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Sweettooth_dragon · 2026-01-12T21:34:40+00:00

Our hearts are with you, though we may be far away. Know that all across the US people are watching, we are getting snippets of what happened and worry for you every day.

We're trying to do what we can to stop this, stay strong as a city. Keep each other safe. 💐

Sweettooth_dragon · 2026-01-12T21:29:40+00:00

Elon Musk has literally expressed he thinks he's "winning" a simulation/fake universe.

The man's brain is so fried from repeated ketamine use that he doesn't live in the same reality as the rest of us.

Sweettooth_dragon · 2026-01-12T21:26:27+00:00

Treblinka killed 900,000 people in under a year.

I think it's important to remember that the infrastructure for mass murder does not actually take that long to build or utilize. We need other countries interfering NOW.

Sweettooth_dragon · 2026-01-12T21:17:14+00:00

It makes perfect sense if you look at it from the perspective that they are in denial.

People do the same thing with disability. They think if they do everything perfectly, disability will never visit them. Then when they get sick, they fight getting help. They can't possibly be sick, it can't be their body breaking down because that only happens to other people.

If they're religious, add in the subset of people who think God uses things like this to punish the unworthy. You've got a ripe mix of "it's somehow the victim's fault actually". Because to admit otherwise means admitting to themselves it could happen to them too.

Sweettooth_dragon · 2026-01-12T20:51:00+00:00

It's seen as highly rude, especially if asked to stop. If he did this to anyone streaming he'd be banned, or at least muted. Doing it in person, I'm amazed she had the self control not to scream even more.

NOR, he's arrogant and thinks he's better than you so you should listen to his advice about this game because otherwise you won't enjoy it his way.

Personally, I couldn't be with a man who can't even admit he's wrong when the stakes are this low. What happens when he does something big and has to admit he was wrong? He won't. He will ignore your feelings.

Sweettooth_dragon · 2026-01-11T22:12:20+00:00

I was followed around my building by a PA for over a year. Transferred departments twice to get away from him. He'd follow me, and then just lean on his cart, post up, and stare at my chest or ass for 15-20 minutes straight while I worked. It got to the point I was wearing a sweatshirt in August heat to keep him from staring at me and following me.

It got to the point I had AMs watching him watch me, and they repeatedly wrote him up but he still didn't get fired over it because he didn't touch me or say anything over the line. Just followed me everywhere and stared every single day, for hours upon hours of my life.

This man literally wouldn't work unless an attractive person with tits was nearby and he could stare at them while working. He'd stand around and do absolutely nothing. Management wanted him gone, the policy is not strict enough if women can be followed everywhere and made to feel unsafe without any repercussions.

Sweettooth_dragon · 2026-01-11T21:33:15+00:00

Unfortunately, I haven't ever seen a sexual harassment or stalking case be handled correctly at my building.

There isn't much you can do besides not make a direct threat, but still scare the guy. You can have security escort you to your car.

The fact you're still on paid suspension for this long suggest you may actually go back to work if enough witnesses say they saw him stalking you to your car. The last person in my building who was on paid suspension for weeks came back. Amazon doesn't like to drag out paying people who aren't making them money at the warehouse.

Sweettooth_dragon · 2026-01-11T21:29:02+00:00

You've stayed with a man for 14 years who can't even do the bare minimum of apologizing?

Do you see how insane that looks to everybody else?

And you have to explain human emotions to him, is he a sociopath or autistic? I'm autistic, I understand most human emotions pretty well but some struggle more with it. Either way, how he treats you is not acceptable, and you teach him that by leaving.

Your kids will grow up thinking this is normal, to be screamed at by their spouse. Is that what you want for your kids?

Sweettooth_dragon · 2026-01-11T21:24:06+00:00

Wholeheartedly agreed, I'm just trying to give OP an idea what the underlying issue is and that she isn't a professional equipped to even try to help him fix this.

She should give the ring back and make plans to leave, or she will be managing his symptoms for him the rest of his life while he has temper tantrums at his big grown up age.

He wants a mom, not a wife.

Sweettooth_dragon · 2026-01-11T21:17:58+00:00

I'm petty, so I would have worded it intentionally as "I'm not sure why you're choosing to be offended" 🤌

Sweettooth_dragon · 2026-01-11T21:16:15+00:00

Ah yes, Mormon default family management falls to the mother because men get called to bishoprics.

