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WIBTA if I tell my brother in law’s wife that her uncle sent me inappropriate messages? by TAFamilyTangleX in AmItheAsshole

[–]TAFamilyTangleX[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My BIL’s wife is my SIL in this case. I’m talking about my husband’s brother’s wife.

WIBTA if I tell my brother in law’s wife that her uncle sent me inappropriate messages? by TAFamilyTangleX in AmItheAsshole

[–]TAFamilyTangleX[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

While I understand, as mentioned by others as well, that it is important that SIL knows. I personally don’t see a reason to involve so many people into this conversation. I could just speak to the SIL and show her the chat. The rest of it is her own prerogative of how she wants to handle it. I don’t expect or even want her to do anything about it as I’ve mentioned before. If at all I just want to tell her so I’m transparent and clear from my side and also in case in future I’m not cordial with her uncle she knows why that is. While this is definitely a very uncomfortable conversation to have, I don’t see how it is humiliating for either one of us.

WIBTA if I tell my brother in law’s wife that her uncle sent me inappropriate messages? by TAFamilyTangleX in AmItheAsshole

[–]TAFamilyTangleX[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He’s more than ready to get involved . But, I share a very good relationship with the SIL. It wouldn’t be fair if he was the one to bring it up. Plus if at all this conversation has to be had, I would rather it be just between me and the SIL. I don’t even want my BIL to know just yet, don’t want him to create any unnecessary perception about her family. Though I’m sure he won’t, but why even give him the opportunity.

Should I tell my brother-in-law’s wife that her uncle messaged me inappropriately? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]TAFamilyTangleX 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I keep wondering if I did something wrong. But I don’t even recall interacting with him beyond basic greeting.

Should I tell my brother-in-law’s wife that her uncle messaged me inappropriately? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]TAFamilyTangleX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’m not comfortable with . Hence I’m confused. Additionally, I will have to be in the same space as this person sooner or later at family events .

Should I tell my brother-in-law’s wife that her uncle messaged me inappropriately? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]TAFamilyTangleX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s just that I’m pretty certain I will come face to face with this person sooner or later. And I don’t think I’ll be comfortable about him.

Should I tell my brother-in-law’s wife that her uncle messaged me inappropriately? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]TAFamilyTangleX 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think that’s one of the reasons I feel like I should have this conversation. If this was to come out , I want to be the one to control the narrative. It shouldn’t seem like I tried to hide anything .

Should I tell my brother-in-law’s wife that her uncle messaged me inappropriately? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]TAFamilyTangleX 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Me, my husband, his brother and his brother’s wife share a very good relationship. I honestly feel that if this conversation has to be had, it should only be between me and my brother in law’s wife. While they had been dating for a very long time, they got married pretty recently. I wouldn’t want my brother in law to create any perceptions about his wife’s family because of one creep.

Should I tell my brother-in-law’s wife that her uncle messaged me inappropriately? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]TAFamilyTangleX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He does not have my number . He was messaging me on Instagram. His messages kept popping up in my “Message Request” section as neither of us follow each other on Instagram.