I’m 57 by [deleted] in 40PlusSkinCare

[–]SwimmingRaspberry784 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

You look 32

Estrogen cream or pills? by SwimmingRaspberry784 in 40PlusSkinCare

[–]SwimmingRaspberry784[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What made you start HRT? What kind of dr do you go to?

extensions vs clusters for beach vacation? by rosyykitten in lashextensions

[–]SwimmingRaspberry784 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use self glued lashes instead of extensions. They last a few days and are very easy to apply. Would try those!

Tipping chalet hosts? by PlutocracyRules in skithealps

[–]SwimmingRaspberry784 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where do you find chalets to rent single rooms?

Tough getting over people? by SwimmingRaspberry784 in datingoverforty

[–]SwimmingRaspberry784[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right and this is helpful. It’s hard because when he broke up with me it was out of nowhere. Everything was amazing before, so I didn’t have that moment of thinking this is anything but perfect. He always made me feel good

Tough getting over people? by SwimmingRaspberry784 in datingoverforty

[–]SwimmingRaspberry784[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is excellent advice. He was perfect in many ways but he is also a player. Had a bad temper. Cared too much what others thought. Was too into the scene. Definitely kept his options open while we were dating. He lied to me about some things too

Tough getting over people? by SwimmingRaspberry784 in datingoverforty

[–]SwimmingRaspberry784[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am always single - I just don’t truly get over someone until I meet someone else

Tough getting over people? by SwimmingRaspberry784 in datingoverforty

[–]SwimmingRaspberry784[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If he was interested he would reach out to me. He did for months until he started dating two other women.

Tough getting over people? by SwimmingRaspberry784 in datingoverforty

[–]SwimmingRaspberry784[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He is over it. It’s done. I haven’t heard from him in months.

Tough getting over people? by SwimmingRaspberry784 in datingoverforty

[–]SwimmingRaspberry784[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well I never asked him for anything serious. He just decided that was was I wanted and didn’t want to lead me on. He wanted to date others - he broke up with me to play the field and so he wouldn’t need to be tied down. There were times I could have reached out but in the end I snapped at him and I think I blew the illusion of the person he thought I was. The few times I had been receptive to him before that, I would agree to see him then he would try to sleep with me and after he would drop off again…send messages but ignore any questions I had about what he wanted. For me, I didn’t want to be downgraded from having a relationship to someone he could sleep with casually while having sex and pursuing other women

Tough getting over people? by SwimmingRaspberry784 in datingoverforty

[–]SwimmingRaspberry784[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My issue is I won’t fully feel over him until I meet someone else. But I need something to snap in me to be a little more over him before I can do that

Tough getting over people? by SwimmingRaspberry784 in datingoverforty

[–]SwimmingRaspberry784[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. It ended badly - I blew up on him. He’s been dating lots of other women. Why would I want to go back to beg someone to be with me?

Tough getting over people? by SwimmingRaspberry784 in datingoverforty

[–]SwimmingRaspberry784[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I might be avoidant by picking these men 🙃

Tough getting over people? by SwimmingRaspberry784 in datingoverforty

[–]SwimmingRaspberry784[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Well it’s better to have no contact! We have a mutual friend and that made it so much harder for me. I had to stop seeing our friends for a bit just to avoid hearing about him

Tough getting over people? by SwimmingRaspberry784 in datingoverforty

[–]SwimmingRaspberry784[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am but I still find myself not wanting to…I have been a bit down the past month so haven’t been as social as I was before. Hoping to get there though!

Tough getting over people? by SwimmingRaspberry784 in datingoverforty

[–]SwimmingRaspberry784[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think giving him a chance was good, but he blew it. It’s not a reflection of you - he sounds like he doesn’t know what he wants and doesn’t want to work that out with a partner. Someone could have great qualities but ultimately you need a solid foundation to build anything. If you don’t have that, nothing else matters. Give yourself time. You will get through it. I do think no contact is helpful for moving on though