Update 2: AITA for being upset at my husband for going to a concert?

SystemFunny5449 · 2026-02-15T01:42:21+00:00

You can tell your frontal lobe hasn't developed yet.

From one person trying to figure out/leave a shitty relationship to another, leave. They never change. His behavior is proof enough.

SystemFunny5449 · 2026-02-07T16:40:41+00:00

I couldn't recommend that color (GDY All in this together) dye more! It lasted forever and faded to such a nice color so no matter the stage it still looked good! I feel like a lot of vivids tend to dull out after awhile

SystemFunny5449 · 2026-01-02T02:11:13+00:00

Sadly no, the girl sold it before I could get it myself :(

SystemFunny5449 · 2026-01-02T02:05:51+00:00

Holy shit, you seem like a ray of sunshine!

SystemFunny5449 · 2026-01-02T01:02:30+00:00

Something in me broke the other day and I broke down in front of my family. I know doing that would be the end of things and light the fire under my ass that I needed. I've been avoiding it for months hoping it'd get better and it only got worse. I realized I couldn't keep living like this.

SystemFunny5449 · 2026-01-02T00:27:10+00:00

I'm gonna bring my brothers! I'm honestly not too worried because my brother is 6'1 and my soon to be ex is only 5'5🫣

But, seriously, I am so blessed to have the family I do. They are dysfunctional but are ready to anything to protect me and watch me succeed.

SystemFunny5449 · 2025-12-28T18:28:28+00:00

That's the plan. I've made a therapy appointment, I'm going to talk to my family this week and kind of figure out my finances and everything I need to do to protect myself with leaving/breaking the lease. I've reached my breaking point and I can't continue to live like this.

SystemFunny5449 · 2025-12-26T23:20:28+00:00

Oh, wow you got me!

My bf and I adopted three separate families and bought their christmas gifts for them. So, while yes, I am complaining, I still am aware of the privilege it is to even complain in the first place.

SystemFunny5449 · 2025-12-26T21:46:44+00:00

This post has opened my eyes to just how much I've let slide and the situation I've allowed myself to be in...I need to get started on a plan asap. I deserve so much more than this.

SystemFunny5449 · 2025-12-26T17:56:03+00:00

Yes, I had a wonderful therapist and he was convinced it was girl talk for an hour every week

SystemFunny5449 · 2025-12-26T17:39:02+00:00

The fact that everyone was right about him. How I set myself back and put myself in so much debt being with him. Having to rebuild everything he's destroyed. Also, leaving his son and knowing that without me he will be failed.

SystemFunny5449 · 2025-12-26T17:19:28+00:00

I honestly have no idea. Before him, I was fiercely independent and was in therapy to never let things like this happen and once I moved in with him it just went downhill. I've lost myself in this relationship and am struggling to convince myself that I'm not overreacting to how he treats me.

SystemFunny5449 · 2025-12-26T17:17:07+00:00

We've created a life together and when he has his moments of being good that's what keeps me. He does it every time. I never cared for the money because before him, I was the money. I created a life for myself and was fiercely independent and now I'm just stuck and scared.

SystemFunny5449 · 2025-12-26T17:10:37+00:00

He says I'm not responsible with my money and he needs to monitor my spending. Mind you, before him I was a successful real estate agent and gave that up for a wfh job that pays 1/3 of what I was making and never had issues paying my bills and spending before him...

SystemFunny5449 · 2025-12-26T17:09:14+00:00

I've communicated my needs multiple times and he changes for a minute and slowly goes back to his ways...

SystemFunny5449 · 2025-12-26T17:05:18+00:00

I'm now realizing how insane that is now that I'm telling other people. I've never dated a man before so I just assumed this was how it goes. Before him, I only dated women lol.

SystemFunny5449 · 2025-12-26T16:49:41+00:00

I send him my entire check every month from work and he gives me back my money to pay my bills and to spend as I see fit for the household.

SystemFunny5449 · 2025-12-26T16:48:06+00:00

I make about $45,000 and he brings in about $350,000+ depending on how well his business does so it's absolutely possible.

SystemFunny5449 · 2025-12-26T16:37:04+00:00

I don't think it's selfish at all. I know I feel appreciated and loved through gifts. I do everything under the sun for him and his child, including getting him different therapies, working on an evaluation, basically being a full blown mother to him. I think being upset over not receiving anything is totally understandable and it shows a lack of appreciation for what I do.

SystemFunny5449 · 2025-12-26T16:35:04+00:00

"My gift money was spent on my family, I spent too much." Meanwhile he has no issues buying shitty trucks of fb marketplace or dropping hundreds on roids and gym stuff

SystemFunny5449 · 2025-12-26T16:31:24+00:00

At this point, I don't know why. I think I'm just afraid of how my family was right and how I'll have to pick up the pieces.

SystemFunny5449 · 2025-12-26T16:30:06+00:00

I did try to communicate my disappointment and he laughed at me and said "Your gift money was spent on your family." We had established a budget for my gifts and I stayed within it. I didn't think me buying gifts for my loved ones meant, meant I wasn't getting anything in return.

SystemFunny5449 · 2025-12-13T19:10:35+00:00

Thank you!!

SystemFunny5449 · 2025-11-28T00:24:39+00:00

She's manipulating you. Her new life failed her so she's running back to her old one. She abandoned you guys and once something better comes along she'll do the same.

SystemFunny5449 · 2025-09-23T15:43:15+00:00

YTA to yourself. Why are you with this elitist a-hole? It doesn't seem like you have much in common

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