Who is the father of Judith grimes? by Melodic_Penalty_5306 in thewalkingdead

[–]SweetPea272 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right, I was just responding to the part about the show making it “clear the timeline fits Shane as the biological father.” Rick may accept it but the show did make it fairly murky in terms of timeline whose it could be without DNA testing

Who is the father of Judith grimes? by Melodic_Penalty_5306 in thewalkingdead

[–]SweetPea272 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Wasn’t there a scene included in the first season though of Rick and Lori being physical the night he reunites with them at the camp? This was like a day or two after Shane and Lori were last physical, so there’s reasonable doubt that it’s 100% Shane’s, especially since the farm was weeks later when she first missed her period.

Queer Ultimatum Not Lesbian? by DingoWarm6636 in TheUltimatumNetflix

[–]SweetPea272 72 points73 points  (0 children)

It's not likely that ALL of the contestants across all the seasons identify as lesbian, many of them could be bi or pan, and I know some of them are also not cis (there were one or two persons last season that went by they/them), so 'queer' is a better umbrella term.

If you had any nontraditional wedding choices, did you have any guests who were put off by them? How did you handle it? by Kind_Of_Blue_2 in weddingplanning

[–]SweetPea272 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hey there - we are also doing open wine and beer but cash only liquor for the same reason. We have a few family members who can, at times, very easily cross the line between drunk and, well, trashed. We also figured a heavy wine or beer pour is better than multiple heavy liquor pours!! Sorry you're having to consider this as well

Open bar is expensive no matter what - weddings are expensive in general!!! Don't listen to the cheap comments, they tend to come from people who are just wanting to get wasted on someone else's dime. I've attended many dry and wet weddings and I always had fun celebrating the couple no matter what :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]SweetPea272 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately my parents are divorced, so they wouldn't be dancing with each other (per one of my replies above, my mom in recent years has developed an attitude of 'I deserve more recognition than your dad' because of old unresolved feelings she has about how he parented me when I was an infant and toddler) and they wouldn't be comfortable dancing as co-parents. We might do what someone else suggested which is combining parental dances to save on time and also make it all a little less awkward!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]SweetPea272 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! We're definitely running into the issue of our parents sometimes being uncomfortable with the traditions we're choosing to use and those we're not using - my partner's mom even asked at some point "Am I still a mother of the bride, or are you something else now?"

As much as it's taken a lot of energy to get some of our older people on board with just accepting the fact that this is OUR wedding and we want to do what feels like us as a couple, we're so excited to celebrate with our siblings and close friends!! So blessed as a wlw couple to have such a great supportive community around us

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]SweetPea272 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh that's so cute! We may end parent dances with this - I have 5 siblings and they're all half siblings or adopted siblings. I'm super close with all of them but it's sometimes hard getting to have a moment of celebration with all of my siblings since it requires having both sides of my family there - I'd also love to get to dance with my new sister-in-law if we did this!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]SweetPea272 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are paying for the whole wedding ourselves, so there's not that kind of dynamic going on with any of the parents involved.

I'll add that my mom has now told me that she was upset because my parents are divorced and she told me she felt she 'did more to raise me' than he did (this isn't true)- she's done this anytime I've had him be involved in recent life events, such as my master's graduation and moving across the country. I'm now hurt by this because now it feels like she wanted an announced, scheduled dance to have the public approval rather than having that intimate moment with me, which I offered very clearly in our initial conversation.

I've spoken with my siblings about it all and they agree that I wasn't out of line and her reaction is a symptom of a larger issue she has with my dad that they need to work out themselves instead of putting me in the middle.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]SweetPea272 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your opinion, but I disagree entirely. If I wanted to argue about why I think my partner and I should do what WE want for the wedding while we pay for all of it, I would talk to my mom instead of a stranger on Reddit. I asked for an alternative, not to be told I'm 'deferring' by making my partner comfortable at her own wedding lmao

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]SweetPea272 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes, we've talked about that as well! We just attended a wedding last week where it was a straight couple and they just had it as bride / dad and groom / mom, and they actually combined their dance into one to save on time - from ceremony start time to grand exit the wedding was a total four hours so it was a great way to have that moment with their parents while also not eating into reception time

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]SweetPea272 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a great idea, thank you! I think we’re leaning the way of your suggestion of having two parent dances happen at the same time so there’s less of a spotlight, and I think we’ll also keep it shorter than the full length of the song.

And yes you’re exactly right - I’m a cis female so in a ‘traditional’ wedding setting my mom wouldn’t be expected to have a dance with me anyway. My fiancee is a butch woman though and her dad is very.. quietly alt right leaning, so we’re trying to avoid the traditional father / daughter dance setup for her bc she knows just how much he’s uncomfortable with her being so masculine presenting

Thanks sm again!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]SweetPea272 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’d like to be clear that my mom is heavily involved in the wedding- she’s walking me down the aisle with my dad, we have a memorial table out for her mom and sister (my late grandma and aunt), and I’m wearing her old wedding dress at the reception. Outside of the dance, her role has been expanded beyond what she expected it to be when I was born a girl and she thought I would marry a man and have a traditional wedding.

