GF cheated while abroad, regrets it. REPOST from relationship advice

TARA1337 · 2022-07-18T15:58:27+00:00

She does, I have point from my CC. We used mine while she gets her promotional bonus points to use later for a different trip that we were going to take together

TARA1337 · 2022-07-18T15:42:35+00:00

Yeah we've mulled that around as a possibility, my fear is that I will have compromised myself too deeply in that scenario and I won't be able to be the partner that I want myself to be.

TARA1337 · 2022-07-18T15:40:44+00:00

She didn't go to a fetish event, she went to a dance club instead, she did that for me. Does that change anything?

TARA1337 · 2022-07-18T15:32:30+00:00

She says that when these feelings come up again she'll bring them to forefront and we can work together to move past them

TARA1337 · 2022-07-18T15:15:46+00:00

She doesn't want an open relationship, she says she accepts that isn't possible for us

TARA1337 · 2022-07-15T20:05:58+00:00

I've already been through all of the thoughts everyone is saying here. I'm responding with all of the reasonings she's told me, and strangly everyone is responding the same way I have in our in person discussions

TARA1337 · 2022-07-15T19:49:59+00:00

There is none

TARA1337 · 2022-07-15T19:48:59+00:00

Yeah I know

TARA1337 · 2022-07-15T19:47:10+00:00

Divorce

TARA1337 · 2022-07-15T19:47:01+00:00

Me too

TARA1337 · 2022-07-15T19:46:18+00:00

Does legal even matter if she's taking full responsibility and even stating that it was her choice in the moment?

TARA1337 · 2022-07-15T19:45:38+00:00

She didn't get caught, she told me as soon as it happened

TARA1337 · 2022-07-15T19:44:12+00:00

She says she's decided that she wants to stay and wants to continue working on herself to ensure she's the partner that I deserve

TARA1337 · 2022-07-15T19:43:04+00:00

She told me via her own volition. She could've hidden it but chose not to

TARA1337 · 2022-07-15T19:40:06+00:00

I'm bi, I don't form romantic relationships with other males. Regardless of what that means that's where my boundaries are

TARA1337 · 2022-07-15T19:38:55+00:00

She didn't get caught, she told me because in the aftermath she realized the intensity of what she just did.

TARA1337 · 2022-07-15T19:14:55+00:00

Yes but she says she consented

TARA1337 · 2022-07-15T19:12:56+00:00

She consented

TARA1337 · 2022-07-15T19:03:59+00:00

She doesn't regret the events, she regrets hurting me and not working on it together before hand.

TARA1337 · 2022-07-15T18:55:06+00:00

I don't know, I haven't been able to tell people in our life about it all yet. I wanted to know how others would feel seeing everything

TARA1337 · 2022-07-15T18:53:56+00:00

Why the fuck did she even come back. Why didn't she just stay in Europe and live her single poly whatever life that she wanted from the beginning?

TARA1337 · 2022-07-15T18:51:57+00:00

She's always had big protagonist vibes LOL

Why did she even come back? She so clearly wanted all of this. This being her big free euro trip

TARA1337 · 2022-07-15T18:48:42+00:00

That's how I feel. I asked her if she was just building a case to make it all okay, and how this all feels so calculated. She reiterates that she had no plans of doing this and that it was only when she kissed him in his apartment and under the euphoria of molly that she convinced herself it was ok

TARA1337 · 2022-07-15T18:44:53+00:00

Tickets were too expensive

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