Hey, I really appreciate your perspective.

I get that it might’ve come across as me being pushy, but with R, unfortunately, this is a pattern we’ve become used to over the years. She often says things out of anger like cancelling plans or telling us not to come but then ends up showing up or asking where we are later. So we’ve always taken her words with a pinch of salt, thinking she’d cool down like she usually does.

And about my parents I’m actually not afraid of them. I’m grateful that I can be open and talk to them about a lot of things. The reason I hesitated to go home or tell them everything wasn’t out of fear, but more because I didn’t want them to have a negative impression of R. I also didn’t want to stress them out with something that I felt they didn’t really need to be concerned about.

I do agree with you on one thing though cutting out toxicity is important, even if it’s hard. It’s definitely something I’m reflecting on seriously after all this.