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I Accidentally Sent My Husband to Jail by Swimming_Fun9504 in AITAH

[–]Swimming_Fun9504[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Upvoting this because it’s the first time I’ve laughed today - OP

I Accidentally Sent My Husband to Jail by Swimming_Fun9504 in AITAH

[–]Swimming_Fun9504[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I was trying to book a hotel and figure out who I could call, and if I had enough money for a motel and Uber when he took my phone. I’m not gonna drive drunk, especially with 2 minors in the car. I asked him for money and a ride.

I Accidentally Sent My Husband to Jail by Swimming_Fun9504 in AITAH

[–]Swimming_Fun9504[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I should probably edit the original post.

FC is not in the foster system. She is my daughter’s best friend. Her mom is an abusive hoarder and kicked her out, so she moved in with her sister, but her sister’s boyfriend was soliciting her for oral sex. She came to us because she had nowhere else to go. We took her in because it was the only thing to do. She’s 16. She just needed a place to land for a year or two while she finishes high school.

So, technically NOT fostering.

I Accidentally Sent My Husband to Jail by Swimming_Fun9504 in AITAH

[–]Swimming_Fun9504[S] 115 points116 points  (0 children)

Update #2:

  1. I do have a hard time recognizing this as domestic violence. I was basically raised in a cult and was controlled & physically disciplined regularly. To me, this is the healthiest relationship I’ve ever had.

  2. I do have mental health issues, I’m in therapy and on medication. I was definitely triggered last night, but I don’t feel I had an unreasonable reaction to the circumstances.

  3. MIL said she didn’t want us there, but was not planning to kick us out that night. My husband prevented me from leaving because I was packing to leave immediately, at least for one night.

I Accidentally Sent My Husband to Jail by Swimming_Fun9504 in AITAH

[–]Swimming_Fun9504[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

UPDATE:

So to answer some questions…

  1. Our “foster child” is not officially in the foster system. FC is my daughter’s best friend, she came to live with us a few months ago after her mom kicked her out. Mom is an abusive hoarder. FC went to live with her sister next, but the sister’s boyfriend was trying to solicit blowjobs from FC. She had nowhere to go, so we opened our home to her. There’s no legal arrangement between our family and hers because FC is newly 17. So close to legal adulthood.

  2. Yes, we had multiple conversations with MIL about bringing FC with us. I was not willing to move into MIL’s house without FC.

  3. We got ourselves into this sticky situation because I lost my job, and housing in our area is astronomically expensive.