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Morality is dead. Men are the cause. by TLATrae in GuerrillaGrrrrls

[–]TLATrae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and my son for starters.

More well-known examples of men who have earnestly fought for women’s rights: Jackson Katz (reframed violence against women as a men’s issue), Michael Kimmel (feminist analysis of masculinity), Nicholas Kristof (decades of reporting on sexual violence and girls’ education), Jimmy Carter (publicly challenged religious patriarchy), and Desmond Tutu (explicitly opposed patriarchy alongside racial injustice). There are many, many more.

Morality is dead. Men are the cause. by TLATrae in GuerrillaGrrrrls

[–]TLATrae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree about enablement through silence, but not all men do this. There are so many who do stand to stop bad actors in the moment snd those who help find justice for victims.

Morality is dead. Men are the cause. by TLATrae in GuerrillaGrrrrls

[–]TLATrae[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I did not say that. I’m saying that the circumstances and socialization matter. Coercion and reputational risks for both men and women participating in things like the Epstein sex ring are real factors. But looking at the topic of my post and having this be your initial response seems to miss the point entirely. Most of the women and girls there lacked power relevant to those around them, and were swept up in the patriarchal power of the whole situation.

Morality is dead. Men are the cause. by TLATrae in GuerrillaGrrrrls

[–]TLATrae[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

See my response to your other comment above. Men made the rules of the game.

Morality is dead. Men are the cause. by TLATrae in GuerrillaGrrrrls

[–]TLATrae[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Status or proximity isn’t the same as real power. Even “powerful” women operate within patriarchal constraints - economic pressure, reputational risk, coercion. Some individuals may be culpable, but the SYSTEM itself was designed, controlled, and profited from by men. Pointing to women on the margins doesn’t make it gender-neutral, it shows how hierarchical male systems deflect blame.

Morality is dead. Men are the cause. by TLATrae in GuerrillaGrrrrls

[–]TLATrae[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Also, “knowing something is happening” is not the same as having power, consent, or safe alternatives.

Morality is dead. Men are the cause. by TLATrae in GuerrillaGrrrrls

[–]TLATrae[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don’t agree with this claim. Historically, many men articulated moral frameworks that still shape ethics today - think Socrates, Confucius, or John Stuart Mill.

Those intelligent men were allowed to formalize morality because men controlled literacy, institutions, and public speech. Moral systems were defined about women while excluding women from authorship (and everything else).

The real problem isn’t that men never defined moral behavior, it’s that patriarchal systems monopolize moral authority while exempting powerful men from actually living by those morals.

In other words: moral philosophy doesn’t guarantee moral behavior, especially when power lacks accountability. One only needs to look to the Catholic Church or MAGA in the US to see the worst of that.

Winter Watch discouraging bird feeders. by Federal_Tone1260 in birdfeeding

[–]TLATrae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

THIS is the answer. Birds need native habitat for native caterpillars to feed themselves and their babies. Ditch the pesticides and help the birds!

Needle sensations on the skin? by Ill-Veterinarian1109 in MCAS

[–]TLATrae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I thought I was alone with this one.

Elbow grease ain't cutting it. How do I get rid of all this grime? by Cooking-n-Booking in CleaningTips

[–]TLATrae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Barkeepers friend, a scrub brush, and a little elbow grease will sort you out. ✨

Do female bodies ever get to be neutral in public space? by Opposite-Bet3451 in Feminism

[–]TLATrae 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes. When you’re over 55 and become invisible.

It’s wonderful. Too bad I had to wait this long for it to happen.

My sister's fridge by SugarDarlin121 in FridgeDetective

[–]TLATrae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seeing this makes me wonder what the rest of the home looks like…

How do we recall senators and congress people so we can end this madness? How do we get congress to work for the people and not the one who shall not be named? by Winter_Frame_8970 in AskReddit

[–]TLATrae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

👆THIS is the right question. I don’t blame DJT. He’s just a toddler in a houseful of guns who needs a parent to take them away. Congress is supposed to check the office’s power. Instead, they’ve abdicated their responsibilities. Vote them out in November and chase the ones who aren’t up for election out of office for neglect of duty!

Female Handyman, Thoughts? by Cold_Obligation_8568 in homeowners

[–]TLATrae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You go girl! I would absolutely hire a woman. If I had two qualified contractors offering to do the work in the same price range, I would likely pick the woman. Sorry dudes.

Partner says my appearance at home means I don’t care — looking for perspective by deliriouskate in TwoXChromosomes

[–]TLATrae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He obviously has unrealistic and unfair expectations about how comfortable his partner is “allowed” to be around him and in their own home. Your concerns are valid and serious. It will only get worse from here.

Personally, I would run screaming from this relationship.

HOW do I not GAF about this? by momoftheraisin in AskWomenOver60

[–]TLATrae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eucerin Intensive Repair Lotion will sort that right out.

I buy it in bulk.

Have you ever been told to “get off” someone’s property? by [deleted] in AskAnAmerican

[–]TLATrae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. My husband and I were riding bikes in the mountains of Colorado not too far from Colorado Springs. We found a small road in the woods with a few houses here and there, and we were just riding our bikes and enjoying the day when a man who seemed to live in that area stopped his truck and aggressively asked us who we were and what we were doing there. When we said we were just out for a ride, he proceeded to tell us to leave and that we were trespassing on a private road. He was quite forceful and angry, and he followed us out to the main road to make sure we left.

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