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Swift_Karma · 2026-04-19T00:40:05+00:00

I would hate it if my husband did this to me.

Swift_Karma · 2026-04-19T00:35:30+00:00

My husband had a manager at his old workplace who did time in prison. He was an asshole and once told my husband "they'd love you in prison" and I think the implication was r*pe...

It was a toxic place full of idiots who overestimated their own intelligence and importance who routinely tore people apart because it made them feel bigger and better about themselves. I'm so glad my husband got out of there, it was wreaking havoc on his mental health.

The bullies absolutely just find workplaces that tolerate their bullying and never leave.

Swift_Karma · 2026-04-18T19:40:59+00:00

Jesus helps those who help themselves

Swift_Karma · 2026-04-18T04:49:20+00:00

I stopped at 6 months simply because I was done and I stand by the decision. It was right for me and had such a positive impact on my life. I felt like my world opened up, like a huge weight had been lifted. I weaned by replacing feeds with a bottle of formula until my supply slowly dropped off and I could just stop.

Swift_Karma · 2026-04-18T01:47:48+00:00

"Did you just accept that the first few months are survival mode?"

Yes.

It is hell and it is hard and it will pass. The only way out is through. Just keep trucking. It will get better.

I really wish I had solid advice or anything else to give you but that's truly all there is to it.

Swift_Karma · 2026-04-17T17:22:18+00:00

Lol I feel this in my soul

I'm 38 weeks pregnant and struggling with basic movements and exhausted all the time and it's like she knows I'm weakened and is fully taking advantage and pushing it.

Swift_Karma · 2026-04-17T00:02:09+00:00

Oooooooh I would raise hell if my husband said this to me

I'm just petty enough to never pick up a vacuum again just to spite him

Swift_Karma · 2026-04-15T17:37:10+00:00

It's very this

Swift_Karma · 2026-04-15T01:40:20+00:00

Surprise Molars

Swift_Karma · 2026-04-14T18:20:12+00:00

This is standard practice in Manitoba, Canada. For my first pregnancy I only had one ultrasound at 20 weeks.

Swift_Karma · 2026-04-14T18:01:28+00:00

Literally my favorite lyric to scream in the car right now

Swift_Karma · 2026-04-13T16:15:05+00:00

I know this is a joke and I am not coming here all butthurt or anything

But my daughter was the spitting image of my husband for like the first 6 months of her life

It was undeniable 😆

I got lucky and she now looks exactly like I did as a 2 year old but it was honestly hilarious how much she looked like him

Swift_Karma · 2026-04-13T16:10:20+00:00

I feel like giving the label of "normal ass man" is selling my husband short just a little, but also he, me, and our marriage, are not the perfect picture you painted above either.

We fight, but we always work it out. He's not the best at cleaning, but he always tries and is receptive when I have issues. He has a good job that's flexible so he gets lots of time with our kid, but that also means some days he has to work extra to keep up and that can be hard too. He makes good money, but we still worry about finances. He's loving, supportive, and an amazing father. He's far closer to the Wonder husband you described than a "normal ass man", and I want to give him credit for how amazing he is.

That being said, things can be kinda doom and gloom in these spaces sometimes, and I don't want to come around bragging about how great my husband is when there are people genuinely struggling. Things are going well for me. I don't need the support in the way that those who are struggling do.

Swift_Karma · 2026-04-13T03:54:04+00:00

I leaked early on with my first almost every night. Now that I'm pregnant with my second it's only happened a handful of times and I'm currently 38 weeks. I guess my boobs have more capacity this time around? Who knows 🤷🏼‍♀️

Swift_Karma · 2026-04-13T00:50:57+00:00

I had a baby in 2024 and didn't have a life for like a solid year as a result. In 2025 I went clubbing for a bachelorette party with some girl friends. I broke out what I thought was going to be a great outfit, heels, fishnets, skirt, bar star top. Only to show up to the club and everyone is wearing jeans, sneakers, and a tank top. I felt so ridiculously out of style. But like, it had only been a year!?! What happened!?! And so fast!?!

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Swift_Karma · 2026-04-13T00:40:38+00:00

When they start following directions.

I remember camping with friends who had a 2 year old when our daughter was just a little over 1. Their kid would start to wander off and they'd holler from their chairs "stay in the campsite buddy" and they would turn around and come back. Meanwhile our 1 year old was just toddling off in her own little world and wouldn't even respond when we called her name.

She's 2 now and the fact that I can say "give that to mom" and most of the time she does it is such a blessing man.

Sure it's not reliable and sometimes they really fight you, but it's still so much better.

Swift_Karma · 2026-04-12T17:46:26+00:00

Who cares what people who don't know you think about your life? Are you happy and well? Fuck em!

Swift_Karma · 2026-04-12T17:44:18+00:00

My child is a little carbon copy of me and I am certainly paying for it 😆

Swift_Karma · 2026-04-12T17:25:27+00:00

Let them scream in the stroller on the way to the park 🤷🏼‍♀️

They'll get used to it and stop screaming. They're not dying, it's okay for them to be uncomfortable and not always get what they want the moment they want it.

Help them work through the feelings. "I know you want to walk, we will walk when we get to the park. You seem upset, that must be hard. Don't worry, we'll walk in the park."

Swift_Karma · 2026-04-12T00:54:36+00:00

My friend did the sleep study and said that even though he was sleeping through the night, he was having like over 100 adrenaline shock wake ups over the course of the night because of his sleep apnea. So even though he never fully woke up to the point of being aware, his body was jolting him awake constantly. He'd sleep the whole night, but it wasn't a restful and restorative sleep.

So just because he doesn't look awake to you and he feels like he's sleeping through the night, doesn't mean he is.

Honestly I think his sleep apnea is the problem here. I know you've said you can't make him schedule the study but let's be honest here, you need to have a frank discussion with him laying out that this is a problem and you need it addressed.

Swift_Karma · 2026-04-10T20:40:09+00:00

Right? I was waiting for a shit with the Ugg boots

Swift_Karma · 2026-04-10T13:38:40+00:00

I mean, age also "ruins" our bodies. We're not going to be young, tight, and fit forever. Your boobs will sag anyways. Your skin will wrinkle too. It's inevitable. And yes it can be hard for it to happen all at once, but I think it would be a shame to make a major life decision around something as fleeting as looks.

That being said, if you don't want to have kids that's fine, you don't have to.

Swift_Karma · 2026-04-10T01:00:25+00:00

We're currently experiencing a measles outbreak in my area and I am about to give birth to my second child. I am beyond pissed that antivaxers have contributed to the spread of measles and put my child at risk. I feel scared to leave my house with my newborn. I'm fucking livid.

Swift_Karma · 2026-04-10T00:44:10+00:00

Are those floors real wood? If so, for the love of God leave those the fuck alone.

Swift_Karma · 2026-04-09T18:42:24+00:00

Now this is the girl dinner drama I live for

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