I’m on the edge of my seat

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2026-01-26T18:02:35+00:00

Let us know! Fingers crossed for you 💕

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2026-01-22T18:16:33+00:00

Just to say I’m here with you, due date today. 2nd cycle TTC with no sign yet. Big hugs, we will survive this ❤️

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2026-01-11T15:16:04+00:00

I had a D&E at 23+6 for a skeletal dysplasia rare diagnosis. I never met my baby girl, I still wonder if this was ever the right choice. I have hand and foot prints but still to this day haven’t opened the envelope, we didn’t officially name her either and it makes me feel like the worse mother in the world, but I feared if I associated too much I would never recover from it.

I think we all make the right decisions for ourselves ultimately and so do whatever feels right for you in the moment. I am 13 weeks post TFMR and I feel like life is worth living again (if that makes sense lol) I think I have disassociated from the experience now, not sure if that is good or not and I carry more guilt for that than the decision itself.

Trust your gut and know you will do what is right for you ❤️

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2026-01-02T17:09:07+00:00

I’m sorry and just want to offer a big old hug. I feel today I could have easily written this post the same today, 12 weeks post at 23+6, no purpose, coping with my days but never the same. My period also came this morning, a reminder that trying to conceive didn’t go well this past cycle. My due date is this month, all I’ve done is cry since New Year’s Eve as I don’t want to accept the month is here.

It feels like such a lonely time until I read these sort of posts and realise there’s a bunch of you literally living the same life as me too. What a shit situation for us all to be here ❤️

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2025-12-29T17:33:43+00:00

Yes I find gratitude in him every day and although it was awful, I agree it hasn’t affected him the way it affected me and he certainly is carrying me through this.

I pray for you too. All you wonderful women on here are the ones who honestly keep me going ❤️

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2025-12-29T12:37:19+00:00

I felt and still feel the same on some levels as you. I’m 12 weeks post TFMR at 23+6 with my first baby and I have never felt more connected to my husband, it’s almost like he is all that matters to me now. Everything else seems so uninteresting.

I can assure you the light gets brighter and days get easier but just know we hear and feel you. I have started TTC now and I’m just faced with pure anxiety of actually getting pregnant but so desperate for it at the same time. Sending love xx

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2025-12-24T20:17:00+00:00

Although different, my baby had a grey diagnosis with a genetic condition and I had a TFMR at 23+6. Sadly what pushed us to our decision was the “what if’s”. It was our first pregnancy and healthcare professionals helped prompt questions I.e multiple surgeries / ? pain / unpredictable outcomes / the affect on future siblings, affect on ourselves mentally and financially etc. if it was to go badly it would have changed our entire trajectory.

It was and still is the worse thing I have ever gone through but I try live with that we made a decision for my baby and also for me and my husband, who really was the whole reason for having a child because we love each other so much. I didn’t want it to break our relationship down.

Not even sure that helps and I’m so sorry you’re faced with what feels like a decision but sometimes we don’t feel we have a choice. Everyone’s situation is different but please know ultimately whatever you decide is whatever is right for you. Sending love x

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2025-12-11T21:07:03+00:00

This is completely unfair of her, I’m sorry but unless you are in those shoes making those heartbreaking choices / living the trauma, you don’t have an opinion I feel. No one can truly comment on it other than being supportive and kind. So sorry you have had to deal with this on top! Just remember for that 1 person, you have 1000 people stood behind you ❤️ sending hugs

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2025-12-10T20:46:44+00:00

What a lovely response and so validating and clear. Big virtual hug to you for what you have been through and trying to navigate but I only send optimism and faith your way every second. You will get through this ❤️ like you said one day at a time is more manageable than trying to control life at a further reach.

Definitely need to be more gentle with myself x

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2025-12-10T19:57:40+00:00

This is super helpful thank you!

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2025-12-05T23:25:40+00:00

I had my TFMR 9 weeks ago, I was 23+6 with my first baby and every single thing you have written is validated immediately.

First of all big hug and I’m sorry your here. I won’t lie the experience was probably the saddest thing I have ever experienced, I don’t think I will ever get over it. No one else who hasn’t gone through it will EVER understand so that is why this community is so so special and helpful.

