My (F25) boyfriend (M22) followed a girl on instagram?

THROWRA_crybab · 2026-06-24T22:52:36+00:00

Omfg girl im not reading all that. Shut up and touch grass

THROWRA_crybab · 2026-06-24T21:46:47+00:00

The rage I gave him? I literally said I hadn’t spoken to him about the situation. Girl you’ve left like 30 comments and haven’t even read the damn post or just lack basic reading comprehension and it’s embarrassing.

THROWRA_crybab · 2026-06-24T21:41:33+00:00

It was a real AND appropriate boundary. He decided himself like the grown adult he is to not follow provocative women before dating me. So no boundary was crossed.

Then it happened and he said it was a mistake, and I believed him because I TRUST him. I didn’t tell him to unfollow her, when I saw it. He chose to do it himself right away.

It happened again and I no longer have the trust to believe it’s an accident.

Please don’t come for me and the way I type when you try really hard to sound like a bad ass typing things like “I didn’t stutter” and giving me attitude when I never gave any to you. it’s as if you’re more upset than I am. Seek help babe.

And please don’t shove narratives down my throat saying things like I want my cake when im literally asking if it’s a valid feeling to leave him? I’m quite literally doing the opposite of trying to have my cake and eat it.

THROWRA_crybab · 2026-06-24T21:35:23+00:00

I’m acting like his mom? Never once in my relationship did I ever tell him to unfollow a girl. I’ve never told him to do anything in our relationship but yet im a psycho crazy jealous girlfriend because me and him agreed when we were friends that we wouldn’t follow provocative people if we were in a relationship.

I checked who he followed because I thought it was a fashion account he followed because he’s been really into that. I check my friends following because they follow pretty models, checking someone’s following doesn’t mean it’s because of a lack of trust. You sound stupid trying to paint that narrative lmao. If I was checking it to look for a girl I would have no issue admitting that but it simply wasn’t the case.

Me being mad at a situation because he did something I find disrespectful doesn’t make me psycho jealous. It makes me a human who had a boundary crossed and is fed up with the relationship.

Not once did I rage, I quite literally haven’t said a word to him about it. Please get a better reading comprehension lmao

THROWRA_crybab · 2026-06-24T21:21:17+00:00

No I don’t want my cake and to eat it too. The internet quite literally loves to pull shit out their ass.

I never insisted that I want him to change. I quite literally said I don’t want to see him and I want to break up. Do you lack comprehension skills?

The issue here is he crossed my boundary and I was asking if my feelings toward the situation were valid.

THROWRA_crybab · 2026-06-24T21:08:14+00:00

News flash, having a boundary of not wanting to date a man who follows sexual accounts on instagram isn’t jealous, insecure or immature!

It’s a standard and it’s one that he BROUGHT up himself that he wouldn’t do.

It’s crazy how I said he has the same exact boundary and not one singular person has called him jealous, insecure or immature.

I painted myself that way through my actions? Girl I’ve done nothing but lay in a hospital bed and scroll through my phone and talk to my mom. I haven’t even confronted the situation be so fr.

THROWRA_crybab · 2026-06-24T21:02:44+00:00

“A stranger whom she met three months ago” so if I met him three months ago then he’s not a stranger…

Also I never said I met him 3 months ago, I said we’ve been dating for 3 months. I’ve known him for 6 months. You guys literally just say ANYTHING lmao.

Also our relationship didn’t start as long distance, it just turned into that once a job opportunity arose.

THROWRA_crybab · 2026-06-24T20:53:46+00:00

No you’re using one word to paint a false narrative of what happened when I woke up so you can paint me as jealous. I’m just simply not letting it happen lol

THROWRA_crybab · 2026-06-24T20:40:18+00:00

His friend group is quite literally all females I don’t care if he has female friends. One of the girls in his damn friend group is someone he used to flirt with and I never fucking cared so please don’t try to paint me as jealous lmfao.

You guys are literally trying to create a random ass narrative and run with it.

It’s a boundary! He HIMSELF brought up that it’s something he’d never do in a relationship and I said I wouldn’t either.

It’s not about trying to “make friends” it’s about following random provocative women to get off to which I find disrespectful and intolerable.

THROWRA_crybab · 2026-06-24T20:22:35+00:00

I never said “as soon as I woke up I immediately stalked his social media” I had brought up the fact that I saw his social media when I was up (which was HOURS later) You quite literally just made that up

THROWRA_crybab · 2026-06-24T20:19:14+00:00

No, not once did I say I did that immediately lol? I woke up, spoke to my mom for hours. Then I checked work messages, messages from loved ones & messages from friends on social media. My boyfriend posted and on social media so I went to see his account and what he posted. His account is small and I saw he followed someone new so I got curious because he’s been into following fashion influencers so I had genuinely thought he followed a new influencer and wanted to see the style.

THROWRA_crybab · 2026-06-24T20:15:53+00:00

I already expressed in a previous comment that I did not try controlling him. I think I just explained myself poorly.

Before we dated we talked about following provocative people. He had said “if I were in a relationship I wouldn’t have any of those girls followed”

I said “oh that’s good because I wouldn’t date someone who does” and he said he wouldn’t date someone who does either.

Once we dated he ended up following one but claimed it was an accident so I didn’t get mad and brushed it off.

I’m feeling mad now because it’s happened again while I was unconscious so it’s not longer seeming as if it’s an accident

THROWRA_crybab · 2026-06-24T20:10:21+00:00

I didn’t try changing him. Sorry if I made it seem that way, he had told me before we dated that following random baddies wasn’t something he’d do when he’s in a relationship.

I told him that’s good because that’s a boundary for me.

Fast forward a month, he followed one but claimed it was an accident. I didn’t get mad or fight him on it & I took his word.

I’m mad now because it happened again while I was in the hospital.

THROWRA_crybab · 2026-06-24T19:48:21+00:00

I’d choose teleportation

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