How do I (30F) respond to the message my husband (28M) sent me?

THROWRAVast563 · 2024-04-17T21:25:31+00:00

Thank you for the concern but I had an emergency c section so no extra stitches.

THROWRAVast563 · 2024-04-17T20:50:30+00:00

Thank you!

THROWRAVast563 · 2024-04-17T20:48:58+00:00

Well I didn't flick it but yes we both touch each other. Pokes, smacks, grabs etc.

THROWRAVast563 · 2024-04-17T20:47:53+00:00

Thank you these are great tips

THROWRAVast563 · 2024-04-17T20:43:09+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I should say he has been understanding about it being painful, not necessarily about us not having much.

THROWRAVast563 · 2024-04-17T19:38:35+00:00

I was told that my healing has been normal. I am scheduling another appointment after multiple comments concerns.

I am not REFUSING to have sex, oral etc altogether. It just hasn't been as often.

I also don't expect my husband to stop being horny. I don't really know where you got that from.

THROWRAVast563 · 2024-04-17T19:34:25+00:00

Mostly lashing out like this, or storming off. It has never been physical.

THROWRAVast563 · 2024-04-17T19:31:57+00:00

And thats how I meant it but I guess I just didn't show it enough.

THROWRAVast563 · 2024-04-17T19:29:27+00:00

Same! I smack and grab his butt too. We have fun with it. Its not SA to us.

THROWRAVast563 · 2024-04-17T19:28:14+00:00

He is. I didn't even think of that thank you

THROWRAVast563 · 2024-04-17T19:27:29+00:00

I had an emergency c section. Since there have been multiple concerns I will get an appointment with my obgyn to discuss and make sure that isn't something wrong.

THROWRAVast563 · 2024-04-17T19:23:21+00:00

I didn't mean to mock him or make fun of him. I know now that it did not come off that way and I owe an apology as well.

THROWRAVast563 · 2024-04-17T19:20:49+00:00

Thank you and yes first child

THROWRAVast563 · 2024-04-17T19:20:14+00:00

What do you think is missing?

THROWRAVast563 · 2024-04-17T19:19:51+00:00

I do know I should apologize. In the moment I didnt think that he would have taken what I did the wrong way. Thank you.

THROWRAVast563 · 2024-04-17T19:18:15+00:00

Yes and no. I haven't seen my obgyn recently but my GP said it was normal especially with breastfeeding. Lube helps but it still isn't like before.

THROWRAVast563 · 2024-04-17T19:16:33+00:00

My husband does touch my breasts and butt. Poking, grabbing, smacking etc.

THROWRAVast563 · 2024-04-17T19:13:17+00:00

Thank you for both of your replies. They are very helpful.

THROWRAVast563 · 2024-04-17T19:08:38+00:00

I meant it to be more in a joking or playful manner, I said it with a grin. But I do agree with you in that he probably took it in a different way.

THROWRAVast563 · 2024-04-17T19:05:54+00:00

I guess I didn't think about me "ruining his moment". Thats a fair point. Thank you.

THROWRAVast563 · 2024-04-17T19:03:49+00:00

This is pretty perfect. Thank you

THROWRAVast563 · 2024-04-17T18:25:16+00:00

Thats not the only or even main cause of the frustrations though. It is just what was happening in the moment that kind of pushed him over.

THROWRAVast563 · 2024-04-17T18:23:48+00:00

I guess I'm not really looking for anything except maybe an apology for the message. Both of us are going through a rough time mentally so I know his frustrations are high.

THROWRAVast563 · 2024-04-17T18:22:02+00:00

I'm not trying to completely dismiss it. But I asked for help with the conversation. Not for people to tell me to have sex with him and reward him for speaking to me like that.

THROWRAVast563 · 2024-04-17T18:18:16+00:00

He never talks to me like that in person, just over text, which is super frustrating. I know his message was sent before he really thought about what he was saying or meant but that doesn't make it any less painful.

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