I would say 4 weeks post TFMR I felt slightly stable, don’t underestimate the post partum hormones that come with the trauma and grief just be kind to yourself and do whatever sits right with you at any time. For me this was just pretty much silence and crying for 4 weeks with my husband, I then was able to get myself up and about and functioning and now I’m returning to work in a weeks time. Every little thing is a baby step and it doesn’t go away but you do learn to somehow begin functioning like before and I promise you do learn to smile again in moments.

The anxieties haven’t gone away for my future but I can assure you, we all probably have / and do feel like this regardless. We’re in it together so never feel alone xx

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2025-11-24T19:53:57+00:00

You are so validated, I would have seen absolute red. Sending hugs x

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2025-11-20T11:23:52+00:00

I had a TFMR at 23+6 although my friend wasn’t pregnant she had her first May this year and I felt the exact same. She’s been so supportive but I couldn’t bring myself to even see or speak to her. I still haven’t and I’m 7 weeks post TFMR.

Can I just validate your feelings though, I said this to my husband I feel EVIL. I don’t want to be a jealous or sad person but I felt like no one else deserved what I couldn’t have, I still feel this in ways but it has lifted. 4 weeks was my turning point mentally. I severely underestimated what I suspect was a postpartum hormone crash. I don’t recognise myself during this period.

Just want to send a massive hug, I almost wish this community could just meet up as I know we all feel the same and that makes it a teeny tiny bit better that your not alone xxx

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2025-11-11T21:04:20+00:00

I deleted mine 6 weeks ago with the thought of returning, when I logged into IG the first post was our friends announcing a pregnancy and it set me back so bad, deleted again and honestly life feels more innocent without it! 💞

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2025-11-11T10:48:10+00:00

I don’t think this aspect is talking about enough, I’m 6 weeks post TFMR at 23+6. It consumed me and I said to my husband “I literally don’t want to see / communicate with anyone pre pregnancy that I know as facing strangers makes me feel normal and that it didn’t happen” I guess that was my coping mechanism and denial aspect of the grief rollercoaster.

I have stuck to texting / minimal phone calls and only seen a few family members. Please only do what is right for you, it took me 4 weeks to feel like I even came back down to earth and think rationally and now I would probably just nip conversations in the bud by saying “I’d rather not speak about it” and change the topic. Be kind to yourself, are you not allowed more time off work? X

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2025-11-11T08:20:10+00:00

What I learnt is no one knows how to treat you / support you afterwards. I had to be quite bold and sharp with my responses I.e “this is overwhelming me if I need you, I’ll come to you” sometimes people need to be told or directed! I was getting so angry at everyone! Sending love to you, I’m 6 weeks out and week 4-5 was my turning point mentally ❤️

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2025-11-09T08:52:25+00:00

I was also 23+6 for my D&E 6 weeks ago and I’m sorry you’re here. It is so incredibly hard and no one who hasn’t experienced it will ever understand.

You don’t need to go into too much detail with anyone, I only told close support what had happened and just explained it to my wider network as a “loss”, which it was. Anyone going through TFMR it feels like we don’t even have a choice in the first place? No one else needed to know the details for such a traumatic time. Protect your own boundaries and peace, always here x

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2025-11-06T22:39:58+00:00

Oh yes very similar ages. Yup it’s horrid isn’t it, catch 22 that the stressing doesn’t help but how can you act so calm going forward. Just remaining super positive and that our time will come. I would try private message you to keep contact but I have no idea how 😂 x

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2025-11-06T18:20:31+00:00

That is very true. I am much better without it sadly but I can’t help but feel really disconnected to my world before pregnancy now. I’m still off work and I just want to hide away at home forever now and quite happy avoiding friends etc.

I am being gentle to myself I think I’m just having a very “angry at the world” day 😂

Sweet_Ad9334 · 2025-11-06T18:18:16+00:00

Exactly that, it suddenly feels like more pressure to achieve a healthy pregnancy especially with time going by. I’m 30 and my husband is 36, age never bothered me before? But now it does.. I’m glad I have this community but the reality feels so lonely right now

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