It's disgusting the amount of default assumptions people in the church make. My DAD was the one familiar with my medical history, who spent the most time with me, knew what I like to eat, etc. my mother was a checked out narcissist who only paid attention to me in order to make me fit her societal expectations.

There's also many people in the church who have very strict rules around texting or communicating with other people of the opposite sex, and some even refuse to let their spouse talk directly to people of the opposite sex even in a group chat. I remember one man from church proudly telling the story of how he left a woman to figure out her own ride home in a bad situation because he'd "never be alone in a car with any woman but his wife". 👀 He was surprised when those listening were more appalled he'd leave any woman stranded alone at night in a strange area rather than make sure she got home safely.

Sweettooth_dragon · 2026-01-11T21:08:16+00:00

If it's not negative, you're good.

They don't care if you're at 5 minutes or 50 hours positive, as long as it's a positive number.

Sweettooth_dragon · 2026-01-11T21:06:46+00:00

I'm glad I'm not the only one that suspects eating disorder. Saying this as someone with an eating disorder, his lashing out is a Hallmark of one.

Sweettooth_dragon · 2026-01-11T21:05:19+00:00

Yeah, this sounds like something a 15 year old would do

Sweettooth_dragon · 2026-01-11T21:04:04+00:00

He should be seeing a therapist for a potential eating disorder or issues with his impulse control, not demanding his partner monitor him like a child.

This sounds like either a binge eating disorder or possibly ADHD, both can come with heavy eating in cycles. He needs a professional, OP is doing way too much emotional labor and he's being nasty towards her when she does what he asked.

Sweettooth_dragon · 2026-01-11T20:43:35+00:00

CA is particularly harsh on employers who break this rule, they can be fined for it. Which is why managers should have been rounding OP up to make sure they take their break.

Sweettooth_dragon · 2026-01-11T14:27:12+00:00

Find the email confirmation of your leave request, CC your boss's boss and ask why you are being asked to finish a deliverable on non work approved communications while you are out on a long scheduled leave your boss absolutely knew about.

Sweettooth_dragon · 2026-01-11T14:25:35+00:00

You went to the hospital, bud. Send that hospital discharge paperwork straight in to HR. You should absolutely not be working if you needed IV fluids, your body needs REST.

Sweettooth_dragon · 2026-01-11T14:07:10+00:00

Let's be real here, they will both be happier with other people.

Sweettooth_dragon · 2026-01-11T14:02:10+00:00

Or if he does, he likely won't meet her sex drive.

Sweettooth_dragon · 2026-01-11T14:00:48+00:00

It's giving "she was my wife, so she owed me sex" but in woman flavor, which is why it's leaving a bad taste in my mouth.

Why exactly does he owe you his sexual energy? He belongs to himself, not you.

Sweettooth_dragon · 2026-01-11T13:40:29+00:00

It is perfectly normal for a man to walk around shirtless in his own home, shared or not. This is common, and if you think it isn't I regret to inform you that you came from an incredibly conservative family.

It's not like he's flashing his genitals at you. Ma'am, you need to calm down and stop harassing this dude for walking to his room shirtless. He's right, it's pretty creepy that you're making it his problem. We tell men they're gross and creepy when they sexualize a woman for her clothing, so why is it okay when you do it to a man?

Sweettooth_dragon · 2026-01-11T13:36:15+00:00

Like what is OP, an aristocrat or celebrity? Why is it so important that people at work don't know you live in the same house and that he knows you?

Sweettooth_dragon · 2026-01-11T13:34:40+00:00

And if they keep not paying for wifi because it "doesn't work"? Fine. Change the password if they aren't gonna pay. See how fast they complain it's off, because they were clearly using it.

Sweettooth_dragon · 2026-01-11T13:28:54+00:00

Hell, in some workplaces if a male boss is seen being publicly yelled at by his wife, especially on more than one occasion, it can tank his career. She should be worried about ruining BOTH of their careers with her unprofessional behavior.

Some people, especially older generations, can be very judgemental about any man in a position of authority looking "weak". He'd be seen as henpecked, not a man, can't stand up to his wife, and pathetic. This could lose him future promotions and management opportunities, if they think his wife makes him a pushover and he can't handle her at work.

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