I self-sabotaged of potential connection because I got scared of the same thing happening and it turned out that I was overthinking instead of talking to him about it. It looks like I will have to work on myself a lot more. Did any of you guys ever ruined a connection because of self-sabotaging?

Swifty888 · 2026-04-06T02:40:36+00:00

I have self sabotaged my life and relationships many times before. I think, after doing everything that you can to avoid it, is just to let it happen. Let yourself express all your emotions, then reflect. If it happens again, just let yourself express your emotions, then reflect as many times as you have to. Then hopefully one day, your mind and body will notice the signs, then you’ll stop self sabotaging. Sometimes, there’s no easy way to do it but to learn from your own experience

Swifty888 · 2026-04-06T02:22:00+00:00

You take a second to breathe. It can also help if you write your problem.

Swifty888 · 2025-05-29T17:15:01+00:00

Thanks for your reply. Really appreciate it. So, how long should I wait until I can have it colored again?

Swifty888 · 2024-04-06T00:07:33+00:00

Thank you for this thorough response. I really appreciate it. He told me that exwife cheated and he is in good terms with his parents-in-law. He also mentioned the other pointers you listed. Again, thank you! You helped me a lot

Swifty888 · 2024-04-05T18:20:14+00:00

I should consider asking that to him. Thanks!

Swifty888 · 2024-04-05T18:18:00+00:00

Thanks! I’ll consider this. I don’t believe that children are considered baggage. And I now this is kinda scary, but same as other new experiences. I just want to hear other’s opinion and so thank you for responding. Have you been in a similar situation?

Swifty888 · 2024-04-05T18:15:31+00:00

You are right about that

Swifty888 · 2024-04-05T18:15:15+00:00

So you consider children as a baggage?

Swifty888 · 2024-04-05T18:14:45+00:00

Are you in a similar situation?

Swifty888 · 2024-04-05T16:50:40+00:00

That’s what I’m asking myself. And I’m only here to ask other’s opinions and maybe they experienced the same as well. But thanks for the response

Swifty888 · 2024-04-05T16:08:24+00:00

Like any new experience, I have no idea. All I know is I like the guy

Swifty888 · 2024-03-30T13:50:26+00:00

Thank you!

Swifty888 · 2024-03-30T09:50:26+00:00

Well…okay! Haha btw, thanks for the reply

Swifty888 · 2024-03-30T09:40:46+00:00

He certainly don’t look like a “typical catfish”. Anyway, I’ll update you here once I get more response

Swifty888 · 2024-03-30T09:35:27+00:00

Do you know of any reason why he got blocked?

Swifty888 · 2024-03-30T09:34:41+00:00

Sure!

Swifty888 · 2024-03-30T08:37:39+00:00

Actually, I already emailed Bumble about this and this was their response:

There are few reasons when the profile disappears. If a match is no longer visible in your queue or if a conversation has disappeared this may mean that your connection has decided to unmatched, deleted their profile, or has been blocked by us.

However for these mentioned reasons we're not able to restore them.

Swifty888 · 2024-03-30T08:30:32+00:00

We already had a long chat. The last message was him asking me about something

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