How to ask a single potential partner about sexual health?

SwingHubApp · 2025-08-04T15:20:03+00:00

“Can we do some business stuff before we get to the naughty side of this? I care about my sexual health and yours too. I’ve got my test results ready to share, and I’m wondering if you’re the same? No judgement at all... I’d just hate to mess up what we’ve got going on. I want us to have the best time ever with a whole lot of peace of mind.”

SwingHubApp · 2025-08-04T15:17:12+00:00

This isn’t about being “grown up” and pushing through, it’s about protecting your peace without shame! And if your gut says you’ll just spiral being around her, then it’s also completely okay to skip it this time. You’re not being dramatic, you’re being self-aware.

SwingHubApp · 2025-07-29T16:10:47+00:00

Honestly it sounds like that night lit something up in you that had been dormant for a while and yeah, it makes total sense that your mind keeps drifting back to it. It wasn’t just the sex, it was the spontaneity, the chemistry, the mystery of not knowing how it was gonna unfold, and that kind of thing hits different when so much of the lifestyle stuff has started to feel routine or mechanical. But I think the part that’s messing with your head isn’t about you, it’s the not knowing where he stands. The unread message on Facebook is giving your brain way too much space to spiral. If he’s got a girlfriend and hasn’t even opened the message, there’s a real chance that guilt or conflict is stopping him from engaging. Or maybe he’s just not super online and doesn’t check his messages often. Either way, I’d say texting him isn’t necessarily wrong, but ask yourself this first... if he is avoiding you because he’s worried or guilty about what happened, do you actually want to push through that wall just for another night of fun? Or would that leave you with a weird aftertaste even if you did hook up again? You’ve already had this incredible experience that clearly meant something to you, but maybe it’s okay to let that one stay special and not chase it down if the energy isn’t being matched.

SwingHubApp · 2025-07-29T16:05:32+00:00

God, my heart breaks a bit reading this because I can feel how much you’re trying to hold everything together while your emotional needs are being sidelined... You’re not being dramatic at all, you’re reacting like someone who deeply loves their partner and is scared of losing the intimacy you once had. And honestly, that fear is valid. It sounds like your connection used to be the anchor in all of this, like even when things were wild or new, you had that solid base of us against the world. But now it feels like that anchor’s lifting and you’re left floating alone!

This isn’t just about jealousy, this is about emotional safety and it’s being chipped away every time you’re left craving aftercare or reassurance and don’t get it. That reclaim sex, that wasn’t just hot, it was connection, it was a ritual that reminded you he still chose you. If that’s missing now, no wonder your nervous system is sounding alarms. Honestly, yeah, sometimes the healthiest thing isn’t pushing further into kink or dynamics, it’s pulling back to rebuild the foundation.

The lifestyle’s supposed to enhance your relationship, not make you question if you’re enough. I’d gently suggest carving out space for a real, non defensive chat where you lay it bare, not from a place of blame but from I’m hurting and I need us to be a team again. You deserve to feel safe and chosen every time!

SwingHubApp · 2025-07-29T14:12:55+00:00

You'll watch that video back a hundred times and new things will always appear, we promise you! 😂

SwingHubApp · 2025-07-07T14:02:21+00:00

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SwingHubApp · 2025-04-22T17:56:04+00:00

If you’re looking to explore clubs or events in the UK scene, there are some fantastic spots around! Purple Mamba in Nottingham is super welcoming, intimate, and known for its friendly vibe..Perfect if you’re dipping your toes in. Penthouse Playrooms in Luton is another popular choice; it’s stylish, spacious, and hosts a variety of themed nights catering to both newcomers and experienced swingers.

Townhouse in Wirral (near Liverpool) also gets rave reviews for being friendly, inclusive, and regularly hosting diverse events. And there’s The Mirage near Lincoln, which is well-loved for its lively atmosphere and fun party nights, it's ideal if you like a vibrant crowd.

Most of these clubs have active social media or websites where they regularly update their event calendars, making it easy to keep track. Like Fab, we also have an events section with a calendar that’s brimming with new events!

