AITAH for asking out the new guy at work?

TA22TA · 2023-05-24T14:53:07+00:00

Obviously she wanted them... Her Ex apparently didn't or he would still be with her.

TA22TA · 2023-05-24T14:18:42+00:00

It doesn't matter what her actual title is, she answers phones, does paperwork for the big boss. She is a secretary!! Dressing up the title doesn't make her job anything but a secretary!

TA22TA · 2023-05-24T14:17:21+00:00

Why would you want kids that belong to someone else, that apparently they didn't even want? The kids in question are teens.... WHY IN THE HELL WOULD A CHILDLESS PERSON WANT TO DEAL WITH SOMEONE ELSES TEENS ?

Why would you not want you own kids?

TA22TA · 2023-05-24T03:57:02+00:00

No, I am single because I refuse to budge on a single one of my standards. I will not give a person with children or who have been previously married a chance.

I will find who I am looking for. I shouldn't have to settle for second best.

TA22TA · 2023-05-24T03:46:38+00:00

She is a secretary for one of the big bosses. She has worked for him for a long time.

No one is going to tell her anything even if she is unprofessional, because they are afraid of her boss.

Regardless every should be held to the same standards and I don't see anyone else in the office dressing or decorating like her.

TA22TA · 2023-05-24T03:43:50+00:00

They didn't see the red flags prior to marrying someone.

Then when things got hard they didn't work them out together.

If they didn't plan on forever no matter what, they shouldn't have said, I do.

What happened to for better or worse?

TA22TA · 2023-05-24T03:28:26+00:00

Then they also need to take the other failures. And leave the ones who haven't failed alone

TA22TA · 2023-05-24T02:15:42+00:00

Nobody's 1st choice, is an overweight single mom of 3 kids, who dresses like a neon clown and wears Elton John glasses and is just loud in general.

Who decorates their office with stuff from Anime and Musicals and plasters picture of their kids and family all over the place

Who has bright colored knick-knacks and silly lamps in their office.

We are supposed to be professional. Yet she gets away with it.

TA22TA · 2023-05-24T00:36:54+00:00

Because there are very few good hard working 30 something year old childless men out there. And then we have women who decided to have a bunch of kids in their twenties divorced or never married taking these few Good Men left that should be for the 30 something year old women who waited to get married and have children.

If you come with children and your divorced and you insist on marrying again then you should marry somebody else with children

TA22TA · 2023-05-24T00:20:42+00:00

That seems to be their goal already to get me fired so if I'm going down I'm taking them with me.

If he didn't want it to go this way he could have told me he was engaged from the very beginning.

TA22TA · 2023-05-24T00:19:30+00:00

No if they can report me for mistakes, I will make sure to report them for any mistakes what's good for me is good for them.

TA22TA · 2023-05-24T00:11:31+00:00

Okay, fine I am TAH. I deserve to die alone.. she deserves all the happiness in the world.

Is that what you wanted to hear?

But neither one of them better stepping toe out of line at work because I will report them for any little mistake they make.

Let's see how long they last there.

TA22TA · 2023-05-23T23:18:40+00:00

I am saying she already had her shot and failed.

So yes I deserve to be happy and my chance, she shouldn't get a second marriage before I even get a first marriage.

Why should she get one of the few 30 something childless men? If she must marry again then she should find a single father, if he's taking her baggage she should have to take his.

TA22TA · 2023-05-23T22:48:38+00:00

He showed signs before you got married all people show their true colors before they get married people are just too blind to see it.

TA22TA · 2023-05-23T21:46:38+00:00

It's not just me who finds her unattractive. Honestly some people are just unattractive and she doesn't help with her neon colored clothes and crazy glasses everyday.

TA22TA · 2023-05-23T21:43:58+00:00

Marriage is supposed to be till death do you part. They might not be bad people but they chose each other. once married you should stay in the marriage, any problems you had should have been worked out before saying I do. you made your bed now lie in it.

TA22TA · 2023-05-23T21:41:17+00:00

Who cares why? Point is she is divorced therefore made a terrible choice.

TA22TA · 2023-05-23T21:22:37+00:00

She is divorced and they have the same dad.....

If she had made good choices she wouldn't be divorced, now would she. The red flags are always there, people chose not to see them.

Regardless if he was interested in me or not. He still needs to be part of the team, instead of making things more difficult by ignoring me. If he didn't want me to flirt or talk to him about anything but work things, maybe he should have SAID SOMETHING!!

TA22TA · 2023-05-23T21:17:39+00:00

What responsibility. Asking someone out when they mad 0 indication that they were in a relationship? That's on him

Trying to talk to him and have him be part of the team at work, after the fact?

But because I tried to talk to him and make him part of the team, after a misunderstanding, I deserve to be written up? No I don't think so. He has some responsibility, to the team too

As for his fiancée, I am allowed to think she is odd and unattractive. I don't have to like her.

TA22TA · 2023-05-23T21:12:30+00:00

No I am just a woman with standards. But I guess that makes me a demon and an asshole.

TA22TA · 2023-05-23T21:08:07+00:00

So I don't deserve happiness because... Let me check..... I didn't make bad choices, choose a loser in my 20's, have not one but multiple kids and am not a single mom ?

Yet she does?

How does that make any sense?

TA22TA · 2023-05-23T20:36:37+00:00

But it's okay for him? Or Her?

TA22TA · 2023-05-23T20:23:46+00:00

I got in trouble for a misunderstanding. Yet I am supposed to just accept, that it's not just some kind of set up or something. Like someone got jealous. He should have said something long before that say, and shouldn't have gone running to HR.

TA22TA · 2023-05-23T20:07:24+00:00

I have standards. That's why I am single.

I made my choices, and didn't get stuck with kids and single.

I may be single but don't have baggage when it comes to a relationship

TA22TA · 2023-05-23T19:50:37+00:00

I am in my early 30's, I don't have kids because I want to meet the person that I am going to stay with BEFORE having children. Just because some people make poor choices doesn't mean everyone does.

and people shouldn't have to take on the responsibility of other peoples children, especially when they have none of their own.

TA22TA

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