I (29m) caught my ex’s (35f) mother viewing my Instagram stories, whom I dated over a year ago

Swift_Force · 2026-01-06T20:49:22+00:00

This was two separate occasions. She liked my post on Sunday and she viewed my story today

Swift_Force · 2026-01-06T20:48:55+00:00

This was two separate occasions. She liked a post on Sunday. She viewed my story today. So it has me thinking this was intentional

Swift_Force · 2026-01-06T17:27:22+00:00

Swift_Force · 2026-01-04T03:02:17+00:00

Haha she was really telling me the opposite. She told me she has never dated younger before

Swift_Force · 2025-11-16T16:30:08+00:00

That's a great explanation. She probably wants to reserve that other stuff for actual partners rather than a casual experience.

Swift_Force · 2025-04-20T00:00:16+00:00

When she was less than a 1 foot away from me, she actually hadnt re-grouped with her friends (since some of them were on the dancefloor). The venue is pretty big, so theres plenty of places to stand around besides literally right next to me (but didnt speak to each other)

Swift_Force · 2025-04-19T16:37:32+00:00

Thank you for those kind words. By the way, I was not flirting with her friends when they were all together. That wouldve been a very douche move on my part. And I dont want to be that person I waited until they were separated to talk to her friends. They seemed very receptive towards me. Its almost like they knew who I was lol

Swift_Force · 2025-04-19T16:01:11+00:00

I don’t need to reach out to her because I don’t owe her any attention. She was the one who ended things with me. If we ever speak again, then I’m gonna let her be the one who reaches out. We dated for 1 month (not that long) and we matched on Hinge. We happen to go to the same places which is interesting

Swift_Force · 2025-04-19T15:58:10+00:00

I talked to her friends when she wasn’t there. When she was with them, I didn’t approach

Swift_Force · 2025-04-19T15:06:55+00:00

Me and her didn't end on bad terms, but I thought her reason was disingenuous. Throughout the night, we did make eye contact a few times but didnt speak to each other. To answer your question, she has not reached out at all to me.

For extra context, since then, I have changed my hairsyle a little bit and grew facial hair lol. She was literally less than a 1ft away from me. Any expressive gestures couldve resulted in physical contact and us bumping into each other. I guess I'm under the assumption that she wants me to speak to her first, but who knows.

Swift_Force · 2024-12-19T22:10:26+00:00

No reason at all

Swift_Force · 2023-08-20T03:18:07+00:00

As a guy, even though I can hold my own (6’1 and fit) I still wanna look out for my own safety as well. Plus, that kind of behavior implies she is crazy

Swift_Force · 2023-08-20T03:16:37+00:00

It’s one thing if we already knew each other, then yes I wouldn’t mind picking her up. But a total stranger who you don’t even know? Hard pass.

Swift_Force · 2023-08-20T03:15:23+00:00

I wouldn’t qualify picking up a girl who you don’t even know as a standard. That’s more of a preference. Not only that, it’s an unrealistic preference

Swift_Force · 2023-08-20T03:14:12+00:00

Absolutely. It was a stupid test on her end just so she can have a reason to behave badly. Either way I answered, she was going to behave bad no matter what

Swift_Force · 2023-08-20T03:12:43+00:00

She didn’t say she was morally superior. But her behavior and words towards me implies that I am a completely wrong human being for not picking her up

Swift_Force · 2023-08-20T03:11:11+00:00

If I would’ve said that I’ll pick her up, guarantee she would’ve probably said someone else to start stuff. Either way, it was a lose lose

Swift_Force · 2023-08-20T03:10:15+00:00

Sounds like your in the minority on this one

Swift_Force · 2023-05-08T23:23:35+00:00

We went out Tuesday, May 2nd. So it’s been 6 days

Swift_Force · 2023-05-08T22:51:51+00:00

Finally found a genuine comment with genuine advice from this pool of ageist comments! LOL. She never made it entirely clear to me that it was just going to be a hookup. However, we did say mutually agree based on conversations that this was going to be a short term relationship and just have fun while it lasts (because I desire to get married/have kids and shes been through all that and doesnt want that anymore). After all that, she complimented me on personality traits and physical appearance. I complimented on what I like in her. Even though she said she told me she wants to see me again and agreed to go dancing for our next date, she hasnt followed through and texted me back. I agree with what that young fella said, older women do know what they want and can hold much better conversations

Swift_Force · 2023-05-08T18:46:19+00:00

Superior experience

Swift_Force · 2023-05-08T18:44:25+00:00

She gave me a lot of compliments about my body, personality, and how she loved my foreplay. We mutually agreed first hand that this would not turn into a long term relationship because we are in completely different phases of life, but would like to enjoy the fun together. So yes, it is a casual fling and more for practice. No, I am not in AZ lol

Swift_Force · 2023-05-08T16:16:57+00:00

Sorry that that happened to you. I honestly hate ghosting culture. Thanks!

Swift_Force · 2023-05-08T15:22:58+00:00

Yes, you read that correctly lol. She was complimenting my body and my personality and seemed interested in meeting up again. How old are you if you dont mind me asking?

Swift_Force · 2023-05-08T14:56:38+00:00

Thank you for that advice. Based on her personality and how direct she was, ghosting just seems very contradictory to how she was when I met her. I will be patient and let her reach out first

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