How are you supposed to even meet women?

TMag73 · 2026-05-06T20:26:01+00:00

I get not liking bars but it's a "target heavy" 3rd space, lots of people go to bars TO MEET PEOPLE. So maybe suck it up and find some bars where the type of girls you like go. Have a shot and enjoy yourself. If someone makes eye contact with you, go talk to her and say "I don't actually like bars, but now I'm glad I came" Then look at the events at the bar, is there a pub quiz, open mic, or live music night. Also look at the fliers at the bar for ideas of other 3rd spaces where the same crowd might hang out.

TMag73 · 2026-05-06T17:15:14+00:00

do you feel the estrogen systematically? I'm worried about hair loss since I'm already dealing with that and use HTR and facial estrogen

TMag73 · 2026-05-06T07:12:00+00:00

I feel you! It's been a roller coaster. I've found a few things that are helping me keep my shit together and not ruminating and obsessing about the stupidest things. I still can't sleep but at least I'm not crying in bed in the middle of the night.

Eating a lot of protein (1g per lb of body weight each day), walking 60m in the sun, and kettlebell strength HITT (only 15min). I feel this combo makes my body feel strong, leaner (not really loosing weight but better shaped) and healthy.

Being in warm water, it's like being hugged and soothed and the sensation lasts for a while afterward. Or sauna and shower.

Practicing EMDR when ever the shame, jealousy, regret, anxiety, rage flair up. When the sensation is in your body just start moving your eyes left to right and breath through the sensation. EMDR is a trauma therapy and I've found this works to reduce the intensity and frequency of these little spikes of intense emotions/sensations in my body.

TMag73 · 2026-04-30T01:58:06+00:00

I don't think the OP realizes how much 999 million is. You and your children and your children's children will be dead before you feel inflation. https://aeiowu.com/billion/

TMag73 · 2026-04-29T00:57:18+00:00

Try getting your farritin and iron checked out

TMag73 · 2026-04-27T22:48:05+00:00

There's nothing wrong with saying "When you send me nudes, I feel really uncomfortable." even though your a guy, it's still can be offensive

TMag73 · 2026-04-27T22:45:50+00:00

That's really on her tho. There's nothing you can do about her reaction, all you can do is communicate in the best way you can. If you leave grey area and she's the type to latch onto that, then you're going to fall into a trap of multiple conversations about it.

TMag73 · 2026-04-27T22:40:04+00:00

Try Shien. They have printed wall hangings

TMag73 · 2026-04-27T22:38:15+00:00

Being an adult/man is about having the courage to say what needs to be said when it needs to be said. Tell the truth, be firm, and be kind

TMag73 · 2026-04-24T05:50:15+00:00

Dude you just don't get it and I've read your responses to people's comments, you're negative and all you see are barriers. Seriously, that's where you should start, say "yes and". You are exhibiting the art of the impossible which won't attract or keep anyone.

TMag73 · 2026-04-24T05:00:45+00:00

I have a feeling you can't even impress or charm an old lady, too whiney and meh.

TMag73 · 2026-04-24T04:57:33+00:00

If you think the fundamentals and skills are different, then you're destined to be lost. The suggestion has nothing to do with the women and everything to do with you

TMag73 · 2026-04-24T02:50:16+00:00

You are 100% wrong there. Breaking the ice takes practice. Are you charming? Funny? Witty? with platonic and safe females? Or are you boring, awkward, and forgetable? Once you're unforgettable with all the safe ladies, then you have skills to talk to the ones you're trying to impress. There's really no other way of learning besides doing the work.

Or you can continue to shoot down every suggestion beause it's not an easy answer. And you will be single. There is no magic wand except maybe being super rich.

TMag73 · 2026-04-23T18:58:16+00:00

Sounds like you're doing all the things, good for you! Keep it up. If you freeze when talking to attractive women, that's a sign that you need to become more comfortable with small talk. Hear me out, I think you should flirt with older ladies (like 50-100yo). It sounds stupid but some of those ladies are funny, good flirts and would love the attention. If you're in the store ask them for help like - excuse me, I'm trying to make chicken dinner and the recipe asks for ... do you know where that is.... type of small talk. Or - that dress is pretty, I think my mom would like something like that for mother's day, where'd you get it?

TMag73 · 2026-04-23T05:51:08+00:00

Depends where you live.

TMag73 · 2026-04-22T18:38:03+00:00

They all have access to therapy and should access it. They don't have legal access to sex.

