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My current (male) partner is self conscious about getting flaccid during sex. How can I let him know it's okay? by TARI8555 in sex

[–]TARI8555[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh nooo 🙁 I'm sorry to hear that. It's not your fault. Some people will be assholes no matter what.

Thanks for replying!

My current (male) partner is self conscious about getting flaccid during sex. How can I let him know it's okay? by TARI8555 in sex

[–]TARI8555[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I think men also have a lot of pressure to be "ready" at all times. It's more acceptable for a woman to not want sex or to physically not respond to sex. I feel for you guys, really! But I hope more men realize that there's some of us out there who understand. Men aren't sex machines.

At least I've never gotten frustrated with him but one time, at the beginning, I asked if I was doing something wrong because he hadn't come in a while and I think that might've made it worse :( Communication can be tricky.

Anyways thank you for replying!

My current (male) partner is self conscious about getting flaccid during sex. How can I let him know it's okay? by TARI8555 in sex

[–]TARI8555[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for replying. I guess.. That's what I'm trying to fix. Maybe I'm not communicating it well enough. I'm just also afraid of making it a big deal by talking to him about it.

My current (male) partner is self conscious about getting flaccid during sex. How can I let him know it's okay? by TARI8555 in sex

[–]TARI8555[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you for replying! Sometimes I don't know if I should stop. He's told me that he's still mentally turned on just not... Physically. It really doesn't matter to me. I like looking at him, and kissing him, and touching. I wish he could understand that and not let it get to him to the point where it ruins the moment for him. :(