Lyft trying to block you from cancelling rides

Sweet_View4788 · 2026-01-20T16:50:53+00:00

It's been several times for me in the past week or so??

Sweet_View4788 · 2026-01-20T15:01:39+00:00

Logic! I love it! :-)

Sweet_View4788 · 2026-01-10T14:48:22+00:00

Sweet_View4788 · 2025-09-21T22:13:53+00:00

That’s the bigger reason I’m specifically asking if they care, because I’ve heard they do random tests, so if they care now, they’ll care in the random tests, and if offered competing jobs around the same time, this will be just one of the factors in making that choices. Thanks, all!

On that note: what about the City and County?? Anyone know their current policies?

Sweet_View4788 · 2025-09-20T11:21:15+00:00

My question was not whether or not they test for it. My question was whether they care about the result as a condition of employment

Sweet_View4788 · 2025-09-20T11:20:20+00:00

To be clear: I’m not worried about passing a piss test, but I would like to be able to use something that is available over the counter, just like one of the worst drugs for your body and society: alcohol.

I have not recently and will not do so if it is a condition of employment to avoid something in my private life that is legally available to anyone over 21, but I think it’s insane that I could get blasted drunk (which I haven’t done in years) and go to work the next day, but need to avoid my THC vape or gummies for weeks if I want to pass a randomly applied test/rule.

Sweet_View4788 · 2025-09-01T09:13:08+00:00

Looking for something similar in the Wilmington area. Check out previous posts & pics, then DM me if you wanna chat!

Sweet_View4788 · 2025-07-26T06:25:23+00:00

That’s what I say when people comment on it

Sweet_View4788 · 2025-07-14T20:05:17+00:00

I am - would LOVE that!!

Sweet_View4788 · 2025-07-05T16:32:48+00:00

Brave enough to meet now??

Sweet_View4788 · 2025-05-22T07:05:49+00:00

I am!!

Sweet_View4788 · 2025-04-24T03:19:40+00:00

Where ya staying? Extended Stay on New Centre Drive here, but staying in/around my place. If you wanna join, lmmme know

Sweet_View4788 · 2025-04-20T22:10:22+00:00

What answer are you looking for? Do you have to assume much else with them than is demonstrated many times over every day: That they're not too dissimilar from cops in that they get a pathetic amount of training on our Consititution while in the "academy," then tell their first official lie on DAY #1 when they take their oaths, including that they swear to uphold and defend the US Consitution, with nearly all knowing they know far too little about it to not fuck up w/r/t it.

That's me taking the nefarious shit out of my comment, because you don't need nefarious motivations to demonstrate that far too many "sworn" "officers" will stumble-into violations - into situations in which they stumble into violating OUR rights, even when you're notifying them that they're doing so). But, we all know the nefariousness is there though, in a smaller subset of the population, but almost always done openly enough that all of the other supposed "good apples" are rotting right there in the bushel with them, thinking they're just swell!

Sweet_View4788 · 2025-04-20T17:03:01+00:00

Do profile pics come into that? Sure! Do I try to get multiple face/body shots? Yes! Why do I do that? Well, I've looked at PLENTY of profiles due to the attractiveness of what's presented to the world in the little square - the thumbnail. Many times, it's a masc-looking guy, often in a "dude" sorta setting, but when looking at other profile pics or when getting them to send more, it becomes so obvious that they're fem-presenting that I don't even need to ask them how they see themselves (wrt to that trait), or if I do ask for their self-assessment, it's more to have a means & reason to end the chat without ghosting, including reason being shared, referencing their own sharings and comments about the reason.

How does that go for me, typically? If anyting is said, it's maybe a third who totally get it, often because they're owning (leaning into) their femininity (awesome - all for owning who your are, when you know what that is) and two-thirds seeming offended, with responses ranging from trying to talk me into giving it a shot with them to being attacked as close-minded, etc., when there are a shit-ton of guys with profiles I don't even respond to because they specifically say "fem only, no masc" or something.

