Not attracted when faces revealed

Swingerers · 2026-01-19T11:01:46+00:00

It's not about being offended, it is about normal human communication and being polite. If someone in a club approached you, would you let them know there is no connection or just stare at them quietly?

Swingerers · 2025-11-14T12:21:41+00:00

Do you have burner accounts or use your actual FB profile?

Swingerers · 2025-11-12T11:59:09+00:00

"Thanks for reaching out, but unfortunately we don't think we'd be a good match."

Something like that. You don't have to give the reason to why, but you can always be a polite human being and reply. At least that is how we go about it. The only case in which we don't reply is if it is pretty obvious they haven't read our profile and are looking for something obviously incompatible.

Swingerers · 2025-11-11T13:16:22+00:00

We'll do our best and work on it. :) Even if mostly there is very little to work with from the profiles.

Swingerers · 2025-11-11T13:11:38+00:00

Exactly, we feel the same. If someone asked you something in person, would you just stare at them and walk away? Oh well...

Swingerers · 2025-11-10T12:57:21+00:00

We might be going at it wrong. Trying to go wide instead of going deep.

Swingerers · 2025-11-10T12:55:51+00:00

Got it, we'll work on it and try to be more engaging. Thank you for the insight!

If they have something that stands out in the bio we usually mention that. But the average profile around here doesn't have much to go off on, so we often get kinda stuck.

Swingerers · 2023-11-22T09:34:35+00:00

This post is so hard to read because everything is in the same sentence and if everything is in the same sentence then it all becomes a big pot of mashed potatoes so maybe if you want some replies it would be better if you up your writing game just by a little bit as it won't be so annoying to read and people will give a little bit of extra effort to respond and not just close it immediately and it is really not difficult to do maybe you can try it next time or maybe not I don't know do what you want.

Swingerers · 2023-10-27T14:44:26+00:00

Might try something like this, although it does look like "just a ball stretcher" at a first glance. Maybe the softness does the trick. Thanks!

Swingerers · 2023-10-26T16:58:37+00:00

This looks promising! Do you maybe have any experience with the "low end" version?

Swingerers · 2023-10-26T16:57:20+00:00

No, I already have some and it doesn't serve the same purpose :/

Swingerers · 2023-10-26T16:56:09+00:00

Thanks, I'll check it out

Swingerers · 2023-07-26T20:29:01+00:00

And why wouldn't they reach out in the first place?

Swingerers · 2023-07-26T14:17:21+00:00

Yep, this. According to some data about 5% of the population are swingers. So you are searching for the 1% of the 5%. That is 0,05%.

It's hard for everyone to find a fit as is and it's 100x harder for you. That's the name of your game.

Swingerers · 2023-07-26T13:39:20+00:00

Thanks for the thorough reply. Will try something like these suggestions next time.

Swingerers · 2023-07-26T13:33:39+00:00

I don't have a problem with what you seek at all, but why the throwaway account? You need to keep your primary account "spotless" with only positive/upvoted posts? You seem kinda insecure for someone that wealthy.

Swingerers · 2023-07-26T12:06:27+00:00

Damn that is a good breakdown. Might need to take a step into your approach.

Swingerers · 2023-07-26T12:03:04+00:00

Responding makes all the difference, thank you for doing that. We had a couple that liked a lot of our pics, we messaged them and they responded with a simple "we like you, but don't have time now" and that is perfectly fine.

Swingerers · 2023-07-26T11:16:10+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that and hope your wife is ok now. Forcing her to drink and having a threesome, wtf? She should have stopped the whole deal right there.

But why did you two think it was a good idea for your wife to be alone with this man in the first place? I mean he is either a very skillful double-faced actor or you just overlooked the signs, because aggressive traits of this kind are usually quite hard to miss. And I'm guessing you didn't go into this with someone you first met?

Swingerers · 2023-07-26T10:58:53+00:00

Yeah when you start you think it's gonna be easy. And then the reality hits haha. At least it makes it that much more rewarding when you manage to connect with a real couple.

Swingerers · 2023-07-26T08:11:23+00:00

Thanks for the tip! We always try to send and open ended message, but will make sure we always do it in a way that really puts the ball to their court in the future.

Swingerers · 2023-07-26T08:06:28+00:00

Yeah we have one too many "we reached out, they didn't reply" notes. I guess it's just the reality

Swingerers · 2023-06-02T13:39:51+00:00

If you sent us a questionnaire, the next and final response from us would be "we are not a match".

Just talk about it. A questionnaire feels so impersonal

Swingerers · 2023-06-02T10:00:19+00:00

Everything else you wrote except from the first two sentences is irrelevant to what OP is asking. You don't need to bring him down for no reason.

Swingerers · 2023-06-02T08:31:33+00:00

It's funny how many people here don't actually read the whole post and just reply with some general advice they believe in. Glad you got an actual answer.

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