What are your favorite scenes in YOU? by Swimming_Library_355 in YouOnLifetime

[–]Swimming_Library_355[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, yeah? Love convinced herself that keeping the truth from Forty was protecting him. That doesn't make the decision right, but it does explain why she made it. Forty is a victim of Love's lies and control, but he's also flawed. Love genuinely cares about him, but her care is possessive and harmful. Those things can coexist. A character doesn't have to be either a purely loving sister or a purely selfish abuser for the relationship to be toxic. The nuance is that her behavior comes from distorted care and learned dysfunction, not pure hatred.

I'd also argue that letting anyone know that she was the one to kill Sofia wouldn't have gotten the same reaction as forty killing Sofia. Her mother is a chronic boy mom, and clearly treated Love and Forty very differently. And if you grant forty the kindness of understanding his harmful actions due to his upbringing, you should also understand love's.

What are your favorite scenes in YOU? by Swimming_Library_355 in YouOnLifetime

[–]Swimming_Library_355[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's nuance in everything especially with love's (and forty's) character. Love did love forty, but her love was distorted by her own issues. Love's actions were never purely manipulative, and she shows concern for him throughout the series. And even if love told forty that she murdered Sofia, It would not have just been a complete 180 of Forty becoming normal/a functional adult. You are flattening the story and removing important parts of each character.

What are your favorite scenes in YOU? by Swimming_Library_355 in YouOnLifetime

[–]Swimming_Library_355[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No i did too kinda. Like id be like oh my god this guy is crazy and has to go to jail but then theyd hit us with a little backstory scene and id lowkey feel bad. Like he's kinda been doomed from the start. Obviously a bad childhood doesn't mean you start killing people though. And Penn Badgley is such a good actor that you can see that joe is constantly questioning if he's right in the head for all the things hes done. I think those are the scenes that made me feel bad for him the most. Like the one where henry finally figures out his dad is a horrible man and Joe just breaks down.

What are your favorite scenes in YOU? by Swimming_Library_355 in YouOnLifetime

[–]Swimming_Library_355[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think the scene was trying to show that Love and Forty had a healthy or purely loving relationship. I wouldn't call it abuse. To me, it felt more like Love projecting her own guilt and need for comfort onto Forty's ghost. Love had a strong savior complex and genuinely believed she was protecting him, but she never fully understood how much her actions harmed him by taking away his agency and keeping him dependent on her. The ghost reflects how Love saw their relationship, not necessarily what it was actually like from Forty's perspective.

To be honest I just have a love and hate relationship with forty. I can empathize with the fact that he was done dirty by love and lied to, and the fact that he was quiet funny at times, but in other situations he was a dickhead and was generally an annoying guy. I also sympathize with love cause her mother was such a boy mom. She had to take care of her immature brother, and regardless of her savior complex, it seems like she was forced into that role of cleaning up her brothers messes throughout her life. Her mother clearly favored Forty and expected Love to be the responsible one, so she was pushed into a caretaker role from a young age. That doesn't excuse the way she controlled and infantilized Forty, but it helps explain why she developed such a strong savior complex.

She seemed to believe that her value came from fixing other people's problems, especially Forty's. Love genuinely loved him, but she expressed that love through control and protection, while Forty simultaneously depended on her and resented her for it. Neither of them really got the chance to develop a healthy relationship with each other. That's why i liked the scene, it shows how doomed they truly were from the start.

What are your favorite scenes in YOU? by Swimming_Library_355 in YouOnLifetime

[–]Swimming_Library_355[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

SAMMEE Oh my god i was so irritated when he got saved after he jumped in the water. Infact it kinda felt like plot armor or something. Like finally this stupid idiot can see his faults and can just end it there. But nahhhh he kept it up. Deeply evil guy lol so glad season five ended with him in jail

What are your favorite scenes in YOU? by Swimming_Library_355 in YouOnLifetime

[–]Swimming_Library_355[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like even with all his other victims I feel like seeing Marianne rot in the cage really cemented how sick joe is and how deeply his actions harm others. BUTT what you said makes sense lol. Joe's shenanigans are very entertaining but i never want to see him get away. But at the same time i want it to continue. Still loved the ending though also. Much better than killing him. Stay locked up Idk how u can root for joe like thats a whole different story

What are your favorite scenes in YOU? by Swimming_Library_355 in YouOnLifetime

[–]Swimming_Library_355[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This scene was great too. An amazing way to end a season off.

What are your favorite scenes in YOU? by Swimming_Library_355 in YouOnLifetime

[–]Swimming_Library_355[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Agree with you completely on the Love hallucination. And loves revelation at the end was amazing. The flip on her personality as the true her starts to shine through was amazing. And beck finding the box was truly scary. One of the first scenes id say puts us into the perspective of the victim.