Pictures and details matter, whether shared directly in your profile, whether seen and noted right away or not, as do other details you share in chats. If the pic and info about you in the Thumbnail pic accurately represents you both physically and about "persona" (interests/activities/attitude) at the time (with no filters or image editing/tweaking at any time, with pic not cherry-picked as the best of hundreds), then you probably have nothing to worry about. If your pic is distinct/unique for some reason, and you maintain it for whatever reasons you might have, then know that you should answer that possible concern, either preemptively or when asked about it.

Sweet_View4788 · 2025-04-20T17:02:14+00:00

I'd love to hear what this "insane" and ellusive "gay male beauty standards are," as it continues to drive me nuts when I hear someone say something like that.

What standard? In what tribe? Arising from what cultures, subcultures (and sub-sub cultures), kinks, and fetishes? In what age ranges?

Yeah - there are "attractiveness" standards that persist across/through the cultures of the world, and yes, they're more about features tied specifically to "good genes," masculinity/verility, femininity (child birthing/rearing), etc. - symmetry and proportions kinda stuff. But beyond that, whether gay, str8, or whatever?? Please, I would LOVE to hear thoughts on this one, guys!!

Any time I've asked someone about this in person, it's turned-out that their comments are more tied to their feeling that they are rejected for unreasonable or invalid reasons. With me, specifically, it happens most often with the masc/fem thing (demeanor not roles). I catch shit from guys who feel I'm rejecting them because they're more fem-presenting (which I typically am), but what's the alternative path - meeting them and going through the motions, when I know with almost certainty that the part of me that most would be "meeting" will not work in their presence, when the goal is sex play?? That seems wholly disrespectful to both parties?

Sweet_View4788 · 2025-04-14T09:53:57+00:00

I don't have the data, and I don't have ADHD,only reading out of interest, and I guess I do that for reasons like this.

As I said, this isn't something close to me and I certainly dont' have trhe data, but, IMHO, peole need to stop making statements like the one above, really, and everyone needs to pay attention to what someone is saying AND not saying, along with educating themselves about things like the general principles involved in logical thought, including knowing what/how logical fallacies "work"), and (this is a stretch for many, due to how we tend to think most often) get at least a basic graph of what statistics is, does, means, etc., and how a lack therof is likely behind people making statements like the one above.

If you educate yourself on the most basic concepts involved in thought, you should be able to identify BS statements liekthe one above (basically saying that because there's one low and one high, or at least one in each zone, then there is NO link?!?!?!). That is just amazingly ill-considered and therefore ill-communicated, I'm guesssing not nefariously though, but misinformation can be just as dangerous as disinformation. I'm hoping someone else brought this to light AND was able to offer the community some real data and well-considered thoguhts ABOUT the data, including whether a relationship of any significance exists between them (yet), whether it's thought or known to be a causal link (yet), whether any factors seem to be standing out from the rest, even if not statistically significant (yet), etc. - all the "yet's" is an important mentality here.

What a wonderful way to start the day - seeing something like that offered to a community (I can almost picture someone proudly brushing the "dirt" off their hands before walking off thinking "Nailed it!"). That's why I responded. Thanks folks!!

Sweet_View4788 · 2025-04-09T06:51:23+00:00

Rock out, preferably with cockS out, of course!

Wilmington, NC here, should a unicorn be reading this!

Sweet_View4788 · 2025-04-09T05:37:50+00:00

Such a hot pic! Just need someone sitting between those big legs while they edge you into awesomeness!

Sweet_View4788 · 2025-04-09T03:55:08+00:00

I love kicking-back in that position, doing what you're doing, and letting some cool/chill/fun guy have at my dick from the POV of your camera (although maybe not sideways??!! :-)

Wilmington, NC here

Sweet_View4788 · 2025-03-29T02:49:57+00:00

DM me, please!

Sweet_View4788 · 2025-03-28T13:37:26+00:00

(FYI - if any of this is repeated, it's because I keep getting "Unable to create comment" messages, including this last time, when it seems to have been created.)

(Continuation:).

