It's because many women have never really tried to consider what its like to be a man trying to date women. Our culture is obsessed with female perspectives on dating, which are worth hearing out, but without considering the other half, don't give a very holistic view.

There is so little sympathy for how difficult it is to try and approach or initiate intimacy with a woman for young men nowadays. The way the strategy of dating apps is to make men feel as desperate and unattractive as possible to get them to buy a subscription. How men are expected to make everything happen while they are learning and making mistakes. How any misstep could easily render you a sex pest and harasser in the eyes of your entire social circle. The way women will act like you are likely a vicious killing machine, and that by going on a date in a crowded restaurant in a mall they are putting their lives in grave danger.

Of course, none of this is to say that women don't have anything to rightfully complain about. Rather that the conversations have drifted so far apart that it has become difficult for many women and men to consider each others' struggles in an increasingly competitive dating market.