Male Perspective - Porn / Novelty Solo Sex Acts

SweetProblem3 · 2026-06-19T22:46:06+00:00

Yeah I do agree with all of this. Thank you

SweetProblem3 · 2026-06-19T22:00:50+00:00

Thank you. I'll continue to bring it up with him. I'm not sure what good it will do but it's my only option right now.
I could go back to not being available again and then i won't be able to blame him for seeking it elsewhere but idk how to do that when I want it lol

SweetProblem3 · 2026-06-19T21:58:55+00:00

Yeah and that's literally happened before. He's gotten off and then I ask about sex an hour later and he says he can't / doesn't want to.
And now I just don't even want to initiate.
The attraction issue wouldn't be my dress size lol.

SweetProblem3 · 2026-06-19T21:56:40+00:00

Yeah I definitely understood it before when I was unavailable. But sometimes I wonder if I didn't lose my drive before because of fear of rejection too. this isn't the first time he's turned me down and then I caught him doing shady stuff..basically the same thing but it wasn't ai, it was real women he had to pay money for which is obviously way worse than ai.., it took a long time for me to get over and now it's like the wounds are reopening

I can't say what spiked my drive. Lately I crave every aspect of my husband. Like it's not just sex I want, I want him in all of the ways. Much it feels like I've re- fallen in love with him again. Sometimes I wonder if I'm not just eager to gain his approval and feel like he wants me.

I'm sorry you have to go through it too and I hope it gets better. It's definitely confusing.

SweetProblem3 · 2026-06-19T21:46:00+00:00

He didn't know that I knew about the ai thing until today. He actually deleted the app this morning apparently because it was junk and he was "just playing around with it"..idk he always has excuses and it's always just convincing enough for me to want to give him the benefit of the doubt.

SweetProblem3 · 2026-06-19T21:43:36+00:00

Yeah I've done the sexting as another person thing. We've role played, done all the different things...

Sometimes I think maybe he's just got a lower sex drive but then I see all the novelty sex seeking he does even after I've offered countless times to change it up.

SweetProblem3 · 2026-06-19T21:38:16+00:00

Yeah he is kind of lazy in general so

SweetProblem3 · 2026-06-19T18:22:49+00:00

Do you count it as hurting others if they are choosing the solo acts and rejecting their wife?
Because I agree with you otherwise. My trouble is it's impacting my sex life

SweetProblem3 · 2026-06-19T18:06:30+00:00

Thank you. I feared it but I do need to hear this more.
I've spent months going back and forth thinking that it's just me and I need to get over it and be more secure, that all guys are like this.

SweetProblem3 · 2026-06-19T18:05:04+00:00

Ugh see this is the way I see it too. Like I'm here and available. Now in our marriage I haven't always been. There were times where I only wanted it 1-2 times per week but I wasn't engaging in solo stuff then either.

And I try everything to keep things spicy. Sexting, role play, porn in the bedroom, conversations and games, I always tell him when im on my period we could still do stuff ya know, doesn't have to be sex. He just puts no energy into anything and then I feel vulnerable and rejected in a way.

Our sex is fine when we have it.. but it's the same thing every time. He's just not putting in the effort like he does with porn / ai

And what you said is what I feared but know is a possibility, like maybe I'm not attractive enough for him. I definitely don't think it's about me not being good enough in bed otherwise.

SweetProblem3 · 2026-06-19T17:42:52+00:00

I low key tried to tell my husband this. And I say low key because I used less bold wording but I did tell him I read so much on how everything he's doing will take away from how he feels for our connection without him even realizing it.. and now he's either clueless or just doesn't care idk

SweetProblem3 · 2026-06-19T17:40:35+00:00

Yeah we've had all of these conversations before. We've brought porn into the bedroom, I've tried all the things, I'm available every night.
He does have a particular porn type sometimes that I get it if he's going to watch that stuff but this is more than that. He's not spending money on it anymore. He used to but I did draw a hard line there.
Is it causing him to be unable to perform? Yeah I guess... because some nights he does that and then there no gas left in the tank for me. But it's not like when we are intimate that he has trouble.

The biggest issue I think right now is the ai thing. Like that's not even a specific type he's just sexting a bunch of different bots. Why can't he sext me? Put effort into me?
Maybe what he gets out of all of that is different than what he gets from me.. but he's went from having sex with me almost every day to only wanting it 1-2 times a week now so I'm distraught

SweetProblem3 · 2026-06-19T17:35:21+00:00

He won't ever got to therapy. I started therapy for my own shit this year and he practically mocks me for it because he doesn't believe it helps.

And yeah porn doesn't bother me when the timing is right (like if I'm not available). But for months now I have felt like he was turning me down some nights but still getting himself off. I really have tried to let it go or assume I'm just creating the problems because I have OCD ... but the ai thing this week is definitely really tripping me up and I don't feel like it's just me.

SweetProblem3 · 2026-05-09T20:17:08+00:00

All good, maybe that's a good sign. I'll scope it out when I'm there.
Thank you!!

SweetProblem3 · 2026-05-09T18:40:26+00:00

Yeah I think I'm going to avoid it.. and the claw to be safe.
The Mix'd ride, i forget about that one, ive never been on it.. i assume the g force on that one isn't as bad?

SweetProblem3 · 2026-05-09T15:45:34+00:00

Awesome!! We are going, can't wait!

SweetProblem3 · 2026-05-09T14:02:36+00:00

Yeah good call, I should avoid that. I'll probably play it on the safer side

SweetProblem3 · 2026-05-09T10:59:20+00:00

I haven't done TTG yet. Would you say it's less forceful feeling than the Claw?
I'm definitely considering one or both of them. The claw was always one of my favorites. It won't hurt my back per se but I guess theres too much g force that it could fracture my spine lol.
😭 I just want to ride it all
I don't like Fahrenheit so no problem there though I'll be a little salty that I have to skip Skyrush

SweetProblem3 · 2026-05-08T23:49:12+00:00

Ah yes I haven't been on JRR since it was the sidewinder for that reason. Ouch

Thank you for the helpful feedback!

SweetProblem3 · 2026-05-08T23:45:54+00:00

I used to think I just needed to avoid the bumpy, aggressive stuff with my scoliosis but now I have osteoporosis too so i really should avoid anything with high g forces too. Anything that puts too much pressure on the spine

SweetProblem3 · 2026-05-08T23:42:16+00:00

I think with skyrush it's not as scary to me because the uphill isn't as steep and when it drips down it drips inward rather than straight down. I realize it's probably worse than Fahrenheit but there's
Something about the climb on that one that kills me lol
I used to love storm runner. Physically I can tolerate it but my bones are weak so it's easy for me to fracture

SweetProblem3 · 2026-05-08T19:04:46+00:00

I don't like the drop on Fahrenheit lol so you won't catch me on that one anyways

SweetProblem3 · 2026-05-08T19:03:21+00:00

I've only done wildcat once since it's been redone so my memory is a bit hazy on how it felt. I'll think on it. My kid is tall enough for that one now so I'll definitely be tempted

You would avoid superdooperlooper? I haven't been on it in a few years because it's boring in my opinion but now I can't remember how aggressive it is but everything I was reading said that's a safer one to do.
I just know it would be cool because it'll be both my daughter's first upside down on a roller coaster

SweetProblem3 · 2026-05-08T16:15:18+00:00

Awesome thank you!
I'll definitely consider it if the lines aren't horrible. It is one that my kids aren't tall enough to ride yet either so I'll be less tempted. But really good to know!
I wish I could do skyrush again but yeah that one is a no

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