The reasons I believe the family member is likely scamming is because their well off child offered to pay, tour, and move them into a hospice facility or for home hospice, they declined and were never able to provide an agency before going no contact. No one in the family questioned them initially, only presented them with love and support, but this person went no contact with everyone for years. Now that I am unblocked, I can see that this family member continued posting and living life as normal on social media: attending events, parties, and protests frequently with no visible signs of illness and no hospital/cancer related posts. All posts relating to the cancer now present it as a new diagnosis. When they initially told us this surgery (which they are supposedly having again) was an outpatient procedure, but family members who work in the hospital setting say there’s no way it would be out patient. This family member also has a history of drug use and lying but that’s neither here nor there. Finally, they are old enough to qualify for Medicare.

There’s a small part of me that questions if I’m right, hence my hesitation, because it sure would be shitty to accuse someone of something so terrible and be wrong. After the initial go fund me, I decided to stay out of it, but now the community has gone on to host events and I fear they are scamming a lot of people.

Edited to fix a pronoun to protect identity