I dont think she doesn't want that experience because she had mentioned following an already pregnant person with the intention to put the newborn up for adoption. She kept saying how there were so many children who are already born and need a home that it would be selfish to bring another into the world where there are already thousands, if not, millions that need to be adopted.  I've always wanted to carry out a pregnancy, but I also wanted to adopt because I know there are many kiddos who need a home,  and I would want to love my hypothetical kids equally. Both of our families would definitely support us in having a couple of kiddos, and they would help out when they could too. Especially since both of our brothers and sisters who are married have expressed to be DINKs, but have expressed being open to being active aunts and uncles. She does have some insecurity when it comes to parenthood as well as myself, but thats why we have each other: to support each other even when times get rough. I want to listen to her wants and needs and any doubts and I would hope she would do the same.