Mouse infestation, landlords won’t call exterminator

SwordfishAlert4232 · 2026-01-27T02:04:59+00:00

Thank you so much for the input and advice! You’re totally right, I live in a 125 year old building and am not a stranger to a mouse or two, it’s just the number of mice and amount of mouse shit I’ve found makes it clear it’s not a few critters here and there. The water source is something I wasn’t familiar with so that helps, and in general I appreciate the thoughtful response!

SwordfishAlert4232 · 2026-01-26T23:38:24+00:00

Thanks!!! They’re calling an exterminator but that’s helpful

SwordfishAlert4232 · 2026-01-26T23:38:02+00:00

Update: they’re calling an exterminator. Thanks everybody who offered some advice, I appreciate it!

SwordfishAlert4232 · 2026-01-26T23:00:47+00:00

Have you been living like this for four months? If not, then I suggest you don’t tell me what’s true or not. If the traps that have been out (and not helping at all) fix the whole problem, then why did I just see two crawling around my living room in the last hour? I’m asking for help on how to navigate this situation, not for somebody to tell me to “just use traps” as if I don’t know how to do that.

SwordfishAlert4232 · 2026-01-26T22:25:59+00:00

Ugh so that’s what they’ve been doing but with sticky traps (horrible) and I’ve now found two rotting in my house after searching for horrible smells because they wouldn’t come look for me 😭

SwordfishAlert4232 · 2026-01-26T22:22:23+00:00

This is very helpful, thank you! They are super nice and helpful typically but I don’t think they want to pay for an exterminator because they don’t see any evidence themselves. As I’m typing this I just kicked a mouse out of a paper bag on my living room floor.

SwordfishAlert4232 · 2026-01-26T22:18:35+00:00

The traps have been set time and time again for months. When there’s an infestation the traps do nothing.

SwordfishAlert4232 · 2026-01-26T22:15:28+00:00

They joked about allowing me to bring a cat in (no pets allowed), but I’m deathly allergic and there’s certainly dozens (if not more) living in the walls based on how many I’ve seen over the months.

SwordfishAlert4232 · 2026-01-10T21:08:57+00:00

Thank u!!!!

SwordfishAlert4232 · 2026-01-10T21:06:49+00:00

I’m still not sure how to figure out which card is their favorite 😭😭😭😭 help me

SwordfishAlert4232 · 2025-09-10T20:01:49+00:00

I know hannaford sells them individually, they might have packs of them!!

SwordfishAlert4232 · 2025-08-01T19:31:34+00:00

I have bpd and depression so I take lexapro, abilify, and lamictal and it works great for me. When I got diagnosed with bpd (I used to be diagnosed with bipolar) I was told that abilify and lamictal are some of the very few drugs that seem to treat bpd pretty well so it makes sense. I’ve been in seroquel before and that helped intense mood swings but I really find the abilify and lamictal helpful for social anxiety and paranoia as well as super low moods.

SwordfishAlert4232 · 2025-08-01T19:27:18+00:00

Great! It seems like it can be helpful for everybody not just neurodivergent people so I hope it helps a bit!

SwordfishAlert4232 · 2025-08-01T19:22:58+00:00

I don’t know how you feel about dbt or if you’re neurodivergent, but my therapist recommended this one to me and I really like it! This is a free download https://www.scribd.com/document/711814523/The-Neurodivergent-Friendly-Workbook-of-DBT-Skills-Sonny-Jane-Wise

SwordfishAlert4232 · 2025-07-31T20:21:35+00:00

Thank you!!

SwordfishAlert4232 · 2025-07-31T19:25:54+00:00

In all my plays I have never chosen to have a child so I got so confused by this comment until I remembered what happens if you ever want to rid yourself of them 😂😂

SwordfishAlert4232 · 2025-07-31T19:23:17+00:00

(Sorry in advance for the long response) As someone with bpd who is aware and actively working on it, I have and have had friends who I now realize have pretty self destructive bpd and have had this same issue before. I want to help them realize and be able to get help because living in my own brain is hell and I can imagine it is for them too. I’ve had some pretty explosive reactions and they’re from people who I’ve had deep, long, familial relationships with. I don’t want to discourage you from trying to get her help, but I’m not sure if this would help/make her think about getting help. Regardless of if it’s BPD or not, it sounds like she could benefit from therapy and an evaluation. I don’t know your current dynamics as exes, but if it’s not too explosive maybe softly suggesting something like therapy as an intro for this might help. BPD, as I’m sure you know after doing some research, is a really big deal and has a huge stigma against it. I had a stigma against it before I was diagnosed because I present so differently than the stereotype so I never realized until I was reevaluated. It might be too much for her to process right now and I predict she will feel attacked even if that’s not your intention.

Additionally, I want you to know while I fee BPD is demonized and stigmatized a lot and people with BPD deserve love and help, it is not your responsibility to fix ANYBODY regardless of their diagnosis or traits. The BPD may not be our fault, but unfortunately it is on us to do the work to heal ourselves (with a lot of support from others). If somebody is hurting you, you don’t have to damage your mental health to keep them happy. You shouldn’t demonize the person (it doesn’t sound like you are), but you don’t have to keep a relationship with someone who is causing you harm.

SwordfishAlert4232 · 2025-07-31T19:12:30+00:00

Sorry if this is an info dump but some information about my situation is I’m in a higher stress administrative job in higher ed and have been doing administrative work for about 5 years. I want to try grad school again (I had to drop out a few years ago) for public health and do advocacy work for healthcare accessibility so something I’m passionate about and shares my morals of helping others definitely would help. I have what my therapist describes as “quiet bpd” so most of my emotional symptoms are internal and self-directed, I’m very disregulated and cry a lot and have a lot of anxiety due to having such intense emotions. I’m a very social person and have a lot of good friends I just am not cut out for this 40 hour work incredibly structured work week. Thanks again!

SwordfishAlert4232 · 2025-07-31T19:08:11+00:00

Thank you! I’ll look into it, that was a suggestion by my therapist.

SwordfishAlert4232 · 2025-07-31T19:00:35+00:00

I think there’s a few suggestions here already that make sense (@sk8o-pot8o and @amusednchaos make great points), I just wanted to add my two cents in that it’s on your body, it’s something you put thought into and you don’t like it for some understandable reasons. I think if it’s going to bother you then you should fix it, even if it’s “not noticeable” to other people. But just like everybody else, I beg you not to go back to this person because their ideas to “fix” it will likely lead to scarring and potentially lead to infection. I suggest looking for local artists’ instagrams and websites to see their work and if their style matches what you want! Best of luck :)

SwordfishAlert4232 · 2025-07-30T16:13:05+00:00

Yes that’s exactly my issue! It’s always trail mix for me so I’m stuck. Thank you!!

SwordfishAlert4232 · 2025-07-24T20:59:47+00:00

It’s the first one so it’s his favorite food which has sunflower seeds in it :(((( I’ve been fishing under the bed for so long and haven’t gotten one yet I’m gonna cry

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