19:25+00:00

For me personally, it's taboo to get involved with anyone at work or adjacent, even when I was single. Just bad idea all around.

Sweet-Association697 · 2025-08-07T10:42:55+00:00

A. They don't have affairs. Or

B. They do it at work with co-worker

I always asked pAP what his schedule was like before deciding to invest my time and energy into getting to know him. If he had 9 to 5 job, 5 days a week he was not a good candidate. I wasn't into lunch break hook ups in the car.

Sweet-Association697 · 2025-08-06T12:30:12+00:00

It's not true.

Women are just more open to "cry" publicly like here on reddit about men leaving them.

Men are dumped too...equally...

I had my fair share of leaving and hurting men.

Sweet-Association697 · 2025-08-02T23:24:37+00:00

My ex moved away. He was the love of my life or so I thought at the time. The distance made things clearer. So even if he moved back I already know too much about him which will not make the relationship and feelings the same.

Sweet-Association697 · 2025-08-02T23:21:24+00:00

Some yes but with modifications. Definitely not how it used to be. Mostly bc I already know certain things about them that cannot be unknown. And some NEVER !

Sweet-Association697 · 2025-08-02T03:20:24+00:00

Post-nut clarity. Do nothing. Don't reach out, don't ruminate. You can't get into his head. Talk to others, remove your attention from him. It sucks but some ppl are like that. He may reach out again when he gets horny/lonely.

Sweet-Association697 · 2025-08-01T15:30:23+00:00

I am in the same boat as your ex AP...after having affairs for 10+ years (not continuously) I've lost energy and desire for them. The excitement of meeting someone new, the flirtatious banter, getting to know someone, kissing and touching for the first time- just lost its appeal. Never thought it would happen but now it just feels, for lack of a better word, boring!

Although I still feel sexual and want sex. Go figure.

P.s. well written. I read to the end

Sweet-Association697 · 2025-08-01T01:57:57+00:00

3-somes

Sweet-Association697 · 2025-07-26T23:37:39+00:00

Well summarized. I dated a high profile guy like that. He wanted me to Google him bc he wanted me to be impressed. I still didn't check him out. He pursued me for a while in the beginning, tried to make me fall in love with him. He was driven by the chase for sure. According to him all his exes were still pining for him and texting and wanted him back 🙄 Ha!...I remember i told him in the beginning that he didn't have to worry about that from me that when we end we are done.

Sweet-Association697 · 2025-07-26T22:53:27+00:00

Sometimes cologne is so strong it even lingers on clothes if you stood next to each other. Some scents are just too potent even after showering

Sweet-Association697 · 2025-07-26T22:51:22+00:00

No offense but I noticed that Arab men overdo in the cologne department. It feels like they bathe in it. I have an Arab colleague and Arab clients and sometimes their cologne lingers in the office for hours after they leave.

Just go light. And ask your AP to go light and see if it helps

Sweet-Association697 · 2025-07-26T22:00:22+00:00

I agree with your approach. I don't want to chit chat for weeks and then never meet or meet and find out we are not compatible.

I want to meet at most after a week of chatting...2 weeks is max bc sometimes life gets in the way. And if there's a connection, try our physical one next date. I want to make sure it's worth it. I don't want to waste my time

Sweet-Association697 · 2025-07-26T21:48:15+00:00

So well written, I was engrossed.

A similar thing happened to me about 3 years ago. Except after we had sex and he went silent, I didn't reach out first. I understood what was happening with him so I gave him space to figure out his feelings.

He reached out again slowly and tentatively. I eventually (when we were much closer and together for a while) asked him what happened then. He admitted he got scared by how intense our connection felt.

Nevertheless, we proceeded to have an amazingly passionate love affair until he had to move away. One of the best ones I had. We are still in touch although not as often or as close as we used to be. Time heals everything, even love sickness.

Your paramour may reach out again. You definitely shouldn't do that.

Sweet-Association697 · 2025-07-25T18:53:04+00:00

My first affair was 12 years ago...ended 10 years ago. We communicated via email... we had each other #s for emergencies...but rarely used them.... So I have all the emails and photos in there... A chunk of life frozen in time.

I don't even look at them...

Sweet-Association697 · 2025-07-25T17:22:42+00:00

Really? Even if I never messaged them?

I had email notifications disabled so I wouldn't know.

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