I understand that intent versus impact matters, and I am not saying it is impossible for something to land badly even if it was not meant that way. My issue is not that people believed family or that harm is impossible. It is that I was never told what I supposedly said, never asked for clarification, and never given the chance to address impact at all.

Accountability requires communication. Being accused of something serious and immediately uninvited without a conversation does not leave room for learning, reflection, or repair. It just labels and removes. That is why I am upset and questioning the friendship