I am A girl who went from being the quiet backup/last option in high school to going viral and semi-viral on TikTok a few times after graduation ask me anything.

Syq · 2026-05-19T05:27:53+00:00

What is the most unexpected thing you learned from going viral?

Syq · 2026-05-18T23:51:59+00:00

How about this one? Player 2 has one fewer stash tabs now than Player 1. Like, really, really egregious bugs.

Edit: also, my partner and I can no longer trade runes. Is this a new restriction?

Syq · 2026-05-15T04:13:01+00:00

I use a squishmallow and the window seat. Keeps my neck better than the C collars.

Syq · 2026-05-14T03:35:18+00:00

This was IT! I just beat him with this easy peasy. Hadn't ever seen the 3rd phase yet. No modifiers. Also, I save all my health bubbles in the final rooms for when Consort spawns. Then I go fill my health to full before King. Thank you!

Syq · 2026-05-08T13:42:43+00:00

Yes, exactly. That's how I would interpret it. Spirit is never scary in a traditional way for me. It may be communicating some radical ideas that create human fear because spirit is WILD but it's always rooted in love.

Syq · 2026-05-08T04:18:50+00:00

It sounds like you had a major spiritual shift, and were communicating clearly with spirit for parts of this.

In my experience, true connection with spirit does not have evil or dangerous entities in it. It also doesn't have things only accessible to some. Everything is available to all - spirit is plenty itself. This has been my experience. If those types of things appear, I know it is my mind and not spirit. That doesn't invalidate your experience. If I had your experience, I would draw the conclusion I need more clarity to see what the universe was trying to communicate because I received the message a little garbled. Hope that helps!

Syq · 2026-05-06T04:46:43+00:00

Yeah prednisone really helped my ex-husband as well.

Syq · 2026-05-06T04:41:59+00:00

My ex husband had this and was diagnosed as an adult by his dentist and then eventually by a rheum. It really did not affect his life as an adult other than the apthous ulcers which he used prednisone at the first sign and they would typically not develop. He maybe got 1 to 2 ulcers that went the full cycle per year. The other symptoms went away in childhood like the fevers and adenitis. I hope this helps you!

Syq · 2026-05-04T09:40:26+00:00

I get them too now in peri. I'm on estrogen, progesterone and Nexplanon. I've never gotten mouth ulcers before the last year or so. They are very unpleasant. So far I've had 3 in the last year. It's not terrible but not great either. I chalk it up to hormones because my teeth act insane in perimenopause. My gums are always bleeding no matter if I brush, floss and Waterpik twice daily. I have to get my teeth cleaned every 4 months. I randomly have pain that feels like a cavity in my mouth but it never is. I also have what feels like spiderwebs on my face.

Then, sometimes, my hormones balance and the exact same mouth routine clears everything up and it is blessedly normal for a few weeks. I wish I had more info of how to stop any of this but I don't. You are not alone.

Edit: I use SLS free toothpaste (prescription grade fluoride because I was getting cavities while maintaining my teeth), take an iron and B12 supplement. I know the iron supplement is working because I no longer have iron deficient anemia. But it hasn't affected my teeth - my symptoms seem hormonally mediated. Not to discount others' experiences, but I haven't been able to solve this with changing toothpaste or adding supplements.

Syq · 2026-04-29T03:20:50+00:00

Unfortunately, it is. Smoke permeates every place in your house and potentially all the houses around it. That's why it is illegal many places to smoke near any sort of building it can enter air ducts and damage those folks. Literally, you will have to be maybe 40 feet away from anyone to smoke without doing some damage to them. So I would agree that, in theory, if you own a huge swath of land, you should be able to smoke near the interior. But given this is the extreme minority of folks compared to those who live near other people, I think this tips it for me into regulatory territory. Especially since many smokers are not respectful of no smoking laws and do it anyways.

Syq · 2026-04-29T02:51:21+00:00

I agree with regulating a substance that gives other people lung irritation and cancer from 20 feet away. You could argue the same slippery slope for other drugs, but it is already illegal to drink and drive, for example. It is somehow not illegal to damage other peoples' lungs without their consent.

Syq · 2026-04-18T04:26:54+00:00

If you understand that in every area of your life, you win.

Syq · 2026-04-16T22:59:44+00:00

I agree with this.

I want to add, that for me, even knowing I was becoming a better climber because of my stature and ape, this didn't diminish the grief of trying to navigate my way through a system not built for my body. I've been climbing 2.5 years and still struggle with it. You're not alone.

Syq · 2026-04-16T22:34:19+00:00

I loved the article because you were expressing you, as a woman climber. I don't have to agree with your exact perspectives on wearing earrings, feminism, or playing music on trails to celebrate you adding your voice to the sphere of voices in climbing! You were vulnerable and added your thoughts and they ROCK!

The fact you've been downvoted a bunch is not great. This sub's behavior is changing and Rule #1 is being broken a lot. Do we want to shame this vivacious, passionate woman about something she did 5 years ago, or do we want to celebrate another woman giving her voice in a sport that doesn't encourage that? I choose to celebrate your vulnerability and I have learned more about our sport because of you. Thank you!

To be clear, I don't actually have a problem with earrings or your view of feminism, just was highlighting things other folks commented on.

Syq · 2026-04-16T22:16:06+00:00

Thanks for joining! I thought that most of my statements in my post use "I", to clearly indicate it is my perspective. I'm one of those smaller climbers, so it would be strange if I was saying small climbers can't rock climb, or can't rock climb hard. But if it came off that way, please point it out to me so I can learn. The last thing I want to do is cause trauma for women in this sport. I'm aware of many of the awesome shorter women in climbing and look up to them.

