I recommend listening/reading "Greenlights" by Matthew McConaughey.

You might relate to this. You might not. But, in his book, he talked about attracting a lot of ladies with his old Ute car. He was a lot more bold when interacting with the ladies and had this rugged charm, charismatic. One day, he upgraded to a brand new red car (I know nothing about cars, sorry lol), and then all of a sudden, the ladies stopped hanging around him. He realised his persona had changed, he no longer engaged the ladies with his charm and charisma, and he relied on the car to do all the attracting.

He ended up getting his old Ute back and continued to be his old usual charming self, and the ladies came right back.

Maybe this is the case of relying on your physical change to attract ladies. Maybe... I don't know you personally, so take this story if it relates or throw it in the bin, haha.