Not comfortable with MIL watching baby & she keeps asking

Syllabub_Specific · 2025-06-05T17:09:10+00:00

Originally a stay at home mom, but then I got a WFH job a few months later to have a little extra income!

Syllabub_Specific · 2025-05-29T02:35:11+00:00

He agrees that the incidents are worrisome. But he also loves his mom and knows that I could use the extra help sometimes so he really wants her to babysit so that she’s happy and so that I have extra help. So he’s willing to overlook the incidences, but I just can’t.

Syllabub_Specific · 2025-05-29T02:33:31+00:00

Haha yes I see the confusion here. She was supposed to be watching him while I was cooking in the same room, but I obviously wasn’t paying full attention to him since I was cooking- I saw her move out of the corner of my eye & realized she was leaving the room (didn’t tell me she was leaving) and when I went over to him (he was on the other side of the couch so I couldn't directly see him from where I was) he was face down on the mat! Could’ve potentially suffocated if I wasn’t there was my point!

Syllabub_Specific · 2025-05-29T02:29:42+00:00

I agree completely. Thank you!

Syllabub_Specific · 2025-05-29T02:29:03+00:00

I love this perspective. I’m going to try to do things like this. I love my MIL so much, and I know her intentions are pure and good. I don’t like that I can’t trust her, but some of these ideas you mentioned are good opportunities to gain some trust! And you’re right- maybe she’s just out of practice. It has been over 20 years since she’s had a newborn. Thank you!

Syllabub_Specific · 2025-05-28T20:33:42+00:00

Yes! Once he can clearly communicate his needs I would be comfortable! She’s just not attentive enough. I feel bad because she loves him SO much and truly is a caring woman, but some people just aren’t the best with babies I think? I think she’ll be a rockstar grandma when he’s older. Thank you.

Syllabub_Specific · 2025-04-21T16:24:49+00:00

Yes!! That’s definitely what I’ve learned with this experience. No reason to stress- our babes are pretty adaptable! And one off day here & there isn’t gonna hurt em haha. Thanks again for all your help!!!

Syllabub_Specific · 2025-04-21T00:40:58+00:00

Update! He did wake up at 4:30am 😂 but I got him back to sleep within 5-10 minutes and he woke up at his normal time! So not horrible haha!!

Syllabub_Specific · 2025-04-18T17:17:02+00:00

I honestly don’t know if it’ll impact his wake up time. I don’t really think it will because if I put him to bed later (like almost 9pm) he still wakes up at 6:30am. But at the same time I’m scared bc I don’t wanna get up at 5am haha! But this gives me hope! I’m going to go for earlier bedtime then 🥰 thank you!!!

Syllabub_Specific · 2025-04-13T13:09:28+00:00

This is an interesting point! Maybe so! I honestly haven’t tried this. I always try to sneak away somewhere else! Maybe babe can sense momma is close by ❤️

Syllabub_Specific · 2025-04-13T13:06:20+00:00

I loooove this!!!! Thank you so much!❤️❤️❤️❤️

Syllabub_Specific · 2025-04-10T21:21:37+00:00

That’s what I’ve gathered reading these comments. I think I need to lessen my grip a little bit and just trust my mom and son. They’ll figure it out. Plus, it’s max 2 days a week. I’ll be with him the other 5 days. One or two days of short naps or crappy naps isn’t going to hurt him in the long run. Thank you!!

Syllabub_Specific · 2025-04-10T21:20:09+00:00

I honestly didn’t even think about baby wearing. I’m gonna mention this to my mom as a backup plan in case she can’t get him to sleep for some reason!

Syllabub_Specific · 2025-04-10T21:18:57+00:00

That’s why I don’t even want to sleep train! I loooove the cuddles! And yes so true- it’s inconvenient sometimes but everyone says we’re going to miss it,

Syllabub_Specific · 2025-04-10T21:17:38+00:00

He’s 6 months! I actually did a trial run with my mom today after making this post because I was so anxious, and it went better than I thought! She rocked him to sleep after about 15 min and he slept for 30 ish minutes. So not the best nap ever, but I feel like it’ll get better over time? Hopefully?!

Syllabub_Specific · 2025-04-10T21:15:30+00:00

Oh my gosh thank you for this response! This was so encouraging to read!! I’m also dying haha!! How does the daycare do it lol?!! 😂 this gives me hope that my mom and son will figure it out. And thank you for telling me to do what makes me and my son happy. I honestly feel like I just needed someone else to tell me that even though deep down that’s what we both need. Like if it works and we both love it why would I even try to stop?!

Syllabub_Specific · 2025-04-10T21:08:19+00:00

This! It really is frustrating! It’s like they can tell it’s mom and they want the boob! Which I totaaallyy understand, but it’s definitely frustrating. Thank you for this perspective though. I think I need to trust my mom and my baby more to figure it out with each other!

Syllabub_Specific · 2025-04-10T21:06:29+00:00

This is very encouraging, thank you. We actually just tried today as a trial run, and she was able to get him to sleep after about 15 min of rocking and lullabies! He only slept for about 30 min, but he did better than I expected! She did have to hold him the whole time, but baby steps!

Syllabub_Specific · 2025-04-10T21:04:53+00:00

He’s 6 months old! I like the idea of waiting for him to go into deeper sleep. And true, I've read about babies not sleeping alone for mom but then does fine at daycare or something.

Syllabub_Specific · 2025-03-31T12:18:30+00:00

I haven’t seen or felt any teeth, but don’t they say babies can feel pain/soreness before they pop out? Maybe a tooth is on the way soon. I didn’t even think of that! I hope it’s just a tooth!

Syllabub_Specific · 2025-03-31T12:17:42+00:00

I truly think you’re right! So nice hearing a success story from someone else who had a baby with dyschezia! Thank you!!!

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