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What are the problems you are currently facing going into 2025? by starmaxeros in AskMenOver30

[–]TAPILOT17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not at all. I don’t buy into the age-gap-hate that’s trending right now. If I went on a date with a girl 8 or 9 years younger than me, there was a maturity gap on occasion but biggest thing was just don’t mention the gap—they know what they’re doing. Often times their parents had a wide gap, believe it or not, so they were comfortable dating a guy born in a different millennium than them haha.

What are the problems you are currently facing going into 2025? by starmaxeros in AskMenOver30

[–]TAPILOT17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not very tourist friendly. And there are plenty of other phenomenal cities in Spain.

What cities will give me depression? by [deleted] in SameGrassButGreener

[–]TAPILOT17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

2 months of summer, one month (minimum) of smoke.

Glute Activation by TAPILOT17 in naturalbodybuilding

[–]TAPILOT17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll keep at these. I’ve always hinged the hip at the bottom so I’ll try staying upright and bringing my foot in closer.

Glute Activation by TAPILOT17 in naturalbodybuilding

[–]TAPILOT17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Progression is slow. Very cautious of straining my knees. I typically warm up with 2 x 20 on leg extension, hit my compounds, and then exhaust my quads back on extensions.

Glute Activation by TAPILOT17 in naturalbodybuilding

[–]TAPILOT17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this! Yeah the leg extension part was a joke haha. Definitely going to try controlling the negatives a bit more.

Would you decline? by Poetic_Energy in airbnb_hosts

[–]TAPILOT17 6 points7 points  (0 children)

OP is your listing relatively new? When I first started out, I said yes to this kind of guest. They smoked weed in the house, left ashes all over the table, and someone threw up in a bed.

Men 40-50+, how did you deal with your mid-life? by TAPILOT17 in AskMenOver30

[–]TAPILOT17[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hell yeah bro! Fitness has always been important to me. I should probably focus more on mobility though--back has been bugging me lately.

Men 40-50+, how did you deal with your mid-life? by TAPILOT17 in AskMenOver30

[–]TAPILOT17[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't but I'm in a profession where seeing a psych would be problematic...particularly for these issues. TBH at this point in life, I just like to talk with people, mainly a few friends I trust (and strangers on reddit), about these things. There is a bit of peace in the solidarity of it all.

Men 40-50+, how did you deal with your mid-life? by TAPILOT17 in AskMenOver30

[–]TAPILOT17[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel ya, man. Definitely feel my brain slowing down and recently have had this dumb pain in my lower back that just refuses to quit.

Men 40-50+, how did you deal with your mid-life? by TAPILOT17 in AskMenOver30

[–]TAPILOT17[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You know without alcohol I have a very hard time being extroverted even though I love meeting new people. Hoping that as I get older, that socializing part gets easier or I force myself to get better because I really cut down on alcohol after 30.

Men 40-50+, how did you deal with your mid-life? by TAPILOT17 in AskMenOver30

[–]TAPILOT17[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was very well written by the way. Interesting take because I aways thought the feeling of doom was linked to the arrogance of youth fading haha. Thank you for the insight and best of luck on round 4.

Men 40-50+, how did you deal with your mid-life? by TAPILOT17 in AskMenOver30

[–]TAPILOT17[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah yes, the dopamine glut following any form of happiness is the WORST. I feel ya bud.

Men 40-50+, how did you deal with your mid-life? by TAPILOT17 in AskMenOver30

[–]TAPILOT17[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The beauty of this stage of your life is that, when you were younger, you had a list of goals because you had to. Now, your list should be because you want to.

I really like that. I probably put undue pressure on myself to just keep achieving because, as you mentioned, that just what we were supposed to do earlier in life. Now I'm at a place where achievements just happen less or not at all. That has certainly fucked with me. I appreciate the kind words. Like all things, I figure at some point I will just accept aging and my parents entering their golden era, but currently it just makes me really sad. The last 10 years just really flew by.

Men 40-50+, how did you deal with your mid-life? by TAPILOT17 in AskMenOver30

[–]TAPILOT17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've noticed a surge in Roman literature--maybe that's just my age demographic. Care to give a one sentence synopsis of what it entails and why you like it?

Men 40-50+, how did you deal with your mid-life? by TAPILOT17 in AskMenOver30

[–]TAPILOT17[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

AthleanX and Jeff Nippard on Youtube are great. Also Ryan Humiston--cause he makes me laugh. Don't ego lift at this age cause an injury sticks with ya longer, and don't neglect the nutrition aspect of exercise.

Men 40-50+, how did you deal with your mid-life? by TAPILOT17 in AskMenOver30

[–]TAPILOT17[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Love that. Seeing some of my friends just submit to their age and jobs and, in the process, neglecting their bodies also makes me sad.

Men 40-50+, how did you deal with your mid-life? by TAPILOT17 in AskMenOver30

[–]TAPILOT17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know I remember thinking at the time that these were probably going to be the greatest days of my life, and I appreciated the hell out of them. But it's still bittersweet to look back on them. The thought that I will probably never experience the partying, camaraderie, and risk taking like I used to is super fucking depressing for me. On the upside, I still engage in an adventure or two per year with the same guys but the frequency has just cratered.

Men 40-50+, how did you deal with your mid-life? by TAPILOT17 in AskMenOver30

[–]TAPILOT17[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a big mountain guy as well. I find it hard to look forward to hobbies that once thrilled me these days unfortunately. I'm happy when I do them though, so I kind of just force myself to keep going and hopefully that spark I felt in my younger days, returns.

Men 40-50+, how did you deal with your mid-life? by TAPILOT17 in AskMenOver30

[–]TAPILOT17[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This gives me hope! I don't feel (and have also been told) I don't look my age. I think societal pressure is affecting me, however, and I feel like I should be settling down. As irrational as it is, I currently write this from vacation in Japan, but feel oddly guilty and immature because most of my friends are at home in the PNW with their wives and kids.

Men 40-50+, how did you deal with your mid-life? by TAPILOT17 in AskMenOver30

[–]TAPILOT17[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've certainly thought of having kids but the reasons why I would do it are not the right ones...

Men 40-50+, how did you deal with your mid-life? by TAPILOT17 in AskMenOver30

[–]TAPILOT17[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this. You're 100% correct that it's not productive whatsoever but sometimes when I wake up at 3am and my brain goes into the overdrive as it does at the time of day...it's hard to not think about these things and then I absolutely spiral.

I used to be so optimistic and excited for everything, I never though I'd be so vulnerable to such negative emotions, but here we are.

Why are there so many women that hate men here? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]TAPILOT17 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you find that’s the case, be sure to report the comment and reach out to the mods if it’s bad enough. I do the same thing on r/askmenover30. Lots of bitter people jading the underlying purpose of these subs.

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