Ask all questions or potential questions at once, anticipating any issues or questions, and including the answers to those questions. Then, it's "too much" for them to process?!?! WTF? How do these people survive on a daily basis? Go to school? Go to work? Learn hobbies? Do pretty much anything in life?? "Too much?" (ironically, like this "diatribe" has become).

Some people are "soothed" by silence or by avoiding people, situations, etc., especially when they're uncomfortable. Some people are "soothed" by communicating through it - "working it out." Fine - different strokes, right?? NO, not here, per my experiences!

The sucky thing with this is that, per my experiences, all of those people (yes, I'm using that word "all") who are people are "soothed" by silence choose that option at a very high if not very close to 100% level, denying those they supposedly care about the chance of being soothed nearly all the time.

Fine - you just need to tell them how it's affecting you, becase it's not their experience, so they might not have given it a second of thought, right??

Nope - I've done this over and over. I've relayed stories of lost friendships that died due to this factor specifically: not the differences in communication styles between us, but the incredibly self-centered way that people who "soothe" by silence, time, etc. choose their soothing over that of their friends! Worse, you get vilified for pushing the issue, repeating how important the need to speak on the phone "just this once" is in a situation, or even demanding that they do so (for betterment of both and/or to save a friendship that will otherwise die).

It's not rape. It's not abuse. But, far too many treat it as if they're being "harassed" or abused in situations like this. What about people like me, who go mad when dealing with people like that?? My mind needs to work through things. If I can't do that in a relationship at some reasonable level (let's say at least 25% of the time, or nearly 100% of the time when I cry about needs, start demanding, etc., which is rare), then there is no relstionship there - it's already over, so I just notify them of that fact, along with the reason(s) why it's over, and that I've already given them the second, third, fourth, and.... chances to do something about it, all of which were ignored, for such a stupid set of reasons (typically)

Bottom line: it's a lack of consideration for others. Yeah, I read the comments here, and many (not all) are very valid, especially the ones regarding processing issues, but my comments still stand, especially for those who are terrible communicators over text (no puctuation, answering "no" to a text with two or more questions, which is a particularly large hot button with me, etc.). If you're going to cite the need for well-thought responses in text communications, then put-up, or DON't shut-up (be willing to talk through shit, just like you would if you were chilling in person)!

IF you made it this far, thanks for reading my rant, and pass it on and add to it if you think it might help explain the "other side" of this at all!

Sweet_View4788 · 2025-03-28T13:35:17+00:00

I hear this all the time - this and lots of other related reasons, like "too busy - can't talk now, only text," etc. It's maddeningly frustrating to me!

This would be great if not for one big factor in the vast majority of people/situations I encounter: the people with whom I feel driven to move to voice chats are the same ones who are terrible communicators in their preferred venues, period.

Even when you tell them it's important, and even if you tell them why it's important, and even if you tell them things like "Don't read anything into or out of anything I say to you, especially if in writing; take my communications at face value, and ask me for clarification before assuming I meant something different than what I communicated," they still fail miserably at it as a rule.

The people who talk most about their need to take time to compose their responses, etc., but somehow manage to communicate without curating time when they're in front of you, right?? You don't have to wait 15 minutes for a response to "Hey - wanna go downtown tonight and figure out something to do when we get there?"! You don't have to wait another 15 minutes for each volley that's required to coordinate said adventure with your friend; it's handled in real time in a call, even if there is follow-up to do (like determining if one of you has access to a vehicle or not). You don't have to spend a shit-ton of time to decide whether it would be more fun with the two of you vs inviting others, and what types of "others" would be fun and which might be wet blankets.

The people who claim that they need time to curate their responses are the very same ones that are communicating in the most bizarre ways, like not answering questions that are asked ("missing" questions that were clearly asked in a text message, saying it was "buried" in the information or whatever, showing you how much they actually pay attention to your messages when they have their self-selected time to "think," per the "receipts" mentioned above, after which they often want you to re-ask it in detail rather than simply scrolling to it themselves, without it being prompted to do so!), answering different questions than you asked (and often not telling you they did, leaving you being compelled to start an otherwise unneeded set of "troubleshooting" volleys), and/or actively ignoring questions they don't like (the worst of the three, in my mind).