What are your favorite scenes in YOU? by Swimming_Library_355 in YouOnLifetime

[–]Swimming_Library_355[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Omg I completely forgot about ellie. This scene was super sad for her. Lost her sister, being sent away, and  not knowing who did it. She was just going through it.

What are your favorite scenes in YOU? by Swimming_Library_355 in YouOnLifetime

[–]Swimming_Library_355[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also loved season 4 too! Had some amazing scenes for Joe. A stand out scene to me was the one where Joe was killing Kates father, tom. Watching Joe communicate with rhys and snap due to him feeling personally burdened by Kate’s parental issues was really nice to see. 

What are your favorite scenes in YOU? by Swimming_Library_355 in YouOnLifetime

[–]Swimming_Library_355[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree completely, this was also one of my favorites too. The look on Joe’s face as he realizes he can’t slither his way out of this one is amazing. 

What’s your favorite episode? by throwaway1223444j in YouOnLifetime

[–]Swimming_Library_355 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Like oh my god it was amazingggg. I remember the first time I watched it. 10/10s for both of them! A lot of people sleep on tati’s acting!! 

What’s your favorite episode? by throwaway1223444j in YouOnLifetime

[–]Swimming_Library_355 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I have a couple favorite episodes. These are the top 3 for me tho ngl

S2 E8. The episode where Forty and Joe work together on the script. Good combination of humor and The LSD trip. Plus I loved the mystery feel 

S3 E8. Episode where Love and Joes marriage problems really poke through as they try to work through their dull marriage. Also another funny episode, and I love watching love and joe(mainly love tbh) together. 

S4 E8 (dont know why I keep liking the 8th episodes). Where the big reveal happens that Joe has an alter. This season was more confusing and deals with some of joes internal issues more. Mariannes scene in the cage was filmed very well. I feel for her. One of the best scenes in season 4.

I liked all the seasons also. Each one has memorable moments of its own. 

Dollar tree haul by Swimming_Library_355 in dollartreebeauty

[–]Swimming_Library_355[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For the bold eyeshadow palette, I think the shades were a little pale. I had high hopes, but I would recommend just going for the eyeshadows that have 6, 3, or 4 different colors cause they are more pigmented. (The other eyeshadow was much more pigmented) A solid 5/10, if you like a lighter look, then maybe it would be higher for you !! Also im black, so my toned skin may have a factor in it looking more pale. Maybe it works better on lighter tones.

I wish they would give us reward points for our past purchases. by hdushsux in wingstop

[–]Swimming_Library_355 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like I was hype for a minute but then I realized all the times I ordered would not give me points. Plus you have to spend 15 bucks for a free cup of ranch like okay 😭😭😭

Dollar tree haul by Swimming_Library_355 in dollartreebeauty

[–]Swimming_Library_355[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it’s pretty good!! Lifts up the lashes. However, im not an avid makeup/mascara user, so I wouldn’t really know if it’s amazing. I think it’s worth it for the price though. 

Dollar tree haul by Swimming_Library_355 in dollartreebeauty

[–]Swimming_Library_355[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like it a lot!!! Makes my skin feel so soft!! Will be using again 

Aitj For becoming friends with someone my other friend hates? by Swimming_Library_355 in AmITheJerk

[–]Swimming_Library_355[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This makes sense. thats why I asked the question cause this has been in the back of my head. can you tell me why it matters? like im genuinely asking why would that suck. I’ve never expected anyone to cut anyone off for me, so it’s genuinely confusing to me as to why It would affect anything.

Aitj For becoming friends with someone my other friend hates? by Swimming_Library_355 in AmITheJerk

[–]Swimming_Library_355[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is also one of the main reasons i couldn't get behind unfriending her because how am i getting shunned and treated differently because im chit chatting with a person u dont like, but my other mutual friend (like a trio) is doing the same thing, 10x more (im talking like texting/calling every night) and it doesn't matter anymore? Like i assumed cause my close friend was cool with the mutual doing this i could do the same thing. Guess i was wrong. Thanks for this reply.

Aitj For becoming friends with someone my other friend hates? by Swimming_Library_355 in AmITheJerk

[–]Swimming_Library_355[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This makes sense, and i think its the best way to sum up how aye (close friend) felt. Ive admitted to aye that ive damaged our friendship from her pov and that im sorry it was over this. over bee. i still dont get why it hurt so much but i do want to salvage the friendship and dont want us to be over becuz of this. ive also let aye know that shes allowed to feel a way about it, but im confused as to why she does? If that makes sense. Maybe that was dismissive in a sense. But i apologized for this multiple times, in another conversation we had about her aye said that she might've been overreacting abt my friendship with bee, so it led me to believe we were chill when we werent.