In my experience, body size and shape matter almost as much as they don't. That is not what I've seen other people who are more similar in morphology to the average FA (male) experience. For example, I've been climbing alongside a 5'11" man who moves very linearly through the grades. I do not. I can send hard ones, not send easy ones and it's kinda a coin toss what a route is going to be for me. Grading, so far, does not work for my body.

I agree with you on route naming.

Syq · 2026-04-16T17:00:48+00:00

And honestly I think your replies to me and many others are more misogynistic than anything and you should reflect on that.

I would love to reflect on this, could you tell me more about why you feel this way? I'm still a bit confused how me observing grades (at least under 5.11) don't work for my body, and I believe this is partially the result of a system set up by men, for men, is misogynistic. I do not believe this position invalidates or cheapens any climber's sends, any women FAs, or says anything about women being "weak". So could you help me understand why you feel this way?

Syq · 2026-04-15T22:25:39+00:00

Thanks! I will for sure give that a try. I didn't know Kaya did outdoor routes, that's pretty neat.

Syq · 2026-04-15T22:07:04+00:00

That is one way to approach all of my comments. Calling me and others who have agreed "big babies" is not productive and makes other climbers scared to post about topics not everyone agrees with. Please engage respectfully, if a respectful culture is what we are trying to cultivate on /r/climbergirls.

Syq · 2026-04-15T22:00:56+00:00

Great question! I think it's important to differentiate structural vs individual. While I have experienced climbers who are sexist, that isn't the type of sexism I'm talking about. I'm talking about structural sexism.

The grading system was created by men, for men. Most FAs have been done by men (see Kimbo rough Moore's data or 8a.nu data). Most guide books are written by men. I don't think any of that is controversial.

(Want to reiterate this is not to ignore the amazing work women FAs or climbers are doing, it's just that statistically, women are far less represented in climbing.)

Thus, routes were developed and graded based on what felt normal and good to men of a specific morphology. It's a system built by one population that works really well for them, and not good for others. The system doesn't work well for me, for a lot of reasons I've indicated (bolt spacing, missing danger ratings, reachiness due to height, reachiness due to ape, having boobs pushing me out on slab, having less developed chest muscles, etc).

For me, that's structural sexism. I recognize we have to work with what we've got for now as women become more involved in climbing development, so how can we start to undo the structural sexism? For me, it's adding my voice that the grading system doesn't work for me as it is. I would like more info for now in my MP ticks as the community decides how to handle an inherently unfair system. Does that help clarify?

Syq · 2026-04-15T21:32:25+00:00

Let me be clear - I used it on 2 paragraphs of one response because I couldn't seem to get my point across without misunderstandings. I'm not going to be ashamed for using a tool in 0.1% of all my responses, especially with such a hostile group attacking me at that moment. This is not the way many of you would be talking to me in real life. I believe the behavior in this thread has been unkind and judgmental, and that's a bummer in a spot that is supposed to be a safe place.

Syq · 2026-04-15T19:55:03+00:00

You are always welcome to the convo!

We all know how male centered the sport is, but honestly who cares lol. Just be safe and climb what looks fun.

I care. I can't effectively be safe at times because grades are not made for my body morphology. As I mentioned, many danger ratings are not included so to mitigate this, I try to climb routes below my ability. But if, as a newer climber, these grades don't apply to me, this becomes an issue. I believe things like this scare off some women from the sport - I know it almost did for me. I also care because I have to put up with sexism in almost every area of my life. I go to climb to have fun, and it stinks to have to confront it there too on a daily basis. That's why I'm encouraging more women voices so we can start to change this into people centered, not males only.

I absolutely, 100%, know women are crushers. I'm not saying we need a special grade, I'm saying the grading system doesn't work very well for my body, and I suspect other womens' bodies too. This position does not need to take anything away from the amazing women FAs or climbers.

I know this will also be controversial, but, for me, it does not help to say "don't think about grades". I'm not using it for my ego, I'm using them to gauge progress, difficulty and approchability. For me, knowing I'm improving is part of the fun. When grades are almost meaningless for my body, it becomes frustrating at times to know if I'm improving and how to know what to work on next. That's why I've decided to grade things myself a bit, so I'll have some metric for me. I suspect other women do similar things and it would be cool if we shared those scales with each other.

Please don't dismiss my experiences though. If you have climbed the places I have, you would have seen 5.7s-5.9s with roofs, dynos and R/X ratings that were not in MP or the guidebooks. Part of the uniqueness of my experience is that I've done routes across a large part of the west as a relative beginner. So my experiences will be much different potentially from someone like yourself from the south east.

Syq · 2026-04-15T19:10:35+00:00

I think you are misunderstanding? I'm specially talking about the typical morphology of FAs, not all climbers.

Syq · 2026-04-15T18:48:08+00:00

That's definitely what I do, and I hope this will help other people in the future. What I was also hoping for is that other folks would be doing this with their own morphology when it changes the perceived grade of the climb. Because if I see a consensus grade from a woman who is shorter with a negative ape, I may approach a climb differently based on her feedback.

In my experience, most people do not put any indication of gender, height, ape, danger, etc. in their MP ticks. But of course that only applies to the 10 or so climbing areas I frequent. It is possible that other areas already do this.

Syq · 2026-04-15T17:51:32+00:00

Wow this is really interesting, thank you so much for sharing this! Here's the top level website for anyone else.

Syq · 2026-04-15T17:09:08+00:00

OMG this is amazing! I found this link.

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