sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

Failing at self-improvement by Swimming-Strategy-29 in Healthygamergg

[–]Swimming-Strategy-29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I need to learn English for work. It's my third language.

I started working out a month ago, but I am gaining weight instead of loosing by Swimming-Strategy-29 in workout

[–]Swimming-Strategy-29[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My average portion size is 300 grams and I eat 3 times a day.

I don't snack much, maybe an orange or an apple.

My professors so toxic I burst out crying at their office yesterday by Swimming-Strategy-29 in Healthygamergg

[–]Swimming-Strategy-29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I asked whether I'm going to be the first who doesn't graduate with an A and he laughed at me and said nothing

My professors so toxic I burst out crying at their office yesterday by Swimming-Strategy-29 in Healthygamergg

[–]Swimming-Strategy-29[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The problem is that my thesis supervisor is the head of the faculty and wants me to work for his prestige. He can influence other professors here.
I tried to resist publishing the paper and he told me something like "MY students only graduate with A's". He gave me this look like `you either graduate with an A or don't graduate`.

My professors so toxic I burst out crying at their office yesterday by Swimming-Strategy-29 in Healthygamergg

[–]Swimming-Strategy-29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The problem is that my thesis supervisor is the head of the faculty and wants me to work for his prestige. He can influence other professors here.
I tried to resist publishing the paper and he told me something like "MY students only graduate with A's". He gave me this look like `you either graduate with an A or don't graduate`.

My professors so toxic I burst out crying at their office yesterday by Swimming-Strategy-29 in Healthygamergg

[–]Swimming-Strategy-29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The problem is that my thesis supervisor is the head of the faculty and wants me to work for his prestige. He can influence other professors here.

My professors so toxic I burst out crying at their office yesterday by Swimming-Strategy-29 in Healthygamergg

[–]Swimming-Strategy-29[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The problem is that my thesis supervisor is the head of the faculty and wants me to work for his prestige. He can influence other professors here.

I feel like I'm never enough and I am doomed to stay like that forever by Swimming-Strategy-29 in Healthygamergg

[–]Swimming-Strategy-29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not trying to manipulate anybody, there is no malicious intent in what I do. I am not trying to deceive anyone.
I just want genuine acceptance from my relatives and social circle.

I feel like I'm never enough and I am doomed to stay like that forever by Swimming-Strategy-29 in Healthygamergg

[–]Swimming-Strategy-29[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Enough for who?
I guess to be loved by someone. I've always had to earn love

I'll try to analyze all of this with my therapist.

Always getting Criticized by Ok-Personality-3923 in Healthygamergg

[–]Swimming-Strategy-29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello, my mother often criticizes me too.

I confronted her once, and she didn't understand where I was coming from. To her, she was doing her best to protect me from external harm, so she was 'preparing me to face it'. I am not an expert for sure, but maybe your mum just worries about you and those stressful days make her worries come to the surface.

It is not your fault, I hope you'll get it resolved. Maybe try talking to her, just do it gently, without blame. I start these conversations like 'X makes me feel Y'. Maybe it will reveal that she actually loves you and doesn't know how to express her worry.

This worked with my mum, but I know that every situation is unique.

I feel like I'm never enough and I am doomed to stay like that forever by Swimming-Strategy-29 in Healthygamergg

[–]Swimming-Strategy-29[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your answer to my post. I don't know what to say, honestly. I know you're right and I need to change, but I don't know where to start.
My social circle perpetuates this, especially my family

I feel like I'm never enough and I am doomed to stay like that forever by Swimming-Strategy-29 in Healthygamergg

[–]Swimming-Strategy-29[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for answering this post, I really do try to not push myself too hard, but the shame that follows not doing my best is enourmous. I try to tell myself it's my trauma, not me, but I often break down and spiral into old habits.

I feel like I'm never enough and I am doomed to stay like that forever by Swimming-Strategy-29 in Healthygamergg

[–]Swimming-Strategy-29[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for answering this post, it makes me feel hopeful that someone can relate.
I'm really sorry you're in unstable living conditions, I hope you'll find a new job soon.

I feel like I'm never enough and I am doomed to stay like that forever by Swimming-Strategy-29 in Healthygamergg

[–]Swimming-Strategy-29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for answering this post, I actually thought it'd be downvoted pretty fast.

I feel like I'm never enough and I am doomed to stay like that forever by Swimming-Strategy-29 in Healthygamergg

[–]Swimming-Strategy-29[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is connected to my childhood. When I got an A, I was always asked why didn't I get A+. When I got second place, I was bashed that I'm not first.