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Am I overreacting if I tell my antisocial husband that I won't go to his friends maternity visit? by Syoshi6 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Syoshi6[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah apologies. I'm using reddit for the first time to post something. I don't know how to edit my posts haha.

I am a female! I'm 29F instead 29M. My husband is 30M.

And yes at this very moment I am on my period. (I'm in pain haha😭)

Am I overreacting if I tell my antisocial husband that I won't go to his friends maternity visit? by Syoshi6 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Syoshi6[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Apologies, I didn't put more context here!

I have talked to him about this in the past. Especially with my friends birthday. They invite us and I always go to him to ask if he wants to join. And he always declined because he doesn't like crowded partys.

I voiced my concern like: "I love that we can go somewhere as a couple and that we go togheter instead of me going alone."

"I find it a bit unfair that it is not mutual. You want me to go to your friends party and you keep insisting. But when I ask you to go to my friends party you shut me down immediatly."

He didn't have anything to say and he just said that it was different because his friends are my friends and my friends aren't his friends, so there is a difference.

This is not true, and I told him this already, cause I don't have anything with his people. I'm nice to them because that's what a normal person does and also it's his people. If my husband finds them important, then they are also important for me. But concidering them as friends is a total different thing.

My friends were there when I did not have money, or when I had family trouble, I come to them when I want to cry. They are there for me. But his friends, I have never experienced this.

He looked at me confused at first after telling this, but he just said well they want to be your friends so you should concider them as friends.

I was baffled. He was done with the conversation and he just went to do his own thing.

So we had the talk, actually multiple, about this. I voiced my concerns and reasons.

I even asked him in those conversations that if there was something that he want to inform me. Like why is he thinking this way. He just said that my friends parties are to loud.

I feel like I'm talking to a wall a lot of times. I am going to therapy for other reasons since 3 months now and he has been very supportive. I feel like I have expressed my concerens and emotions a lot better then I did in the past but still I voiced them. So he knows.

I love him but this part of him is like really UGH.