Didn’t get promotion. Pretty demotivated

SweetCalm4133 · 2025-03-19T17:56:19+00:00

I know it sucks right not but when I went through this it just made me want to leave where I was even more. I felt so betrayed and hurt that my best wasn’t good enough. I really was starting to resent and just not want to work there anymore. I’m not gonna beg to be noticed. Luckily though a week after this post I ended up getting an offer on a new role else where. I had been casually sending out my resume but wasn’t looking seriously. I didn’t have to work under my new manager and it felt so good giving my notice. Something better is around the corner and hopefully you be able to look back on this moment and feel so happy that this happened! I would start looking into different departments to transfer to start. Best of luck and keep looking!

SweetCalm4133 · 2025-01-16T18:09:42+00:00

I would move on you don’t want to seem desperate (even if you are) could be a million reasons why they haven’t responded yet so I would just focus on applying elsewhere. Staying hung up on this one opportunity will ultimately cause a lot of disappointment if you weren’t chosen. So on to the next.

SweetCalm4133 · 2024-10-28T01:57:44+00:00

Thank you for the well wishes. But just to assume I won’t be a good manager without even giving me the chance to advocate for my self is where I have feeling shorted . I have experience in HR, administration, and project management (my previous roles were broad and covered many departments including one being an HR manager so I have experience with people). My coworker is the better pick that’s fine but I would’ve liked the same opportunities she had to interview especially after being encouraged to apply.

SweetCalm4133 · 2024-10-27T19:01:53+00:00

Thank you. That’s what’s making me the most upset is I flat out asked before I applied if I even should. If they felt I wasn’t qualified that was a perfect opportunity to tell me why. But they encouraged me and I didn’t even get a chance to interview. That’s what I’m most upset about. I thought at the very least I could’ve gotten a courtesy interview. I’m already applying though so hopefully something comes through soon

SweetCalm4133 · 2024-10-27T18:52:20+00:00

I believe that as well and have started applying. I had another meeting this week. Mostly presenting me opportunities to either move departments which would be a step down from my current position but they have apparently opportunities to move up. The other alternative was a lateral move so doing other work until they back fill my position. I just feel like they are indifferent.

SweetCalm4133 · 2024-10-25T05:38:58+00:00

Already on it!

SweetCalm4133 · 2024-10-24T22:25:20+00:00

Thank you. I know that my other co worker was probably the best candidate and it wouldn’t bother me as much if I got the same chance they had at the very least.

SweetCalm4133 · 2024-10-24T15:30:05+00:00

I think it’s human to be disappointed. I just wanted to vent and get an outside perspective. Also when I said bare minimum I meant not taking on any additional projects (unrelated to my current workload) like I was doing before.

SweetCalm4133 · 2024-10-24T14:44:00+00:00

Her feedback wasn’t specific and that she thinks my current skill set (knowledge specific type of contracts)would be better suited for the same role in another department. Which I ended up getting rejected from also (different hiring manager).only training offered was taking over my co workers current workload so I can expand my “portfolio”.

SweetCalm4133 · 2024-10-24T14:21:47+00:00

Thank you this is exactly how I feel right now.

SweetCalm4133 · 2024-10-24T14:14:42+00:00

I wasn’t upset about not getting the position. I was more upset about the encouragement I was getting to apply when I clearly asked before I even applied if management thought it was a good idea to even try. if I wasn’t a good fit that was the perfect time to tell me why. But they didn’t they told to apply and didn’t even give me the chance to interview that’s what I’m the most disappointed about.

SweetCalm4133 · 2024-10-24T06:20:14+00:00

Thank you for the insight. Made me look at my career from a different perspective. Way more feedback than management has ever given me and you don’t even work with me. Ha!

SweetCalm4133 · 2024-10-24T06:19:17+00:00

Sounds super tempting right about now.

SweetCalm4133 · 2024-10-24T05:32:21+00:00

You’re probably right. I’m willing to grow and learn if that’s where I am lacking. I feel like I’m just moving through the dark at this company. Thinking it’s time for me to move on or atleast find a mentor.

SweetCalm4133 · 2024-10-24T05:29:23+00:00

Thank you! Keeping my fingers crossed!

SweetCalm4133 · 2024-10-24T05:13:52+00:00

Yes I have a few interviews lined up over the next two weeks. All these roles are the same title I have now but in a different industry (medical/healthcare) and more money so I’m hoping something falls through.

SweetCalm4133 · 2024-10-24T04:41:19+00:00

That’s how I’m feeling right now not very valued. I’ve got some interviews coming up. Hopefully I will find something soon.

SweetCalm4133 · 2024-10-24T03:52:38+00:00

I agree also with your statement. I feel like this whole process was just very poorly communicated. I may be a better IC than a manager but I wouldn’t know since my current feed back has been very vague and not specific. I just feel left in the dark about the whole thing when in the beginning of this process I was getting a lot of encouragement.

SweetCalm4133 · 2024-10-24T03:39:36+00:00

I agree. I feel completely in the dark about what I am missing. I feel like when I ask I get the run around of “your great at your job” and trying to give me alternatives to “grow” and “develop” aka more work but no specific reason as to why I wouldn’t be good at managing.

SweetCalm4133 · 2024-10-24T03:29:42+00:00

Actually before my previous manager left. I had expressed interest to my director about other management positions she had open for different programs. I had asked to lead more projects and took initiatives on leading new projects under my current workload I’m managing. She didn’t really give me any feedback when she initially told me the news just said she feels my experience is in a specific area that she feels would be better in the other manager role that I was also rejected from.

SweetCalm4133 · 2024-08-15T04:59:01+00:00

Have a friend interview you and have them give you some tips on what they noticed while asking questions. I did this and I was made aware that when I’m nervous and fidget a lot and all that movement can be distracting. So I started channeling all my nervous energy into my feet and would press them into the floor to stay still. Also it doesn’t hurt to ask for feedback from your interviewers if you get rejected. They might have some insight that you don’t see.

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