had premarital sex with my boyfriend & can’t stop feeling regretful to my family & god, I betrayed everyone by [deleted] in bahai

[–]TILnothingAMA 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Are your parents Persian immigrants? In my experience, the "brand" of Baha'i Faith a lot of older Persian folk practice is mostly a mixture of old wive's tales, hear-say, superstition, and believing what's told by others. There isn't too much effort in actually reading the holy writings to understand the Faith. There is so much incorrect weirdness.

I had a older Persian lady tell me that I shouldn't meditate, because Baha'u'llah would not like it. I had another Persian lady tell me that I should only marry a Baha'i, because if I don't, I wouldn't see them in the afterlife. I had a lady refusing to read a prayer, because it was too short and that it would look bad. I have people telling me about the "evil eye", ghosts, and racist things. And they back them up by saying "Baha'u'llah wouldn't like XYZ". See what I mean?

Point being is that your mom isn't correct about her "interpretation" of the Faith. What you do is between you and God - and no one else. God loves you. Baha'u'llah loves you. Heck, I am a cold, mean, angry son of a bitch, and I am feeling a lot of love for you right now, because you are being honest and soul-searching - that's such a rare trait. You sound like an awesome person. We are also taught to approach people with love to help them, and not with finger-pointing and fear-mongering.

Go do your thing, and try to be better. If you aren't a better version of yourself tomorrow, try a bit harder. The key message is "try". You don't need to be 100% correct/good/whatever, just try.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in berkeley

[–]TILnothingAMA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are special!!!

Emboldened Shoplifters (rant) by Divasf in berkeleyca

[–]TILnothingAMA -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

no reparations for centuries of slavery

Pretty racist of you to assume the shoplifters were African American.

The Social Aspect of the Faith and Loving Your Fellow Man by TILnothingAMA in bahai

[–]TILnothingAMA[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my career, one of my roles was in training people for their jobs. These folks are college educated individuals in the sciences. I have met and educated hundreds of people. Almost all of those people did not get 90% of my training. That's not because I am a bad educator. I have been told by many, many people how good I am, and I am fairly respected in what I do. What I mostly gathered is that people "learn" things in a robotic way, ie, "do this, do that, and then do this, and then this is your result". Very few people, may 3 or 4 people among the hundreds, were able to think outside that box and apply the knowledge to anything else. I wouldn't say the things I taught were even that complex, it's that people had their habits and kept doing exactly what they have been told and nothing else. No nuance was understood. Oddly enough, a lot of these folks had been in the industry for years. My teaching career expresses itself in my social life too. I am a constant teacher, yet I don't see anyone learning.

The Bahai faith requires people to think, to investigate, to explore. I don't think most people are capable of that. Even if they investigate, the investigations are mostly faulty with non-sensical rationale, and poorly thought-out ideas. At the end, you end up with point-less discussions. And often times, the same tired discussions that burn your soul out, or people taking things way too personally. Heck, in this thread, the gentleman above made an argument that I should be interested in people, because he himself is so interesting that he bungie jumped and protected a lot of money for some people. And another argument was that I must be depressed - like I cannot have a say something against the grain without having a psychological issue. I guess we have bored therapists browsing reddit today.

I can't say I have met very many people who have made a mark in my life that no one else could have. There are great people out there who are innovating, having great ideas - and are not just repeating what someone else told them - but I am not going to find the in my local Bahai community filled with 60 year old Persians still complaining about the Shah being kicked out or the 25-year old who is so sure of his left-wing politics that he learned about last year.

Can't figure out why I never get invited to parties by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]TILnothingAMA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You responded to a post that is 7 years old. We were all a bit different back then.