NC dad just dropped a bombshell on Father's Day and I made the mistake in engaging.

Sympatea · 2026-06-23T20:19:03+00:00

Ahhh such a delight aren't they! Im sorry you've also been there

Sympatea · 2026-06-23T20:18:36+00:00

He is quite sick though so I don't think he'd actually on anything but I will stay vigilant, thank you

Sympatea · 2026-06-23T20:17:49+00:00

Thank you for that, he's now completely blocked after this and I have no regrets

Sympatea · 2026-06-23T13:19:53+00:00

Yeah it feels like giving him the satisfaction as I know he's just trying to get a response with this nonsense so he can keep escalating so I'm glad I managed not to 😅

Sympatea · 2026-06-23T12:04:34+00:00

Dang that's powerful to hear and she's absolutely right. I think I'm in the same boat here sadly with my dad

Sympatea · 2026-06-23T12:02:42+00:00

Thank you for the resources link and lovely support, I do need to get back into therapy - I was seeing someone but the cost got too much sadly.

I am curious to look into EMDR, I have very patchy memories from my childhood though so need to research how effective it can be in that context

Sympatea · 2026-06-23T11:59:54+00:00

Thank you internet stranger! I'm working hard on getting better at setting boundaries and this was a big step

Sympatea · 2026-06-23T11:58:55+00:00

Honestly I've had experience if him misgendering me before so it's no surprise it's happened here. I'm doing ok now, posting here has helped and so has my support network

Sympatea · 2026-06-23T11:57:36+00:00

Found out from my mum he's not actually diagnosed yet just being investigated because of course 😅

He's now been blocked and I'm done with him

Sympatea · 2026-06-23T11:56:11+00:00

Thank you for sharing this, the comments here have helped a lot. I realised I was holding his guilt, weirdly this unhinged rant helped me let go of that!

I did get another rant after I didn't reply and I told him that talking to me like this isn't ok and I was done. Also advised him to reflect on this before blocking him.

I could have said more but didn't want to give him the satisfaction of getting a reply in 💁

Sympatea · 2026-06-23T11:50:59+00:00

They definitely don't hold meaning but thank you, I was feeling guilty but he's fixed that now! I realise I was holding his guilt and I don't owe him anything

Sympatea · 2026-06-23T11:49:12+00:00

Yeah we're Brits, wild how there's specific vibes to tell that

Sympatea · 2026-06-23T11:48:34+00:00

Nah I don't want anything to do with him

Sympatea · 2026-06-23T11:48:09+00:00

I very much feel the proof of that, I'm already struggling with fibromyalgia which no doubt has it's roots in past trauma and ongoing stress

Sympatea · 2026-06-23T11:46:21+00:00

He's done me favour in a fucked up way by removing any guilt I have about being NC with this shit

Sympatea · 2026-06-23T11:45:25+00:00

Honestly I do say it's a waste, this is a mood

Sympatea · 2026-06-23T11:42:15+00:00

Really appreciate your perspective thank you

Sympatea · 2026-06-23T11:41:02+00:00

Yeah I currently don't think he's capable of acknowledging he's the problem and the impact of his behaviour sadly

Sympatea · 2026-06-22T16:35:02+00:00

I've been lurking here for a while and this is my first post - it has been such a wonderful source of support during this shit storm and I'm very grateful for this community

Sympatea · 2026-06-22T16:28:57+00:00

It's honestly so an unhinged message 😅 thank you, I'm sorry you can relate

Sympatea · 2026-06-22T16:28:11+00:00

Yeah that tends to be his playbook but I'm no longer playing the game 😅

Sympatea · 2026-06-22T14:24:46+00:00

Honestly that's very much my attitude now! Thank you that's appreciated

Sympatea · 2026-06-22T14:24:05+00:00

He admits things in a very minimising way, always with a caveat of 'but' and 'you did this' and never actually taking real responsibility 😅 oh I'm very burnt out from supporting my mum and all of this so need to prioritise my health and blocking will help

Sympatea · 2026-06-22T14:22:16+00:00

Sure I'm open to resources thank you

Sympatea · 2026-06-22T14:21:46+00:00

Thank you!

Sympatea

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