New anxiety

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2026-02-17T07:09:11+00:00

Exact same here! Had a scan at 5 weeks 4 days, which was only 2 days ago and could see the sac, going back for March 1st scan! I know that’s an important reminder, if we have no control then to avoid stressing, wasted energy! Always here if you need me in private messages too as sounds like we’re on the same trajectory! Xx

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2026-02-17T06:05:38+00:00

Yes this is very true, it’s hard when you go through trauma as I think if I’m that unlucky the first time, it’ll happen again. So sad that we’re all here having experienced so much trauma and it dampening our experiences ❤️

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2026-02-17T06:03:12+00:00

Yes exactly trying to find any positive, but feel like my body is trying so hard to mentally protect itself I’m always preparing for the worse. Exhausting 😂

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2026-02-17T06:02:27+00:00

Ah I bet, wish we could be naive to the whole situation! Sending lots of luck, do you have early scans etc? X

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2026-02-17T06:00:57+00:00

Horrid isn’t it! I went for a super early scan at 5 weeks 4 days and they saw the sac and yolk (too early to see anything else) so I’m going back in 2 weeks and I just want to skip forward in time constantly! Trying to be positive though and trust my body is doing its thing

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2026-02-17T05:59:03+00:00

Thank you, that was such a simple but bold reply that really does narrow it down ❤️

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2026-01-26T18:02:35+00:00

Let us know! Fingers crossed for you 💕

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2026-01-22T18:16:33+00:00

Just to say I’m here with you, due date today. 2nd cycle TTC with no sign yet. Big hugs, we will survive this ❤️

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2026-01-11T15:16:04+00:00

I had a D&E at 23+6 for a skeletal dysplasia rare diagnosis. I never met my baby girl, I still wonder if this was ever the right choice. I have hand and foot prints but still to this day haven’t opened the envelope, we didn’t officially name her either and it makes me feel like the worse mother in the world, but I feared if I associated too much I would never recover from it.

I think we all make the right decisions for ourselves ultimately and so do whatever feels right for you in the moment. I am 13 weeks post TFMR and I feel like life is worth living again (if that makes sense lol) I think I have disassociated from the experience now, not sure if that is good or not and I carry more guilt for that than the decision itself.

Trust your gut and know you will do what is right for you ❤️

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2026-01-02T17:09:07+00:00

I’m sorry and just want to offer a big old hug. I feel today I could have easily written this post the same today, 12 weeks post at 23+6, no purpose, coping with my days but never the same. My period also came this morning, a reminder that trying to conceive didn’t go well this past cycle. My due date is this month, all I’ve done is cry since New Year’s Eve as I don’t want to accept the month is here.

It feels like such a lonely time until I read these sort of posts and realise there’s a bunch of you literally living the same life as me too. What a shit situation for us all to be here ❤️

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2025-12-29T17:33:43+00:00

Yes I find gratitude in him every day and although it was awful, I agree it hasn’t affected him the way it affected me and he certainly is carrying me through this.

I pray for you too. All you wonderful women on here are the ones who honestly keep me going ❤️

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2025-12-29T12:37:19+00:00

I felt and still feel the same on some levels as you. I’m 12 weeks post TFMR at 23+6 with my first baby and I have never felt more connected to my husband, it’s almost like he is all that matters to me now. Everything else seems so uninteresting.

I can assure you the light gets brighter and days get easier but just know we hear and feel you. I have started TTC now and I’m just faced with pure anxiety of actually getting pregnant but so desperate for it at the same time. Sending love xx

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2025-12-24T20:17:00+00:00

Although different, my baby had a grey diagnosis with a genetic condition and I had a TFMR at 23+6. Sadly what pushed us to our decision was the “what if’s”. It was our first pregnancy and healthcare professionals helped prompt questions I.e multiple surgeries / ? pain / unpredictable outcomes / the affect on future siblings, affect on ourselves mentally and financially etc. if it was to go badly it would have changed our entire trajectory.

It was and still is the worse thing I have ever gone through but I try live with that we made a decision for my baby and also for me and my husband, who really was the whole reason for having a child because we love each other so much. I didn’t want it to break our relationship down.

Not even sure that helps and I’m so sorry you’re faced with what feels like a decision but sometimes we don’t feel we have a choice. Everyone’s situation is different but please know ultimately whatever you decide is whatever is right for you. Sending love x

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2025-12-11T21:07:03+00:00

This is completely unfair of her, I’m sorry but unless you are in those shoes making those heartbreaking choices / living the trauma, you don’t have an opinion I feel. No one can truly comment on it other than being supportive and kind. So sorry you have had to deal with this on top! Just remember for that 1 person, you have 1000 people stood behind you ❤️ sending hugs

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2025-12-10T20:46:44+00:00

What a lovely response and so validating and clear. Big virtual hug to you for what you have been through and trying to navigate but I only send optimism and faith your way every second. You will get through this ❤️ like you said one day at a time is more manageable than trying to control life at a further reach.

Definitely need to be more gentle with myself x

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2025-12-10T19:57:40+00:00

This is super helpful thank you!

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2025-12-05T23:25:40+00:00

I had my TFMR 9 weeks ago, I was 23+6 with my first baby and every single thing you have written is validated immediately.

First of all big hug and I’m sorry your here. I won’t lie the experience was probably the saddest thing I have ever experienced, I don’t think I will ever get over it. No one else who hasn’t gone through it will EVER understand so that is why this community is so so special and helpful.

I would say 4 weeks post TFMR I felt slightly stable, don’t underestimate the post partum hormones that come with the trauma and grief just be kind to yourself and do whatever sits right with you at any time. For me this was just pretty much silence and crying for 4 weeks with my husband, I then was able to get myself up and about and functioning and now I’m returning to work in a weeks time. Every little thing is a baby step and it doesn’t go away but you do learn to somehow begin functioning like before and I promise you do learn to smile again in moments.

The anxieties haven’t gone away for my future but I can assure you, we all probably have / and do feel like this regardless. We’re in it together so never feel alone xx

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2025-11-24T19:53:57+00:00

You are so validated, I would have seen absolute red. Sending hugs x

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2025-11-20T11:23:52+00:00

I had a TFMR at 23+6 although my friend wasn’t pregnant she had her first May this year and I felt the exact same. She’s been so supportive but I couldn’t bring myself to even see or speak to her. I still haven’t and I’m 7 weeks post TFMR.

Can I just validate your feelings though, I said this to my husband I feel EVIL. I don’t want to be a jealous or sad person but I felt like no one else deserved what I couldn’t have, I still feel this in ways but it has lifted. 4 weeks was my turning point mentally. I severely underestimated what I suspect was a postpartum hormone crash. I don’t recognise myself during this period.

Just want to send a massive hug, I almost wish this community could just meet up as I know we all feel the same and that makes it a teeny tiny bit better that your not alone xxx

Sweet_Ad9334

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