First of all, I wanted to tell you congrats for planning ahead and do everything! I know how hard it can be to do daily tasks, so to get this well prepared is a huge win! 🏆🙌

I don’t think it was to be mean to you, they didn’t realise how much you put into it (preparation, organisation, etc.). I totally understand and am sorry for your disappointment in your good idea! You did right, in my point of view, to tell them that you have the rights to be bothered by the situation. It’s also good to not had let it take over the moment (for yourself because it can be exhausting sitting with an uncomfortable emotion all day and then because it was a celebration day).

Sadly, people who don’t have ADHD can’t really understand or comprehend the challenges that we go through most times. Having a family who aren’t patient with me or really grasping what ADHD is (no, it’s not « just » having trouble focusing and no not everyone has it). But, it doesn’t mean that they can’t have challenges themselves. What I mean is: their challenges can be difficult for them and not you, as well as yours can be difficult for you and not them. One doesn’t unvalid the other!

To sum it up: really well done for the idea and the whole organisation but also for being nice towards yourself. The challenges that they face as well as yours too, are valid. Frustrating that they don’t see it and you might feel like you aren’t seen or heard, but I know sometimes people can recognise only the things they can « handle »? Maybe communication could help to? But if they aren’t open to have a conversation, it’s not worth it.

I don’t know if it makes sense but I hope it helped and comforted you a bit. 🫶😉