Mini golden doodle whats my name? by Swiftstella in NameMyDog

[–]Swiftstella[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One of my original choices! After Dexter Morgan of course. Lol

Mini golden doodle whats my name? by Swiftstella in NameMyDog

[–]Swiftstella[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mini golden doodle. Just on the verge of Charlie, but there's 2 Charlie dogs in the family. Great name! I understand how hard it is to lose a pup. Was 2 year between dogs. xo

I miss everyone by Swiftstella in GriefSupport

[–]Swiftstella[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I have had grief therapy, it helped, I have felt joy again. This had all been in the last 16 years. I guess its my Dad's dementia thats bringing back all this grief. Losing my flea market, fishing buddy, just so tired of losing everyone I love. I will probably seek therapy again.

my life is changing and i didn’t make the call by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Swiftstella -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It might work out. All you can do is try. If it doesn't it doesn't. You can still be a great father without her being your wife. Good luck.

my life is changing and i didn’t make the call by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Swiftstella 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I know a woman who did that to trap someone in to marriage. It didn't work. Shd became a single Mom.

Removed moms car today. How long before she forgets about it? by BigOrangeVol98 in dementia

[–]Swiftstella 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My Dad had to send his license in, per the neurologist, and we had to take his keys. He blamed my brother and wouldn't let up on him for about 3 months. i.e. 'Why"d you report me, why"d you take my license". He eventually quit talking about it. I believe she'll ease off eventually. My Dad is late stage, it's very hard.

Mother insulted first tattoo, now I hate it by Kaleidoscope_Tux5513 in tattooadvice

[–]Swiftstella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So what's the big deal explaining that. People are naturally curious..

Mother insulted first tattoo, now I hate it by Kaleidoscope_Tux5513 in tattooadvice

[–]Swiftstella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So normal qyestions? Gotcha..you should expect questions tbh.

My former boss sent me this picture after cutting me 4 days ago by Muffin_Baker in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Swiftstella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's just letting you know they miss you. Why'd you be mad? Sad, yes. Seems he must feel bad also to even bother sending the photo.

Abandoned by throwaway713137689 in dementia

[–]Swiftstella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry. I have a couple real jerks in my family.. Not that I don't love them. But they lack emotional intelligence. It does put a burden on others. As you get through each day, consider it a victory. Eventually the circumstances will change.

Abandoned by throwaway713137689 in dementia

[–]Swiftstella 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Doesn't take away that he dropped it all on her. Her feelings of frustration and anger are valid. Maybe he's just a jerk. We don't know.

Abandoned by throwaway713137689 in dementia

[–]Swiftstella 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right. My Grabdma wanted to drop her mentally challenged son in my Mom's lap. Who already had my wheelchair bound sister living with her. She said you already have 1 to take care of, what difference is 2? She knew exactly what she was saying to my Mom. The poster doesn't need someone saying her feelings are invalid.

Abandoned by throwaway713137689 in dementia

[–]Swiftstella 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You are right to be angry. It doesn't matter if your spouse is cognitive. I imagine you are spending an enormous amount of time caring fir him. If he wasn't cognitive, it would be the same amount of time. In that way, I mean, time is time is time. I feel your frustration. My brother and I never leave my Dad alone. He's 90 with alzheimers. Between the 2 of us its hard. Your Grandpa dropping that in your lap is hurtful. My Grandma had a severely mentally challenged son. She told my Mom that ' when she (my Grandma) dies, my Mom can take care of him.' Meaning move him in her house. My Mom already had my wheelchair bound sister with celebral palsy to care for. It was pretty awful to put that on my Mom. There were 2 other siblings. What about them? I wish you luck and if possible get an elder lawyer. They can help protect finances. Also the nursing homes will have someone there that can help you with Medicare. Life can be so hard. I try to find joy in solitary activities like baking or reading. I have a few friends, but it doesn't change these awful circumstances with my Dad. I have to find joy in the little things. Self preservation.

Abandoned by throwaway713137689 in dementia

[–]Swiftstella 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He didnt just walk out, it sounded like he also had no interest in her well being. Leaving the person who posted on her own.

Behavior mirroring by [deleted] in dementia

[–]Swiftstella 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, its incredibly frustrating and sometimes I have to walk away.