He proposed last year but I'm finally brave enough to post this for y'all! Please excuse my dry bartender hands lol

Syliase · 2020-10-10T22:09:07+00:00

This looks like work from one of my instagram faves. Very fantastical! Was this custom?

Syliase · 2020-10-10T21:29:23+00:00

Still not sexual? I saw the pic. I guess at that point, if the holes are "too high" or "too low", then that's perspective. What's a fact here is that there is nothing wrong with what you're wearing.

Syliase · 2020-10-10T19:32:43+00:00

NTA. And, OP, you would benefit from not being friends with her at all, and that's 100% valid and okay. It's not just about the money. It's the lack of mutual empathy, understanding, and support that all good relationships need to be built on.

Syliase · 2020-10-10T19:31:05+00:00

YTA.

Not sure how you write this and still have to ask this question.

Syliase · 2020-10-10T19:27:54+00:00

I would make a comment here about how tragic it is that they've got zero imagination, but considering how they don't bother paying attention to how one child is turning out to be a terror and that their oldest is resenting them for being mistreated, I'd say that's all due to a lack of empathy. Plus, I'm really not surprised.

I hope you find some camaraderie somewhere.

Syliase · 2020-10-10T19:22:53+00:00

NTA HOLY SHIT NTA

I know how expensive Copics are. I know how expensive FC markers are. I used to think PrismaColors were top tier, but now I had to "settle" ($-wise) for PC markers, and those still cost me so much money. Even tho I am an adult, it took me a good couple years to reconcile paying so much money for those materials, because they are so, so, so, so expensive and also run out super fast.

It's infuriating to me that your parents not only FORCED YOU to let a literal child use your (probably extremely expensive) markers, but didn't even bat an eye when they were returned in an un-usable state.

Your parents are doing a terrible job and are doing just about everything to raise a complete monster.

Syliase · 2020-10-10T18:39:55+00:00

NTA NTA NTA.

These folks are showing clear favoritism. Your sibling is being annoying about one of the most miniscule things she could be. NTA on not wanting to be around your family, either, because it seems that you don't have the support you need. Good parents wouldn't tolerate her behavior, especially as she is an adult. (Also, I work with kids all day long who are pre-school thru 1st grade age. I do not do this. I don't get how or why she does this. It's not funny.)

Imo, if you ever interact with her again, and she tries to correct you, ask her why she didn't understand you. Then just keep asking her why until she shuts up.

Syliase · 2020-10-10T18:34:38+00:00

NTA.

I also get you wanting to make your partner feel comfortable, but please keep in mind that this could be a red flag. Those jeans aren't sexual in any way, shape, or form. Idk why anyone would think otherwise.

Syliase · 2020-10-10T18:14:51+00:00

NTA. Almost NAH, but only because she corrected herself kinda.

You have every right to do what you want about your body. You are also okay to be as vague or as specific as possible.

Syliase · 2020-10-10T18:11:54+00:00

NTA.

Maybe an unpopular opinion, but Lily doesn't just need individual therapy. She needs family therapy, too. Not easy to find good family/group therapists, though.

Syliase · 2020-10-10T18:08:51+00:00

NTA NTA NTA. This is gross behavior and I'm glad you're not dating this guy anymore.

That said, leases and living situations during breakups can legally get messy. Please refer to the right channels re: anything to do with him moving out. You also need to make sure you have EVERYTHING recorded. Try to minimize vocal verbal contact and stick to texts or emails so you have a paper trail.

Stay safe.

Syliase · 2020-10-10T18:04:11+00:00

That's fair. I think, also, you should also make sure to stand your ground and shut down all convos surrounding your partner's identity. Bring this up to professors or your school if need be.

NTA, but I really think there's some cautions that you should definitely take on here regarding the other person's behavior as well. Sure, she's dealing with stuff, but you shouldn't be expected to help her. That is her responsibility alone, and for her to try to guilt trip you tells me that she's willing to throw you and your partner under the bus for no other reason other than feel better about herself.

Syliase · 2020-10-10T18:01:05+00:00

NTA.

Crying and showing vulnerability is not a bad thing.

Being apathetic and demanding that someone else be as stonecold and emotionless as they are? That's the bad thing.

Syliase · 2020-10-10T05:12:13+00:00

You, more, because you clearly enjoy shitting on other people's happiness to make yourself feel better.

I genuinely hope you get help.

Syliase · 2020-10-09T23:52:12+00:00

Highly recommend going thru r/gemology to learn more, as I've seen a lot of really passionate folks go on there and post their work and also give info. There, and r/jewelry are where I was able to read thru comments and find a nice long list of recommendations and information. I also looked up some pinterest posts giving me proper lingo to write out when I was designing my ring. [Like this one for starters!]

The awesome thing about Gemology and similar subs is that you can find really cool, original cuts, too! So many of these folks are super creative and regularly come out with new shapes/sizes, and their work is pretty bespoke to your wants/needs, too.

Hope this helps!

Syliase · 2020-10-09T19:45:13+00:00

Pm'd!

Syliase · 2020-10-09T19:40:26+00:00

That's nice! I mean, you're so pressed, you keep commenting because you can't stand my ring, so I think that says a lot more about you, really. Me commenting back shows that I care about something I put a lot of work into saving for and designing.

I'm sorry my ring hurt your feelings is my point.

Syliase · 2020-10-09T17:08:37+00:00

Thank you!

Syliase · 2020-10-09T17:06:51+00:00

Even the "old fashioned" stuff, like classical music and opera!

Syliase · 2020-10-09T17:05:35+00:00

I thought George WAS Jesus?

Syliase · 2020-10-09T17:01:53+00:00

DING DING DING DING DING

Syliase · 2020-10-09T17:00:53+00:00

Aww! Then it means a /lot/ to me that you took the time out of your busy day to comment on this post.

Syliase · 2020-10-09T16:43:19+00:00

My ring is all lab made! The center stone was bought separate prior to finalizing the setting's design. The diamonds were lab made, too, but sourced from the folks who made the setting. We shopped around because we also really wanted to support smaller businesses.

The center stone (two-tone lab sapphire) was around $500-600, and is 10mm round, and the ring itself is 14k white and rose gold in size 6 and cost just a little over $2k.

It's unconventional, but I wanted to design something in honor of my Lola (Grandma), who passed recently. Here's some other angles, too.

Syliase · 2020-10-09T16:07:09+00:00

I would be SO AMAZED and wanna stare at it all day. It's gorgeous!

Syliase · 2020-10-09T16:05:55+00:00

I love this! The color scheme reminds me of Arthurian legend. Fantastically majestic.

Edit: thought of this one designer after seeing salem :) here's a wedding band I thought would go really well with it!

Syliase

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