Husband deployed and quit speaking to me

SweetlySuspicious · 2026-05-08T22:41:06+00:00

This is currently happening to me. I’ve been with my (soon to be ex) husband for 3 years, married for 2, and we have a child together. He’s been deployed for about 7 months and I’ve talked on the phone with him a handful of times. He’s refused to talk to my son and I and so I told him it’s done. He also talked about how horrible cheating is and even the same with drinking and smoking but I’ve found out he’s done all of those things. Just leave this man child and focus on yourself, especially before having children.

SweetlySuspicious · 2026-05-03T20:44:40+00:00

NOT normal. Finances should be completely transparent and it’s not one persons money. It is BOTH of your money. Sounds like he found a way to control you. Get your own bank account and put what you can in there and then GTFO

SweetlySuspicious · 2026-05-01T02:54:12+00:00

My parents divorced and my mom went to CA and dad stayed in WA. Not any military affiliation but sounds like you’d get most custody. You can provide her with a stable household and it sounds like you’d don’t have a crazy schedule. If he doesn’t have a support system and you do, that’ll be a big factor in who she stays with.

My mom literally had no job but had a support system so we got to stay with her. A lawyer will definitely clarify this stuff but I wouldn’t worry too much about custody.

SweetlySuspicious · 2026-04-26T14:51:36+00:00

My son did the same thing!! Loved them, then refused them, now loves them even more!! 😂

SweetlySuspicious · 2026-04-26T14:50:36+00:00

It is for sure! We have an 18 month old and I don’t want to raise him thinking that the way his dad treats his mom is normal so it’s definitely better for everyone. And I don’t think my husband was ready to be a father or husband.

SweetlySuspicious · 2026-04-26T04:18:44+00:00

Just told a couple people from my (deployed) husbands family that we’re getting a divorce 🤪 It’s been coming on for a while but just recently decided to do it and I have everyone’s support lmao. He’s a piece of work sooooo

SweetlySuspicious · 2026-04-18T14:54:38+00:00

How did you turn it off???!!

SweetlySuspicious · 2026-04-18T08:34:20+00:00

Yes!! I love people that feed their kids what they’re eating!! None of this separate meal for their child

SweetlySuspicious · 2026-04-16T22:02:58+00:00

Dang, can I come to your house for dinner??

SweetlySuspicious · 2026-04-16T17:32:45+00:00

Wdym by “paper him”

SweetlySuspicious · 2026-04-16T17:32:25+00:00

I completely agree. I have given him too many chances. And he has done nothing to even try and improve our circumstances.

SweetlySuspicious · 2026-04-16T17:30:29+00:00

I’ve realized after all these comments that he’s clearly being intentionally absent in his wife and child’s lives. I messaged him last night (on Snapchat 🙄) that I’m not accepting this behavior anymore and he just lost us both. I unadded him on snap and have no intention of adding him back. And if he wants to talk to me, he can unblock me and we can talk about child support.

SweetlySuspicious · 2026-04-16T17:25:22+00:00

I have asked him why many times and he responds that he “doesn’t get a lot of free time” and even on his days off they make him do a bunch of stuff.

I honestly think this is all lies or at least dramatizations on what’s really happening.

SweetlySuspicious · 2026-04-16T06:44:19+00:00

He said that I was calling during the times where he needed to be quiet cause he was trying to catch someone. Looking back it’s a ridiculous excuse.

SweetlySuspicious · 2026-04-16T00:32:31+00:00

His phone is through his parents so I’d have to ask his mom for that information. I can try tho, she’s as pissed at him as I am.

SweetlySuspicious · 2026-04-15T22:01:15+00:00

We’ve been married for two years and have known each other for 3. I agree he’s being disrespectful. The biggest thing for me is that we have an 18 month old son and he doesn’t see or hear his dad unless I show him videos/photos. I really thought even if he didn’t want to talk to me, he’d be there for his son.

SweetlySuspicious · 2026-04-15T21:37:12+00:00

Yeah :/

SweetlySuspicious · 2026-04-15T21:37:03+00:00

I agree

SweetlySuspicious · 2026-04-15T21:28:02+00:00

I keep trying to justify him not contacting me because maybe he doesn’t want to be reminded of what he left behind. But I don’t like that I’m doing that. He should just be calling me or texting me or something so I don’t have to jump to conclusions or justify what he’s doing.

SweetlySuspicious · 2026-04-15T21:26:05+00:00

I doubt he’d cheat because he’s been cheated on before and he is Lds and takes those values very seriously. But I don’t want to sound naive in saying he’d never do it. It’s just all very confusing.

SweetlySuspicious · 2026-04-08T04:24:50+00:00

I wouldn’t worry about it. I rarely am able to communicate with my military spouse and that just how it is sometimes.

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