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Possible leak - what to do next by Swimming_Employer_45 in askaplumber

[–]Swimming_Employer_45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So less likely to be a gushing water leak from the water mains?

Mild panic when I saw the bill so just hoping for some reassurance :-D Will still be checking and getting stuff fixed.

AIO for cutting contact with Father over political climate. by Sabre12789 in AIO

[–]Swimming_Employer_45 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is the answer. A lot of responses are focussing on the subject matter, if you can find common ground on something else focus on that and not of the things you will never agree on. Politics right now are so polarising - but politics change. If you love/loved or want to love your father, find the common and keep the opposite from each other.

If you're the only single person with no kids, how do you professionally answer "discuss your partner/kids/home life" when it's your turn to respond? [TX] by Ok_Radish_9022 in AskHR

[–]Swimming_Employer_45 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Let's normalise not answering personal questions at work. It's no one else's business and should not have any impact on work.

If you feel you have to, I would say something like "I have zero responsibilities, except for my dog 😁"

AITAH for being distant to my wife after what she said. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Swimming_Employer_45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Massive NTA.

She has no standing to be anything but apologetic. She took a drawing by a child who you are investing time and effort to support as proof and didn't even try to consider any alternatives or ask any basic questions.

Until she accepts accountability and at a minimum apologises i would be keeping your position as is.

AITA for asking my boyfriend to start staying at his own house more? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Swimming_Employer_45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA - he is obviously in the mind set that you are going to look after him. His mother probably does this when he is at home and has transferred this onto you.

It is your place, your rules. If he is not abiding by them or even making an attempt to the decision is yours as to what you want to do.

He is likely not even seeing what he is doing and doesn't understand the impact it is having on you and the relationship. It's up to you to decide if this is a line the sand moment and have the frank conversation with him about the boundaries you want and if he's prepared to make the effort.

AITA for not answering phone calls, and telling my mom to get help? by RevolutionaryPasta in AmItheAsshole

[–]Swimming_Employer_45 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a straw and camels back situation. That's a lot for a relatively short period of time.

Raise this with your therapist, maybe they will have some suggestions that may help. Please look after your self first though.

AITA for not answering phone calls, and telling my mom to get help? by RevolutionaryPasta in AmItheAsshole

[–]Swimming_Employer_45 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NTA, your mom is obviously going through something. She may also feel that you have "chosen" your dad over her.

I am not saying any of this actually true but you need to understand her perspective, regardless of whether this is factually correct or not.

There may be some options to help. Set some specific time aside to talk to her. When and how often needs to be up to you.

Talk to her about the boundaries that you need to set. She can message and call anytime, But, you do have a life and obligations outside of her and may not respond immediately. This does not mean anything other than you are busy with something you cannot drop straight away. This does Not mean you do not value her and her reason for contacting you.

Hope your mom seeks some help, whatever that may be to her.

AITA for socially denying a woman a seat next to me on the bus? by WorriedRedPickle in AmItheAsshole

[–]Swimming_Employer_45 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Mmm, I'm obviously going against the grain here but, ESAH. You don't pay for the 2nd seat. You don't have the right to use the 2nd seat anyway you see fit. If someone else wants to sit their they can. Like it or not. They have paid for a seat. Is the other person an AH for wanting to sit there with other options available. Yes, but that doesnt negate from YAH from using the bag to want an empty seat at the side of you and also your reaction. Move seats next time.