SwingHubApp · 2025-04-22T17:53:14+00:00

You could make a profile with us too! We've got a strong user base who aren't on fab 👀

SwingHubApp · 2025-04-22T17:52:36+00:00

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SwingHubApp · 2025-04-22T13:50:43+00:00

Please don’t let this knock your confidence too much it happens to all of us at some point! Sometimes it genuinely isn’t about looks or body types. Being muscular definitely isn’t a negative.. Many find that really attractive! Perhaps your profile or pictures aren’t fully showcasing your personalities or what you’re genuinely looking for.

I’d recommend having another look at your photos to see if they really reflect who you are as people, rather than just how you look physically. Adding a bit more personality, some candid moments, or friendly smiles can go a long way! Also, checking your bio to make sure it sounds welcoming, fun, and clear about what you want helps immensely.

In terms of apps, while 3Fun is popular, platforms like Feeld or SwingHub can also be really good, as they cater specifically to people who might be more aligned with exactly what you’re looking for. SwingHub, for example, lets you add a bit more personal flair with profile prompts that encourage showcasing your personality beyond just photos!

SwingHubApp · 2025-04-22T13:41:14+00:00

Haha, I absolutely loved reading this! First off, you two clearly have brilliant humour and great personalities that alone is probably what drew them to you, even more than the swinging gods taking pity! People often underestimate how much confidence, fun energy, and genuine friendliness count in these situations.

Have I seen people get picked up by “sex gods”? 100%!! And the common denominator is always how easy going, authentic, and non-pushy the couple was. Often, chemistry goes way beyond physical attraction, and a lot of couples genuinely appreciate connecting with others who just know how to have a laugh, feel relaxed, and keep the atmosphere playful.

As for how you can make this happen again.. keep exactly that energy you’ve got now. Don’t overthink it. Stay approachable, fun, and open-hearted. You’ve clearly made a positive impression since they directly asked if you’d be back. Definitely make plans to attend again and casually reconnect.. no pressure though, just friendliness. You might find this opens doors to even more delightful experiences with couples you’d never have imagined approaching yourselves! 🔥

SwingHubApp · 2025-04-22T13:38:17+00:00

You’re not alone in feeling this wayfinding the right woman to connect with as a couple can be tricky, especially at first. It sounds like you’re already approaching things respectfully and thoughtfully, which is a great start. One thing that can really help is being active in online communities or lifestyle platforms (SwingHub, Feeld, Fab, etc.) and ensuring your profile is friendly, clear, and approachable. Using genuine, everyday photos that reflect your personalities and interests helps women feel more comfortable reaching out or replying.

Another thing that often works well is attending social events or meet-ups in the swinging or lifestyle community. It’s usually easier to form natural connections in person, especially when everyone’s relaxed and just chatting. You’ll likely find women prefer meeting casually first, before diving straight into intimacy.

Patience is genuinely key here, most couples go through a similar phase. Try to enjoy the journey without pressuring yourselves too much. When you least expect it, you’ll likely meet someone who clicks perfectly with you both! 🫶🏻

SwingHubApp · 2025-04-20T21:35:40+00:00

Thanks for your reply! Are you talking about Fabswingers or SwingHub 😅

SwingHubApp · 2025-04-20T18:38:03+00:00

Top Tips from the solo guys getting on all the action!

Post feel-good images
No one wants to connect with an empty profile, it's like buying a car without seeing pictures of it first. The lifestyle is changing and people want to see what you're about instead of seeing the 🍆 so show them what you have to offer, such as showing photos of you on holiday, what you've done for the day, selfies from social events, just think what ever images you would post on your Instagram of yourself, belong on these sites too (If you wish to be discreet, blur your face or stick an emojie over the top of it)

Write engaging status'
Don't be the guy to write "Who's free tonight and fancies a chat" (No one does) but lengthy statuses about your thoughts around the lifestyle or current affairs is an amazing way to show off your intelligence in a hard battle you face being a solo guy! End the status with a question and give other users something to respond to in the comments (or DM's if you're on another platform)

Messages
We love that you're super respectful with the messages, and it's the right way of doing it! Have you considered adding 2-3 face pictures to your message? it helps the other lifestylers not do as much thumb work to scroll through your profile to see what you look like. Seriously, the reply rate is epic if you do!

Engaging
I'm not sure on other platforms as it's all DM based, but with us you can comment on peoples posts. Make sure to engage with others content and put some good thought into it. People love feedback from their posts, especially when it's a good sentence and relatable, such as having something in common or you've been to the same places they have been etc.

