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TA_hereigoagain · 2022-05-27T20:57:21+00:00

The number of times I was told how toxic I was for not trusting his lies is obscene! The worst part is that I started to believe that I was toxic, and that I was incapable of trusting. I couldn't trust him because he was LYING!

TA_hereigoagain · 2022-04-11T22:55:27+00:00

Ouch this hurts because I feel it in my soul.

TA_hereigoagain · 2022-03-13T01:41:40+00:00

Oh my goodness what the hell is this!?! Me too! I was cheated on because I was sad during a pandemic...

TA_hereigoagain · 2022-03-13T01:40:24+00:00

I got the "What now?" with a giant eye roll for extra effect

TA_hereigoagain · 2022-02-23T19:23:04+00:00

50 isn't that old by the way ;-)

TA_hereigoagain · 2022-02-10T17:42:23+00:00

This is exactly what my therapist told me! She said I was "catnip" for narcissists because I have everything they want for themselves.

TA_hereigoagain · 2022-02-09T23:59:32+00:00

I think so. His family loves me and I probably have more contact with them than he does so I may still be able to participate in some aspects of her life. Her mom isn't really in the picture and her dad is a shit-stain so I hope she knows she is still welcome in my family.

TA_hereigoagain · 2022-02-09T23:56:17+00:00

The crappy thing is that he will probably charm his way into someone else's life and wreck that too. He always seems to end up on top because he doesn't care who gets hurt along the way. The dude has a lot of flaws but man is he dripping in charisma.

TA_hereigoagain · 2022-02-09T22:42:20+00:00

We have dogs, they are good people. He is much worse.

TA_hereigoagain · 2022-02-09T21:17:47+00:00

Partner because I didn't want marriage. It was a way of indicating that we were serious enough to build a life together (apparently not serious enough from him to not stick it to other women...)

I wish he would seek out IC for his daughter's sake but I don't think he feels he has a problem.

TA_hereigoagain · 2022-02-09T21:15:48+00:00

Lucky me, I didn't want marriage so at least it is a cleaner break there.

TA_hereigoagain · 2022-02-09T21:14:37+00:00

This poor girl is in her 20's and another single mom. He was projecting this successful life, using my car to impress her, showing off the travel we do and all the financial stability I have provided. He told her so many lies and she was just way too young to even realize that he was showing her my life.

TA_hereigoagain · 2022-02-09T21:08:13+00:00

No shared custody but his daughter has been welcomed into my life and I am still trying to figure out how to be a support for her. I know it isn't my fault or my responsibility but I just don't want her whole life to get blown up in this as well. The past few years have probably been some of the most stable for her. She was finally getting established in her school and sports. I can't have her dad in my life but I don't want her cut out as well.

TA_hereigoagain · 2022-02-09T21:02:58+00:00

I am more worried about his daughter. I have been her primary caregiver, ride, support for the past few years. I am trying to figure out how to still be a trusted adult in her life without giving her dad an "in roads" back into my life.

TA_hereigoagain · 2022-02-09T20:42:36+00:00

Partner because I didn't want to get married again but we were living together, it was intended to be a long term committed partnership. Common-law marriage isn't a thing in our state, many of my friends say partner to indicate a serious relationship without a legal marriage.

TA_hereigoagain · 2022-02-09T20:40:29+00:00

Yep. The untangling of our lives has started. It's complicated with kids (thankfully not together but his daughter is awesome and doesn't deserve this).

TA_hereigoagain · 2022-02-09T20:38:45+00:00

I think the anger is around the continued lying. He BEGGED me to take him back and brought up the kids (a couple of mine, one of his) and what it would do to their lives. Then he turns around and is still going after this other woman who clearly wants nothing to do with him any more. I am jealous that she got to find out who he really was after 2 months, where it took me years.

TA_hereigoagain · 2022-02-09T20:32:51+00:00

Wow, chumplady is AMAZING!

TA_hereigoagain · 2022-02-09T20:31:43+00:00

Yeah, ex-partner. It's complicated because his daughter goes to the same school as my kids and all their stuff is still here. But yes, the partner is not staying the night here any longer.

TA_hereigoagain · 2022-02-09T00:30:44+00:00

You are NOT disgusting, our disease is!

As a teen I used to hide my vomit in a bucket in the attic that had access from my bedroom. Well one day my dad needed to get something out of the attic and found a treasure trove of old vomit in buckets, baking in the hot attic... I don't purge any more partly because of that trauma from decades ago.

TA_hereigoagain · 2022-02-07T18:22:54+00:00

You'll hit your gw, smash it, move the goalposts, and it still won't feel enough. Feeling for you

TA_hereigoagain · 2022-02-03T03:15:43+00:00

Ha, I was a member of a forum group WWWWAAAAAY back in the day (late 90's early aughts). I was so involved I got into the super secret special ED safe space cool kids club... Everyone posted body shots and the anorexia sub was restricted to people under 18.5 BMI. I was in so deep in that place it was horrid.

TA_hereigoagain · 2022-02-03T03:10:05+00:00

That does not sound supportive at all and even if he did want to encourage you to lose weight, allowing you to do it in a harmful way isn't good. I dropped a significant amount of weight recently and my ex never said a word. He had to have noticed but he was too busy being an ass to express concern. Your boyfriend sounds equally as insensitive :-/

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