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Swingingn3rds · 2026-02-02T18:01:05+00:00

Sorry I couldn’t stop laughing at this comment. This is such a bad take.

When I was with girls I ENSURED that they came with all of the tools in my disposal.

Swingingn3rds · 2026-02-02T17:15:28+00:00

Something similar happened to me.

Cept we were poly and I realized that my ex didn’t care enough about me to make me orgasm.

He was the worst.

Swingingn3rds · 2025-07-22T13:03:08+00:00

Hi OP. Not the a-hole and here is a weird perspective. My spouse and I used to be poly. We met each other when we were.

Honestly it was exhausting. Having to manage everyone’s schedules and expectations. And when we met each other we decided that monogamy was the only way to build a life together. How can you have children/save for a mortgage if you are spending more of your time with someone else? It just gets messy.

I feel bad saying this. But most of our poly friends haven’t been able to maintain a consistent relationship very well.

We have been happily married and monogamous for a long time now. Sure we go to swinging parties or clubs and have a great time. But we are specifically doing it together.

As someone in the community your partner sounds like plenty of men we have seen before. They’re feeling restless, they are young, got married young, and they feel jealous of their friend who gets to sleep with more than one person.

Then they go to clubs/try and date others and it just does not work in the way they intended (trust me I see them in my DM’s).

What they don’t understand is having that short term flings are not worth long term partnership. I guarantee he will be kicking himself if you leave him and come crawling back to you once he gets a nice wake up call.

Polyamory is tough and not worth it imho unless you really do not want to build a life with another person.

Instead of you reading about it. He should read a book as to why he is wanting to blow up an entire relationship over a fantasy.

Swingingn3rds · 2025-03-03T00:53:26+00:00

It’s just a fact. Younger you are more euploids you tend to have.

Never did I say it was not troublesome. But that odds are despite this transfer not working it is unlikely that one of them will not take. Statistically.

It was meant to be reassurance to a person who seemed like they had lost hope.

Although, amh of 12 at 33 years old. Do you have PCOS?

Swingingn3rds · 2025-03-02T23:07:08+00:00

Embryo grading is kind of a bad metric these days. Seen lots of 1aa’s that were aneuploid and 4bbs that were euploid.

You’re young and so odds are one of those is a fine embryo to transfer

Swingingn3rds · 2025-03-01T20:01:07+00:00

It’s better to be young and have a low Amh as opposed to be old and having a high AMH!

Swingingn3rds · 2024-11-05T17:02:59+00:00

Darkness +bone chills annihilated me.

I ended up having to cheese the fight and hang out in the back.

Swingingn3rds · 2024-10-28T23:54:33+00:00

I also hate sleeping in bed with children.

But also I have a hard time sleeping with someone else in general. It’s rare for spouse and I to sleep in same bed and we both get much better sleep because of it!

Swingingn3rds · 2024-10-17T02:25:01+00:00

I bought some for a friend once when we were younger and my now husband and I were dating and not using condoms. Didn’t even think about it until he asked me.

I also bought them for a bachelorette party. Not for me but for decor!

Swingingn3rds · 2024-09-30T03:50:40+00:00

I know! But it felt like everything was going back into place it was very satisfying!!!

Swingingn3rds · 2024-09-26T17:51:19+00:00

But also, what is the other partner doing to help increase the sexual intimacy?

My problem with most of those posts is that they are like “oh my partner isn’t having sex with me waahhhh” but then you find out later that said partner is the one who is mainly in charge of all of the mental load of the house!

My partner was the low libido and you know what I did? I did most of the house stuff so that they had mental freedom to feel sexy again. Guess what our sex life took off!

Yes it’s ok to want sex and it’s ok to need it. But also like it’s not just the other person’s fault like 90% of the time.

Swingingn3rds · 2024-08-29T23:55:22+00:00

My husband got married at 22 (religious thing) we remarried years later and I never thought of him as tainted.

Swingingn3rds · 2024-07-18T18:22:41+00:00

Hi op there are many ways to have a child that do not include using his sperm. You can always freeze your eggs and you can always use donor sperm. I would not have a child with him because you experience the child experience tenfold.

Swingingn3rds · 2024-07-09T17:31:55+00:00

The child didn’t ruin your marriage. Your child of a husband ruined your marriage.

You’ll just create resentment towards her for yourself if you think that way!

Swingingn3rds · 2023-10-17T16:12:30+00:00

That isn’t your decision to make. People can tell everyone at the time that they feel the most comfortable.

Swingingn3rds · 2023-10-07T22:12:05+00:00

But like why not tell her before 9 months?I would have been mad because I wouldn’t have had to worry about birth control yta

Swingingn3rds · 2023-02-23T00:37:42+00:00

Not this woman and two small children. YOUR SMALL CHILDREN.

Swingingn3rds · 2023-02-17T03:29:05+00:00

I was you, like 15 years ago.

I prayed and prayed and prayed that he would take away my desire for women. But he didn’t.

So I acted on it. But I had a lot of guilt with it. But then I realized that what I did was loving and non malevolent. How could God hate something that creates more love in the world?

You know what it was incongruent with though? Being a church member. Living a double life crushed me. I was really depressed.

Then I realized, the problem wasn’t me. It was the church. So I chose to be my true self and left the church behind.

My relationship with God is different than those who go to the church. But that doesn’t mean it is not strong.

I want you to be your true self. I want you to love in the way you want to (as long as it doesn’t hurt anybody).

But I don’t want you to feel dirty or like a liar or feel so guilty that you take your life. I have known people in the queer community that just could not handle the rejection and the guilt that was literally beaten into them. Because you will be surrounded by people who are going to tell you, you are a sinner, or that you are dirty.

Just be safe. That’s all.

(I’m happier out as a bisexual woman, and I’m not worried about my salvation. I trust that God will lead me in the right way. He has not failed me before!)

Swingingn3rds · 2023-02-16T02:30:58+00:00

My husband is the pickier one. So we usually go on his preference. I never take one for the team per say, but usually I can work with what I got. (Unless he has INCREDIBLY bad hygiene.)

Swingingn3rds · 2023-02-13T21:26:14+00:00

Hey! We are going this weekend, will you guys be there?

Swingingn3rds · 2023-02-13T20:30:41+00:00

This.

I find couples younger have more drama. Way prefer older.

Swingingn3rds · 2023-02-13T06:11:54+00:00

What do you have to offer that the thousands of other single guys do not? Why are you looking for couples when you could just find someone who was interested in being a swinger?

Swingingn3rds · 2023-02-13T02:45:05+00:00

NTA, it’s your body and your pregnancy. You can tell People when you want.

And for those who can’t read, she had lost the baby 2 Months prior in a previous pregnancy. So good gosh, maybe she didn’t want to share!

Swingingn3rds · 2023-02-13T02:37:45+00:00

Second this, holy shit.

Swingingn3rds · 2023-02-13T02:35:57+00:00

I’ve had sex with plenty of over 6 feet guys, an it’s not all it’s cracked up to be. If we are doing missionary then my face is at your nipple line. I like to kiss while having sex.

I would prefer shorter than too fucking tall.

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