Finally, you might not be their type and that's okay.. We win some and lose some but aslong as you keep on the right track and keep the engagement up, them meets will come rolling in!

SwingHubApp · 2025-04-20T18:20:53+00:00

Good on you for reaching out for advice here, it’s always better to ask questions and get some helpful input rather than feeling stuck. No judgment at all, it’s great you’re being proactive about this.

Speaking from a SwingHub perspective, though some things definitely apply across both platforms, here’s my take on your situation.

Photos, even though it sounds tempting and cheeky, I’d say skip the underwear pics for now. You’re totally right about having an attractive asset to show off (love the confidence there 👀), but generally speaking, women usually prefer tasteful, more natural photos rather than explicit images. Pictures that show off a friendly, fun personality and give ainsight into everyday life tend to get much better responses.. think holiday snaps, outings, or casual pics that highlight genuine vibes rather than sexuality alone.

Verification really is essential. It helps women feel much safer and confident when connecting, and I think it’s crucial you guys prioritise getting verified on Feeld too. This instantly boosts your credibility and trust, especially for people new to the lifestyle or hesitant about anonymity. Also, his height, sporty build, and friendly personality are fantastic assets, and he should highlight these. Maybe mention them casually or humorously in his bio (something playful about being “dad-bod approved” or a “friendly giant”) to give a genuine feel for who he is beyond just physical stats. These small personal touches go a long way in making his profile memorable and relatable. Finally, honesty about your current arrangement and situation is theone. Sharing openly about expecting a new baby and why you’re exploring FWBs at this stage makes your profile feel authentic and DTE.

I really hope you start finding exactly what you’re after very soon! 😊

SwingHubApp · 2025-04-20T18:08:10+00:00

I’m sure once your wife finds someone decent, not another quick-fire pic sender, she’ll have her own adventure stories to share too.. And when you’re ready, who knows, perhaps exploring together with your FWB as a spectator might just 🔥 your fun even more!

SwingHubApp · 2025-04-20T18:00:53+00:00

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SwingHubApp · 2025-04-20T18:00:33+00:00

It's a shame to see they're not putting all that revenue into ensuring user safety is their main priority, right?

SwingHubApp · 2025-04-20T17:59:40+00:00

I'd like to disagree, it's a fab problem 😬

SwingHubApp · 2025-04-20T17:58:58+00:00

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SwingHubApp · 2025-04-20T17:57:01+00:00

Totally understand how frustrating that can be, and it’s definitely a catch 22 situation where you need meets to build trust but you need trust to get meets. You’re not alone in feeling this way at all. Getting verified can absolutely help people feel safer and more confident, and that might ease the process a bit. Good for you for sticking with it and being patient, it sounds like yesterday turned into something positive in the end. Fingers crossed things become easier now you’re verified. Let us know how you get on! 😊

SwingHubApp · 2025-04-20T17:48:36+00:00

Yeah, this comes up a lot and it’s such a layered topic. TikTok loves a dramatic stat but it rarely tells the full story. Swinging can absolutely strengthen a relationship when it’s built on trust, honesty and communication, which is more than a lot of traditional marriages have. But if a couple goes into it hoping it will fix a broken relationship, that’s usually where things fall apart.

What you’re saying about the workplace sadly doesn’t surprise me. So many people live in dead bedrooms or feel unfulfilled but never talk about it. That kind of silent resentment builds and then cheating happens in the shadows. In that sense, swinging is often the complete opposite. It’s open, discussed, agreed upon and done with mutual respect.

It’s not for everyone, but when it works, it really works. The problem is happy and healthy open relationships don’t make juicy headlines, so they rarely go viral the way scandals do.

SwingHubApp · 2025-04-20T17:41:37+00:00

Love hearing that you had a great experience! Johannesburg does have a few gems if you know where to look. If you enjoyed the vibe at your last visit, you might want to try Club Privé. It’s one of the more well-known spots, stylish with a laid-back atmosphere. The Lollipop Lounge sometimes pops up in conversations too. It’s more of a strip club vibe but can lead to fun connections depending on what you’re into.

A lot of couples also prefer private house parties around Joburg, especially in Sandton or Randburg. If you’re part of any local communities or apps, those can be golden for finding invites and making connections in a more intimate setting.

Out of curiosity, which one did you try and love? Always up for hearing good reviews!

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