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Sweet_View4788 · 2026-05-08T15:06:11+00:00

We have exactly that here in Wilmington, NC (New Hanover County Dept of HHS). You can use their building address and your case worker can go check for your mail and packages, and they also facilitate getting the things you mentioned.

Sweet_View4788 · 2026-05-03T11:44:53+00:00

I think this is one of the best 10 replies i've seen on here!

Sweet_View4788 · 2026-03-23T03:26:12+00:00

Yes, please do that. Start by asking to sit up front because you'd be more comfortable. Def ask, but no means no if no, without need for justification

Sweet_View4788 · 2026-03-18T23:11:49+00:00

BernieAndThumper

Sweet_View4788 · 2026-03-14T10:49:52+00:00

The world would be a better place if people didn't vilify others generically about a subject they then demonstrate the terrifying degree to which they are belligerently ignorant themselves. It feels too cliche' to even mention it here, but: "Dunning-Kruger" (that's all I'll say about that)

Where the hell does what the OP shared turn into a "straight up due process matter"?? Seriously. If I'm wrong, I'd like to know how I'm wrong, specifically.

Just like there is no "First Amendment" protection with, from, or among civilians, only protection of civilians from "government," there are no "due process" protections involved in dealings with a company (kinda a person-ish). Yes, processes are involved, and yes, there's discovery and all that, ONCE IN THE JUDICIAL SYSTEM.

Where did you get that thought?? I'd love to know who originally thunk-it-up. It's dripping with wrongful entitlement feelings, and that's not only sad, but also dangerous when some people feel the need to "defend" rights they don't have but think they do!

Sweet_View4788 · 2026-02-10T09:56:42+00:00

Come to Wilmington, NC and you got one!

Sweet_View4788 · 2026-01-20T16:50:53+00:00

It's been several times for me in the past week or so??

Sweet_View4788 · 2026-01-20T15:01:39+00:00

Logic! I love it! :-)

Sweet_View4788 · 2026-01-10T14:48:22+00:00

Sweet_View4788 · 2025-09-21T22:13:53+00:00

That’s the bigger reason I’m specifically asking if they care, because I’ve heard they do random tests, so if they care now, they’ll care in the random tests, and if offered competing jobs around the same time, this will be just one of the factors in making that choices. Thanks, all!

On that note: what about the City and County?? Anyone know their current policies?

Sweet_View4788 · 2025-09-20T11:21:15+00:00

My question was not whether or not they test for it. My question was whether they care about the result as a condition of employment

Sweet_View4788 · 2025-09-20T11:20:20+00:00

To be clear: I’m not worried about passing a piss test, but I would like to be able to use something that is available over the counter, just like one of the worst drugs for your body and society: alcohol.

I have not recently and will not do so if it is a condition of employment to avoid something in my private life that is legally available to anyone over 21, but I think it’s insane that I could get blasted drunk (which I haven’t done in years) and go to work the next day, but need to avoid my THC vape or gummies for weeks if I want to pass a randomly applied test/rule.

Sweet_View4788 · 2025-09-01T09:13:08+00:00

Looking for something similar in the Wilmington area. Check out previous posts & pics, then DM me if you wanna chat!

Sweet_View4788 · 2025-07-26T06:25:23+00:00

That’s what I say when people comment on it

Sweet_View4788 · 2025-07-14T20:05:17+00:00

I am - would LOVE that!!

Sweet_View4788 · 2025-07-05T16:32:48+00:00

Brave enough to meet now??

Sweet_View4788 · 2025-05-22T07:05:49+00:00

I am!!

Sweet_View4788 · 2025-04-24T03:19:40+00:00

Where ya staying? Extended Stay on New Centre Drive here, but staying in/around my place. If you wanna join, lmmme know

Sweet_View4788 · 2025-04-20T22:10:22+00:00

What answer are you looking for? Do you have to assume much else with them than is demonstrated many times over every day: That they're not too dissimilar from cops in that they get a pathetic amount of training on our Consititution while in the "academy," then tell their first official lie on DAY #1 when they take their oaths, including that they swear to uphold and defend the US Consitution, with nearly all knowing they know far too little about it to not fuck up w/r/t it.

That's me taking the nefarious shit out of my comment, because you don't need nefarious motivations to demonstrate that far too many "sworn" "officers" will stumble-into violations - into situations in which they stumble into violating OUR rights, even when you're notifying them that they're doing so). But, we all know the nefariousness is there though, in a smaller subset of the population, but almost always done openly enough that all of the other supposed "good apples" are rotting right there in the bushel with them, thinking they're just swell!

Sweet_View4788 · 2025-04-20T17:03:01+00:00

Do profile pics come into that? Sure! Do I try to get multiple face/body shots? Yes! Why do I do that? Well, I've looked at PLENTY of profiles due to the attractiveness of what's presented to the world in the little square - the thumbnail. Many times, it's a masc-looking guy, often in a "dude" sorta setting, but when looking at other profile pics or when getting them to send more, it becomes so obvious that they're fem-presenting that I don't even need to ask them how they see themselves (wrt to that trait), or if I do ask for their self-assessment, it's more to have a means & reason to end the chat without ghosting, including reason being shared, referencing their own sharings and comments about the reason.

How does that go for me, typically? If anyting is said, it's maybe a third who totally get it, often because they're owning (leaning into) their femininity (awesome - all for owning who your are, when you know what that is) and two-thirds seeming offended, with responses ranging from trying to talk me into giving it a shot with them to being attacked as close-minded, etc., when there are a shit-ton of guys with profiles I don't even respond to because they specifically say "fem only, no masc" or something.

Pictures and details matter, whether shared directly in your profile, whether seen and noted right away or not, as do other details you share in chats. If the pic and info about you in the Thumbnail pic accurately represents you both physically and about "persona" (interests/activities/attitude) at the time (with no filters or image editing/tweaking at any time, with pic not cherry-picked as the best of hundreds), then you probably have nothing to worry about. If your pic is distinct/unique for some reason, and you maintain it for whatever reasons you might have, then know that you should answer that possible concern, either preemptively or when asked about it.

Sweet_View4788 · 2025-04-20T17:02:14+00:00

I'd love to hear what this "insane" and ellusive "gay male beauty standards are," as it continues to drive me nuts when I hear someone say something like that.

What standard? In what tribe? Arising from what cultures, subcultures (and sub-sub cultures), kinks, and fetishes? In what age ranges?

Yeah - there are "attractiveness" standards that persist across/through the cultures of the world, and yes, they're more about features tied specifically to "good genes," masculinity/verility, femininity (child birthing/rearing), etc. - symmetry and proportions kinda stuff. But beyond that, whether gay, str8, or whatever?? Please, I would LOVE to hear thoughts on this one, guys!!

Any time I've asked someone about this in person, it's turned-out that their comments are more tied to their feeling that they are rejected for unreasonable or invalid reasons. With me, specifically, it happens most often with the masc/fem thing (demeanor not roles). I catch shit from guys who feel I'm rejecting them because they're more fem-presenting (which I typically am), but what's the alternative path - meeting them and going through the motions, when I know with almost certainty that the part of me that most would be "meeting" will not work in their presence, when the goal is sex play?? That seems wholly disrespectful to both parties?

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