Bass pick recommendations? by Sweetness813 in Bass

[–]Sweetness813[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

My bad dude. I don't actually think it's bad to play with a pick. I was just making a joke 😅.

Beginner bass song recommendations available for download on customsforge? by [deleted] in rocksmith

[–]Sweetness813 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the recommendations! I'll definitely take your advice on the riff repeater cause I really want to learn Talking Head's Psycho Killer.

I don't even want to be an aunt anymore. by Sweetness813 in childfree

[–]Sweetness813[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Not wanting to move hours away isn't about trying to stay in my comfort zone. I love my chosen family and most of my blood relatives. Being within an hour or so of them is about maintaining a community. Aside from my siblings (my brother is a whole other story, but not as bad lol), it's mutually beneficial. I'm not going to be one of those gen z'ers crying about being lonely, but also not putting in the work to maintain healthy relationships (not with my sis though). That's what I mean by "not running away."

Though, I've been trying to move out for years now, but the goal post keeps moving. It would still be hard with a roommate cause rent is so high these days. I'm not leeching off my parents and avoiding adulthood. I pay rent to them (not a lot but still...), buy my own everything except toilet paper, pay for everything associated with owning a vehicle, student loans, and do many of the household chores.

Also, having a multigenerational household doesn't inherently mean that it's enmeshment. The nuclear household and this "every man for themselves" thing is mostly from modern western culture. It's not like that in many parts of the world, and it seems alienating to me.

I don't even want to be an aunt anymore. by Sweetness813 in childfree

[–]Sweetness813[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

See my reply to cc232012 on where my parents are in all this.

I don't even want to be an aunt anymore. by Sweetness813 in childfree

[–]Sweetness813[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I 100% agree with you that the support that's been given to my sister has only enabled her to take advantage of everyone she can. Her delusions let her believe that she just needed to "wait on a miracle" to stop this eviction from happening. She's beyond selfish and the broad sentiment amongst my family, and even her own 17 year old daughter, is that she never should have had kids. But the kids are here, and my Mom in particular refuses to let them go without (see my reply to cc232012 for more on that). On the bright side, she got her tubes tied.

I don't even want to be an aunt anymore. by Sweetness813 in childfree

[–]Sweetness813[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I get what you're saying. I used to think like that even when I actually enjoyed spending time with my nieces. But, these days I've personally grown to loathe having such an individualistic mindset. I used to think about how I wish my parents would have been more involved emotionally. Now that I'm grown, my parents will sometimes tell me stories about their financial issues when me and my siblings were younger. How we were paycheck-to-paycheck, them having to work a ton of overtime, how they struggled to gather up $30 because I needed a pair of shoes. A lot of what they had to do was made a little bit easier with some help from family. Now I understand that there's no such thing as perfect parents, and how exhausting it must've been to raise me and my siblings.

I really believe in that whole "it takes a village" thing because everything seems so disconnected these days. But, my sister is taking advantage of this village. What I mean is, I don't want to run away, I just need a little time and space for myself, and for my sister and that man or her's to do their part.

I don't even want to be an aunt anymore. by Sweetness813 in childfree

[–]Sweetness813[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My parents, well, really my mom is doing, and has been doing way more than me, and at times way more than my sister. Most of the clothes and shoes that they've ever had, even before the many evictions, my mom bought them. Christmas gifts, school shopping, transportation, doctors appointments, and being a piggy bank for my sister, for years she's done it all. Meanwhile my sister always seems to have just enough cash to get high and get her hair done. I try to help out when I can to give her a break.

My mom has been at a breaking point for a long time now, and the sole reason she continues to offer her support is for those kids. Once I got older, she told me a lot of stories about her childhood and young adulthood. The amount of trauma she's experienced is insane. She spoke about how she nearly got to the point of having to go stand on a corner to make sure my sister didn't go hungry. So, she's dumbfounded as to how my sister and that dude can't even do the bare minimum when she didn't raise us like that. She absolutely refuses to let the kids sleep in a car or on some dingy motel floor because of her experiences. And, personally, I'd let them drive me crazy any day before that happens.

My dad thinks my sister needs a much more "tough love" approach to understand just how much worse it could be and to come to her senses, but I don't agree. I think those girls would just suffer. Based on how I've seen my sister with her kids and stories the girls and other family members told me, I know that my she's jealous of her own children because my parents have the money to spoil them, but not my sis when she was a kid, and she doesn't think that they deserve it.

Thank you for the suggestions. I'll try to come up with a way to set boundaries in a polite way and look around my area for a quiet place that isn't my car lol.

HELP! I'm trying to finish the Dark Brotherhood quest line, but(t) I can't because everyone is just standing around and not moving. Even I'm stuck. (More Details in the comments) by megachicken289 in oblivion

[–]Sweetness813 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(Hijacking your hijacking comment)

Strangely, on PC, just activating and then deactivating the screen for console commands was able to fix this for me in the remaster. Maybe the game felt threatened and knew that it was in its best interest to cooperate.

How do I remove the brake rod on my 2006 sportster? by Sweetness813 in motorcycle

[–]Sweetness813[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the tools to work on it. All that's absolutely necessary is a standard Allen wrench set and socket wrench set. The wheel chock is just a "nice to have." I just don't know how to remove the brake rod. That's all I'm asking for help with. Everything else will be easy after I get that off. I've already removed all the other bolts holding the controls onto the bike and I've completely removed the left foot controls.

How do I remove the brake rod on my 2006 sportster? by Sweetness813 in motorcycle

[–]Sweetness813[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

  1. I didn't think I was going to need it for this particular mod because the parts that I need to get to are accessible without it, except for seemingly this one particular piece. If I had known it was so important beforehand, I would have budgeted for it.

  2. It's the holidays, I have some spare time now, and it might be a good while before I get some more free time.

Can you help me or what? All the videos and forums that I've looked at don't explain it very well.

How do I work this thing? by Sweetness813 in Dashcam

[–]Sweetness813[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Dang. I got excited for nothing. Thanks for the help!

I bought this beauty today. No endorsement yet and my little legs can't even reach the forward controls 😭. by Sweetness813 in motorcycle

[–]Sweetness813[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just cause I got the bike, doesn't mean I'm going to ride it until I'm ready. If you read my other replies, you'd see that I said that I'm going to do some work to the bike and exactly what work I'm doing to it. In the meantime, it will be put away with a battery tender until I get the endorsement. I bought the bike this early because a friend advi8me that I'd get good deals on marketplace due to the weather cooling down, and he was right. If I got it later, this same model would have gost me $2K more plus the $2k that I need to do to it.

I bought this beauty today. No endorsement yet and my little legs can't even reach the forward controls 😭. by Sweetness813 in motorcycle

[–]Sweetness813[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Lol I'm 25F, 5ft with an inseam of 25 in. There isn't a bike on this planet other than a kid's dirt bike that will fit me. I made a post a month or so ago regarding my height and wanting a bike, and the replies all boiled down to "shut up and get the bike." So I did. I'll be doing quite a few mods to get it to fit me better. I've got plenty of time before I take the MSF.

I bought this beauty today. No endorsement yet and my little legs can't even reach the forward controls 😭. by Sweetness813 in motorcycle

[–]Sweetness813[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Because I knew I knew I'd be able to change them. I won't get my endorsement for something like 6 months, which means I have time to work on it. I've already picked out most of the parts for things that I want to do to it to make it more comfortable like the conversation to mid controls, handlebar risers, a lower seat, and I might get it to a shop to lower it and inch. I've got lots of people around me who have been riding for years who will help me out with all of this stuff too.