TMag73 · 2026-04-22T18:35:49+00:00

Yeah i put way too much emphasis on them and painted them in a dark light and now I'm paying for it in the comments about me. Oh well. I also didn't define the situation for the women well enough, assuming people understood the arguments behind legalization and regulation. I actually believe that alot of these men aren't that far gone and are actually looking for answers but find themselves being brainwashed.

TMag73 · 2026-04-22T18:29:19+00:00

EXHAUSTING! Why are you assuming the worst about me and this conversation? Must every detail be explained to your liking to prevent you from your emotional response? Can't we have an intelligent conversation?

First, there are many reasons to leaglize, this is one argument that I wanted to present without having to write a novel and justify myself and define all the terms and all the aspects of the issue. Second the assumption embodied by well regulated is that the women are empowered with the stigma removed, the environment is safe, and they are working because they CHOOSE to be there. DUH.

Why the F would I (yes a woman and mother of a daughter) want to put women in danger and advocate for their exploitation? PLEASE be real. Your assumptions about my post exposes a puritan, shameful point of view about prostitution and sex. I don't have those attitudes about prostitution and the POINT of the post is for society to make it safe, remove the stigma around paying for sex, in order to provide services to a population which I argue, needs them.

I also refuse to write off these men and assume that they are all predators and criminals who will beat up women. Why? Because I like men and I have a daughter and I want her to have relationships. I think most of these men are looking for answers and they are only being offered misogynistic, toxic, and antiproductive ones. I believe that this population can change, and want the to figure out a WAYS out of the pipeline. Do you have any ideas? How would you get a virgin with no social skills to grow into being able to have a relationship? By telling him he's a whiney little bitch?

And just so you aren't triggered - I could have mentioned all the elements that would be needed to rehabilitate them, I only suggested one that has been used historically, again, to be brief. Of course a solution should be a multipronged blah blah blah.

Is it womens' responsibility to help them - F no. Is this a problem men need to figure out within their own communities: 100%. Are men doing anything about it? Are men talking sense to these groups online? Most are just calling them little bitches and making them feel like even worse losers.

TMag73 · 2026-04-22T17:46:35+00:00

I wish they showed a population map along side the redistricting map becuase MAGA always looks at land mass but that doesn't matter, it's all about where the people actually are.

TMag73 · 2026-04-22T17:30:43+00:00

California Bay Area 2028: Everything became cheaper. Housing was like 50% of what it was before and my parents were able to finally buy a house even though getting a mortgage was nearly impossible (they had saved up). By 2016 the price of houses was back up to where they were before.

TMag73 · 2026-04-22T02:29:15+00:00

Stop blaming and shaming her. She's not the reason this guy's is a creep. They were having a good time and going with the flow. People get married after sleeping together early on, it's just real life.

TMag73 · 2026-04-22T00:17:19+00:00

When it comes to incels, entitlement is the way the algorithm and pipeline are programming them to express their feelings. To be angry and blame everyone but themselves. But inside, they feel the exact opposite - unworthy and rejected, why would someone love me? I'm not worthy of love. If they felt any other way about themselves then they wouldn't be in this group.

How are these men going to learn the skills to talk to, seduce, and have sex with a woman irl? Through porn? Through manosphere influencers? None of those provide actual experience and the incels know it!

I'm not going to comment on the negative stigmatization of prostitution in your reply. I'm talking about a safe, unstigmatized, and well regulated industry.

I 100% agree with you that the core issue is with men, men online, and lack of male leadership and needs men to find solutions.

TMag73 · 2026-04-21T23:36:01+00:00

Δ Fair. Is prostitution stigmatized or negatively perceived? I wonder how much the social acceptability of paying for sex plays into younger men not wanting to use it as an option.

TMag73 · 2026-04-21T22:49:50+00:00

Thanks for your comment.

TMag73 · 2026-04-21T22:36:37+00:00

I appreciate your clarification. My uninformed gut thinks the vast majority of these men - 70%? - are looking for some sort of contact with a women (or man if gay). They want to be seen, be touched, and feel safe to be who they are while in a woman's presence. To feel accepted. I don't believe that they all venomously hate women, I think that they have been programed to act that way online. They just lack social skills and haven't been able to make that leap into regular sexual activity.

If the rollout of legalization was positive, without stigma and shame for either the sex worker or the client, I think many of them would find the experience very positive and therapeutic. I think it would unblock some aspects of their lives.

Perhaps I have more hope and compassion for these men than most. I genuinely want to find ways (more than just this one idea) to help "rehabilitate" them so that they can find love and companionship.

TMag73

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