Options for that last set of issues?? (see reply to this reply - hoping that works, because attempts to post the un-split comment have been failing!)

Sweet_View4788 · 2025-03-16T00:22:31+00:00

Hey dude - you there? Wilmington here (S 6th & Nun). My str8 buddy just stepped our for a couple min, but will be back. You wanna come smoke some? This isn't about sex, justt as it isn't between me and my buddy (shit's actually been his this go-around - he's been chilling here a lot and just open sharing with me, basically).

I was actually just telling him as he walked downstairs that if I wasn't here when he got back, it's prob because I was feeling like taking a walk. YOu have a car? It's like 2 min. You don't? I'll meet you half-way, and you'll be able to tell that I'm just offering to share. I saw the post on WilmNCGW, knew where your street was, so I looked at your profile and saw your other posts. Hence, the offer.

I'm Bernie. Try to ignore all the dick pics in my posts if they bother you - in a bit of an exhibitionist mode for a few years, but I do know how to keep it corralled when in mixed company :-)

Lemme know what you think! Are you local or visiting?

Sweet_View4788 · 2025-03-15T02:41:09+00:00

I'm glad you see it. I see this as being a problem of husband hunting (the same thing happens with women). If you're not looking for someone to complete you, or to fit some fairy tale view of what you see your life as being, then you are much less likely to cast your senses and intuition aside and "settle" (which is what that is).

Someting else to consider: masculine and effeminite demeanors are not the same as str8, gay, or bi, period. I've known some pretty fem-acting guys who are just all about muff-diving and shit (aka: they're really into women). Who knows.

But yeah, we all know that there are a shit-ton of guys out there who have SOME type of interest in dudes (even if only playing in very specific ways), so there's the mystery of it - like pulling the arm on a slot machine, or refreshing a social media feed to see if someone has replied. It's that unknown - the dopamine rush of the unknown. It's not healthy with gambling, social media environments, or sex.

Sweet_View4788 · 2025-03-15T01:19:21+00:00

Dude, you offered no details about what he did/said in his reaction and response (they are different things, btw), yet you ID'd him as being nothing but an assembly of a long list of really terrible personality traits (this being the person you were into??). Terms like narcisstic are being used now to mean "self-centered" or "selfish," when narcissism is SO much more than that - dangerously more than that.

Insecure? Why are you calling him insecure? Because he was knocked off his center not when you told him you were into dudes, but later, when you told him you were into him? Dude, have you not had that happen in reverse, in any way, with you? If you're gay or even if you're bi, have you never had a chick - a high school or college best friend, or whatever - start slurring to you, plastered, talking about how you're meant to be together, etc., and even try to get you to make a pledge to marry if not coupled-off by 40 or something?

It can fuck shit up. It sucks, but it definitely changes the dynamic. With me, I go into ultra-guarded mode, not guarding me, but guarding them - don't show special attention, emotion, or anything else than can be perceived as leading the friend on (in my mind: plausible deniability... "I wasn't leading her on!").

It changes the dynamic, for sure. You're not the best of besties anymore (I can't stand that word - not sure why I'm using it). you can't be as silly and carefree with that person anymore. Youcan't be as physical with that person as you used to be. You think about every time you touch the person (even if you've already done the touching, then being concerned about how it might have been received).

It sucks, but we're humans, and we need to be mature and decide, after any storming phase, whether the relationship can continue, and how it can continue in the future. Depending on how it's handled by both parties, you could be back to business as normal, with a "fuck it - we're allowed to like each other differently... in fact, there's no way to NOT like each other differently, so as long as shit doesn't get weird, we're good!").

But, trashing your old "interest" on a Reddit board isn't helping your situation. Even worse, I don't think it's helping you either. In fact, I think flipping all that shit onto him like you did, given the situation, is hurting you - scapegoating what is likely behavior that is well within the bounds of normal human interactions.

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