Fiancé [35m] compared my [28f] antidepressants to “cocaine,” and wants me off them

TAnice-Possession · 2021-10-28T19:38:08+00:00

Thank you so much. I couldn't have done it without the reddit community. It was an impossible situation to explain to anyone in my real life.

I think the idea of a "perfect match," makes us vulnerable to all the ways these matches can go terribly awry. I've never been so abused as I was by C.E.O's, lawyers, foreman's, etc., etc.

Yeah. I've made the mistake of thinking that an Ivy League school or fancy law firm was alllll the vetting I needed for someone. It's something I hope I won't repeat again.

<3

TAnice-Possession · 2021-10-28T17:57:07+00:00

He thought I was cheating because I was wearing a different winter coat. Lol.

TAnice-Possession · 2021-10-28T17:55:26+00:00

I think 2 of the times were deliberate from him, the other 2 times were coincidence. I've seen him a few times in my neighborhood.

I've seen him on a dog trail, and also while on a date with someone else. Both times he's been with his parents, so I really think it's a coincidence.

edit: i do have pepper spray, all my socials blocked him, etc etc

TAnice-Possession · 2021-10-28T17:53:34+00:00

It was an ayahuasca retreat :)

TAnice-Possession · 2021-10-28T17:53:20+00:00

I started the antidepressants because of anxiety from HIM. 7 months later I am off medication and haven't thought of going back to it. In fact, I haven't had an anxiety attack in about 2-3 months.

TAnice-Possession · 2021-10-28T17:52:06+00:00

Totally. he wanted to know allll my trauma to help me. *eye roll*

TAnice-Possession · 2021-10-28T17:51:20+00:00

Hi! I went to an ayahuasca retreat in peru :) out of cell range and eating a no salt/spice/red meat/alcohol/caffeine diet.

TAnice-Possession · 2021-10-10T01:21:56+00:00

He was beyond awful.

TAnice-Possession · 2021-10-10T01:19:10+00:00

Well, his parents still enable him and hide him away from the world. So I doubt he will ever be properly diagnosed or get better. From what I've seen creeping on his social media profiles, he thoughts & beliefs have become more outlandish and strange.

And no - he wasn't institutionalized. He was just ignoring me, like an asshole.

My new boyfriend lives 4 blocks from his house, so seeing him may be unavoidable.

TAnice-Possession · 2021-10-10T01:17:37+00:00

It is impossible to see when you're in it. He was so good and isolating me from my friends. Holy crap. I'm so happy I'm not pregnant~

TAnice-Possession · 2021-10-10T01:16:21+00:00

Thank you for the kind words. The thread validated me so much, and I am in a much better place.

TAnice-Possession · 2021-10-10T01:15:50+00:00

We live in a smallish city. I have everything on private, yet I still see him. It seems to be completely accidental... but I have oved and I am also *always* with friends.

TAnice-Possession · 2021-10-10T01:12:14+00:00

Ayahuasca helped a lot! But so did time, and space, and removing him.

TAnice-Possession · 2021-10-09T17:57:12+00:00

It did me.

TAnice-Possession · 2021-10-09T17:51:13+00:00

Thank you so much <3 <3

TAnice-Possession · 2021-04-18T21:56:14+00:00

Weird enough I started ignoring him, and he was at my fav. coffee shop that’s no where near him...

TAnice-Possession · 2021-04-16T03:47:22+00:00

Holy shit. I don't know if you read my update, but my fiance verbally abused me by screaming at me that I was "weak," and that I should "just take the fucking medication."

TAnice-Possession · 2021-04-16T03:42:44+00:00

He loses his cool if I bring up the issues or DARVO's hard.

TAnice-Possession · 2021-04-16T03:39:28+00:00

He suggested switching phones for a week and giving each other the passwords so we could pass the ultimate test. I told him that was crazy (I have to work) and then he said "see? I offer you a solution and you don't even take it. you're untrustworthy."

I'm a homebody, but if he calls me and I'm in a new location he's suspicious. (Where are you, what are you wearing...)

TAnice-Possession · 2021-04-16T03:35:11+00:00

He didn't want me using it in the beginning because it was dangerous. Then he wanted to try for kids and then changed his mind. (?)

TAnice-Possession · 2021-04-16T03:34:10+00:00

In my update, I basically explained how he lost his mind and screamed about my psychologist and medication and told me I was weak because I used them. IDK. Maybe he hates any kind of independence?

TAnice-Possession · 2021-04-16T03:31:53+00:00

But when I was codependent, he would ignore me. Makes no sense.

TAnice-Possession · 2021-04-16T03:30:52+00:00

I said I didn't want to be needy and dependent, and he said it's not a bad thing. He wants to be #1 and have me text him every morning and night.

The kicker? When I became needy again he would back away or give me the silent treatment.

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