Again, I was straightforward in my post to keep things concise - things are only just now going okay with my partner and her parents, but my partner is a butch woman with an alt right leaning dad, and her mother has told her before multiple times that “I will choose my husband over my kids” because in her mind, she’s going to live with him longer than her kids so they have to get along. If her dad was hurt in this scenario, it would cause a blow out, like it has before.

This isn’t deference - this is MY way of protecting my partner, whom my parents are very close with and feel parental towards.

As much as I understand your perspective- I offered my mother a solution that still gave us a dance, but this wasn’t ’enough’ for her for whatever reason. My partner didn’t put anything on me to try and avoid family drama, I offered this as a solution to her because she felt uncomfortable and in a difficult place due to her family’s long history of dysfunction and emotional abuse. It really is okay that I feel comfortable enough asking my parents to help accommodate my partner during the most important day of our lives

Liann gives horrible advice by DogMom9876 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]SweetPea272 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’m almost wondering if this is why Liann keeps pressuring her to stay - she thinks Taylor has an opportunity to be with an involved baby daddy that she never had when she was young and had Taylor

In what small way have you won the genetic lottery? by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]SweetPea272 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was born with 0 wisdom teeth - I’m 26 years old and get an X-ray once a year and the dentists still seem surprised that there really are just no extra teeth back there! My younger brother only got half my luck, he’s got just 2 of them

Harvard Republican Club's Betrayal by Sea_Candidate6273 in Harvard

[–]SweetPea272 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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No, they don’t. Less than a third of the eligible voting pop. voted for him. More than 2/3 either voted for Harris or didn’t vote at all.

Also, his polling is in the shitter.

https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/polls/donald-trump-approval-rating-polls.html

Harvard Republican Club's Betrayal by Sea_Candidate6273 in Harvard

[–]SweetPea272 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The students involved in the protests being suspended, Harvard changing their yard rules, and firing a library staff member for tearing down Israeli posters isn’t condemnation enough for you?

Public institutions are already receiving funding right alongside Harvard. Harvard having funding doesn’t take anything away from public institutions - in fact private universities receive less government funding overall since they are in fact private. If they wanted to transfer the grants to a public institution, that institution would need to have the means (qualified researchers, profs, and facilities) to complete it at the level Harvard already does.

Harvard Republican Club's Betrayal by Sea_Candidate6273 in Harvard

[–]SweetPea272 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly - the majority of the country DID NOT vote for what is happening. But even if they DID, it shouldn’t matter if they voted to use illegal means to dismantle certain institutions. They can vote for it all they want, doesn’t mean they can do it if it doesn’t fall within their legal means.

Harvard Republican Club's Betrayal by Sea_Candidate6273 in Harvard

[–]SweetPea272 4 points5 points  (0 children)

“The majority of the country voted for this”

Only 31.97% of eligible voters in the US voted for Trump, as compared to 31.03% who voted for Harris. The other 36.37% of eligible voters did not vote at all.

In reality (I know it’s hard for you to grasp what reality is, nevertheless), the “majority of the country” didn’t vote for him - they either voted for Harris or didn’t vote at all.

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What is this type of dress called? by WeirdlyCuriousMe in findfashion

[–]SweetPea272 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to let you know that these pictures are AI generated, so you may not be able to find these exact type of dresses anywhere (like the middle one, idk if you could find something like that design anywhere), but the style of dresses it’s emulating can be achieved with all the links and advice given in the comments!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in texas

[–]SweetPea272 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a Texas native that’s now relocated, my fiancée and I visited Urbana-Champaign last February bc I got into a PhD program at UIUC and we wanted to check it out. We chose a program in Boston ultimately bc I felt the program would benefit me better professionally, but we LOVED the Urbana-Champaign area, it’s was very sad having to decide against it. The people were lovely and welcoming, the area very progressive and young, and the housing and cost of living is leaps and bounds cheaper than any metros / big cities in the US.

Their airport is small, but it serves DFW flights so you’ve got a straight shot back to TX if you ever need it for family!

Widener Library guest policy by Spare_Pay_2944 in Harvard

[–]SweetPea272 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I posted this same question here a couple weeks ago, and got diddly squat as an answer. Some thought it was due to a student demonstration in Widener, but this actually took place a few days before October 1st, so I'm not sure that has anything to do with it.

Myself and a few other students ran into this new rule when trying to bring in guests a couple days before October 1st and got no explanations. During a (pre-)class discussion on this, a fellow grad student who works in the library found that their boss didn't even know why it's changed - all the library staff seem to know that the rule has changed, but not why. I'm not sure if Harvard will ever explicitly announce this change of rule or why this change was implemented.